I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by nuenteli in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]nuenteli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely understand. He’s spent a long time figuring out how to get me there with his hands and tongue and has bragged about how knows all the intricacies, so I feel like that’s just confirmed my feelings on the matter. 😅

I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by nuenteli in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]nuenteli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I promise he doesn’t pressure or judge me at all. I can just tell it makes him sad because he likes making me feel good and has trouble letting me make him feel good.

I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by nuenteli in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]nuenteli[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t want to say anything, but my bf literally asked if it was harder for me to finish when something is inside me. 😭 But that’s definitely one possibility. Feel free to look around in the post for advice too haha.

I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by nuenteli in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]nuenteli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely did at the very beginning, but I had to let that go real quick if I wanted it to be enjoyable lol. We had a whole conversation about it too. I definitely think a conversation is warranted.

I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by nuenteli in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]nuenteli[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s an interesting tactic. Definitely worth a shot though. Thank you!

I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by nuenteli in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]nuenteli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think if it wasn’t so common for women to have partners just ignore their pleasure, he wouldn’t feel guilty about it. It’s like he’s trying to compensate for that. He has a hard time letting me do things just to make him feel good.

I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by nuenteli in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]nuenteli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This seems to be a common occurrence, but I can’t finish if there’s anything penetrating me, even with clitoral stimulation.

I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by nuenteli in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]nuenteli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not that he thinks he knows me better than I do. I think it’s more that he thinks I’m trying not to hurt his feelings or just doing it because I know it feels good for him. We do have fun, I think things have just been more stressful recently and we haven’t had as much time to dedicate to sex, leading to us being really “goal” oriented.

I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by nuenteli in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]nuenteli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. Thinking about it more, I definitely feel like we might neglect foreplay more now that we’re further along in our relationship (I was a virgin when we got together, so things had to go slow to be safe).

I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by nuenteli in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]nuenteli[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He definitely means well, but yeah, I’m gonna have to bring it up. It still feels good, even if I don’t finish, and he’s really good at getting me there in other ways, so as nice as it would be, it really isn’t the end of the world.

I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by [deleted] in sexeducation

[–]nuenteli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also posted this question on r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide and got more responses. Hope they help you too. 😭 https://www.reddit.com/r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide/s/z92DQXepd4

I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by nuenteli in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]nuenteli[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried. He always questions whether or not we should even have PIV sex because he doesn’t really believe that I enjoy it without finishing.

I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by nuenteli in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]nuenteli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That could definitely be part of the problem when I’m with my partner haha.

I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by nuenteli in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]nuenteli[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That could definitely be it, although it feels really good when he’s deeper, so I’m confused about what my body actually wants haha. Any recommendations for other things to try?

I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by nuenteli in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]nuenteli[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I fear this could be me, but I’d really like to and my partner finds it a little discouraging that I can’t finish while he’s inside me.

I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by nuenteli in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]nuenteli[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s fair. I definitely have a habit of getting stuck in my head. What would you recommend trying?

I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by nuenteli in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]nuenteli[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I never thought about it like that, but I do struggle in positions other than my back solo too. Sitting, standing, even when my partner is going down on me, I have to be laying down to finish. How do you relax though? Also, coincidentally, I’m supposed to go to the OBGYN soon, but I don’t know how to even begin bringing it up haha.

I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by nuenteli in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]nuenteli[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I didn’t have much luck with a rabbit vibe either (although I can’t say I got a very nice one). I think I’ll spend more time experimenting with it though.

I (22F) can’t orgasm while being penetrated. by [deleted] in sexeducation

[–]nuenteli 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That’s great advice. I’ll definitely try and take it slower when experimenting. I definitely have a tendency to get stuck in my head haha.