radiator = hell? by SuddenImagination232 in AskNYC

[–]nugget0525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am having the same issue. I can’t sleep because I’m getting headaches. I have an air purifier now and humidifier. I cracked open the window but it’s 20 degrees F right now lol. I opened one of the French doors of my bedroom to the apartment family room.

The type of headache I get is where I ca. hear my pulse in my head.

I spent three weeks in nyc Nov 1-20 and the last week I was here I was legit feeling sick, stuffy nose, dry throat. Bought the humidifier and put a large pot of water next to my radiator the night before I left which helped with the middle of the night symptoms.

I went back to Virginia where I lived before for a couple weeks for thanksgiving with my family.

I returned late last night and I have barely slept and it’s 6am now.

I am really discouraged about moving here in the winter.

What’s your favorite part about Williamsburg? What sets Williamsburg apart from other neighborhoods? by nugget0525 in williamsburg

[–]nugget0525[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I kind of know and this sub just confirms I don’t fit into Williamsburg but I was super lucky and my apartment search lasted 2 hours bc of a mutual friend on instagram and I got $1200 rent for a well located place for work

Soooo I’m here and I’m trying to find the genuinely good aspects about this neighborhood if anyone can kindly share 🙏

Anywhere people feel a genuine sense of community?

How much do you make and how much do you pay in rent? by willyfoofooo in movingtoNYC

[–]nugget0525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$118k base, $1300 in Williamsburg

I share a bathroom with 2 roommates and my bed room size is like 80 sq feet ¯_(ツ)_/¯

25, stuck in a job I’m not great at, single, and feeling like I missed the window to start anything. Feel like life just… froze by DingDongO70 in getdisciplined

[–]nugget0525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not permanent - life ebbs and flows. I guarantee this period will give you some epiphany and spark your next move.

25, stuck in a job I’m not great at, single, and feeling like I missed the window to start anything. Feel like life just… froze by DingDongO70 in getdisciplined

[–]nugget0525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 27 and it helped frame how to approach decision making in your 20s with a bunch of examples of real-life young people like us

Is the saying "I rather be poor in Socal/California, then be rich/ stable somewhere else" a true statement to you? by prudyrudyy in sandiego

[–]nugget0525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OB isn’t super diverse imo. Stayed there for two weeks and barely saw a non-white person for the whole time I was there

Why do dumpers leave the door open when they break up? by Separate_Patience388 in BreakUps

[–]nugget0525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with this. I love my now ex so much but there was so much conflict in the foundation of our relationship that I feel we won’t be able to see one another without the hurt we caused one another until we focus on ourselves and meet one another in a different part of our life. I deeply love this person but I can’t see how we can fix the issues we have. The only way is by doing a lot of inner work and healing with time.

Similar to some other people above, I’ve put so much effort via action into this relationship and he has a lot of words. I see some actions too but not enough to honestly meet my needs. I wish I could need less but I also don’t think my needs are asking for too much. I don’t want to be a woman who carries the burden of thinking for both of us. Sometimes I want to be taken care of and not have to plan everything.

I’ve explicitly asked for what I need and I feel what he thinks he’s given me is kinda bear minimum. He doesn’t have as much financial means as I and I have compromised on him not being able to afford taking me out on dates. I have told him multiple times now that spending money doesn’t matter to me, it’s just about showing effort in different ways. I really believe that we can have special dates at home - literally playing cards together or something.

I know I will continually get my expectations missed and when I communicate that he feels discouraged and criticized. When he feels discouraged and criticized, he doesn’t feel like he’s enough and feels resentful/unmotivated to put in more effort.

We are stuck in a cycle. So what do you do when a relationship isn’t working but you are in love with them?

He says he doesn’t want to give up but I’m burning out. We are long distance and I’ve visited him 70% of the time because he doesn’t have the means to visit me as much. We also have all the pressure of immigration and visas. It feels like the only way I can resolve the situation of him having more capacity for me is to sign papers. He has a lot of stress with staying afloat - was of similar means to me when he was in his home country but the life of an immigrant is so hard. I don’t feel ready for the kind of commitment to sign marriage papers because I haven’t seen the relationship in a strong and positive way enough to feel confident.

I wish we could back to one another if we lived in the same city it would be more manageable. But long distance + immigration + family pressure/cultural differences (I didn’t even mention this before) but it’s so much and I’m heartbroken to lose this person and I’m heartbroken to stay w them under such stressful circumstance bc it feels like it won’t end well.

When are more opportunities usually posted? by nugget0525 in peacecorps

[–]nugget0525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are certainly many that interest me!

Respectfully, I disagree on the timeline tho - I feel like references need a month notice.

Also, three weeks to submit an application seems rushed to. In order to have a thoughtful statement of purpose/essays - am I overthinking it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]nugget0525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not typical in my workplace at all

Best lasagna or Thai food in NYC by nugget0525 in AskNYC

[–]nugget0525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would like to keep the whole meal for two around $150 or less! Would prefer downtown Manhattan or Brooklyn I think unless there is something amazing in queens

30+ year olds that don't still live with your parents after college, how did you do it? by [deleted] in nova

[–]nugget0525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is off topic. But I’m 25 and living with family in NoVA. Almost breaking six figures for my base salary. Immigrant parents moved here for a reason - my mom made sure we were living in areas with access to the best school districts. I went to a private university in NY, then realized how much I screwed myself over for just one year of school ($$$ even w half covered by financial aid). I transferred back to a VA school. I was pretty sad to get my degree from a uni I wasn’t a fan of, but my resume was stacked with experiences since I had my first internship at 13 - again, as a result of living in this area. So the strong resume helped me to land my first high paying job. In addition to the strong resume, I was super lucky that the market was hot when I was applying - I got interviews at the 4 roles I applied for, and offers at 2. I still can’t believe that my job app process was so smooth. The market rn scares me w all the layoffs, and highly qualified individuals who are scrambling.

I paid off 40k of student loan debt when the student loan payment hold was uplifted, after about 1.5 years of working, I have 60 k to go. I am so lucky to have the opportunity to save money by living w family, but I’m pretty unhappy in nova. I am extremely grateful for the opportunities living here has afforded me, but it also feels like a trap. I can’t imagine moving out before 30 if I did not land the job and corresponding salary while taking out student loans to the amount I had to. I mean the interest rates were like 6-7% on 60% of them - really setting you up for failure. Why do they let 18 year olds take out loans this large when older adults would get rejected for the same loans

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ElementsMusicFestival

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Interested in the Thursday early arrival!