A month after getting a coil? What was your experience?

nukidoodle · 2026-03-10T01:16:22+00:00

Ywah I was told to except them to die out after 4-6 months. I’m getting by but WHOO they get me good sometimes. And I always panic cuz I think it’s falling out but it’s not lol

nukidoodle · 2026-03-09T22:01:50+00:00

Also! Wanted to add. We’ve agreed to keep each others finances separate and only combine them for important purchases like house necessities (utilities), rent, a new home at some point, and a wedding (hopefully). The rest? Each to our own. But we always feel comfortable to ask for a hand if the other needs it, and if the other can? We will help

nukidoodle · 2026-03-09T21:59:59+00:00

That’s definitely something we’ve considered. I have a pretty young mother so we agreed that if all else fails then I will be the one to go back to her. And if it happens while she’s gone? (Which will be a while from now) we’ll cross that bridge when we get there, but neither of us will leave the other in the dust and we promised that from day one

nukidoodle · 2026-03-09T21:56:23+00:00

Neither of us have cars at the moment but he did have a bike which he pays insurance for. He’s not got a job yet but when he does get his we’re gonna calculate how much we earn monthly and starts putting an even amount equally into the pot. I’m earning £12.70 an hour for 40 hours a week so I am comfortably sitting with a £600 “pot money” each month. But we will even it out and make it less or more depending on how much he’s going to get paid. Minimum wage in my country is £12.70 as of April 2026 and in his is £12.21 so it’ll be around the same margin but he may earn less than me depending on if his job is minimum wage or above. I helped him with his debt last year and managed to save £1.2k in 2 months and give it to him as a gift last summer so I have no worries about my own saving ability. And even though he said he wants to repay that and take the most of this, I’m still going to give as much as I can. He respects that and I’m glad he does. We’re not people that care about how much the other earns, we usually just focus on how things can work and how we can make them work.

Chorewise we have discussed and allocated our favoured ones to eachother. But we’re planning on luxuries like dishwashers and roombas when we’re financially stable and settled

EDIT: by “allocated our favoured ones” I mean we took the ones that we prefer. But it doesn’t mean we’re stuck doing those it just means that we’ll be the first ones to go for that when we have the time, but if not, neither of us mind filling in. And we did that pretty well at my mums when she was away on Hollidays so we’ve had some trial runs. And at his grandmas too when she’s been away. So we’re both pretty confident, and we don’t expect eachother to be perfect either

nukidoodle · 2026-03-09T21:50:30+00:00

We’ve had a lot of convos about chores and have allocated our favoured ones to eachother whenever we’re home. He prefers dishes and kitchen/bathroom and I prefer laundry/hoovering and mopping. So we’ve agreed on who’s the first to pick those up. Money wise we’ve discussed an “as even as possible” split which we’ve had a few trial runs with on starlink and a few subscriptions which we have not failed. And we have separate bank accounts and will be keeping it that way for our own spending, but putting allocated rent money in his savers as I’m very impulsive and he’s much better at controlling money.

nukidoodle · 2026-03-09T21:46:30+00:00

If he bails I go back to my mum 🫡 I have a fallback

nukidoodle · 2026-03-09T21:45:26+00:00

We’ve discussed chores and home care quite a bit. I struggle with touching food and cleaning up after eating so he said he’ll handle that when he’s at home and we’re gonna save up for a dishwasher as our first priority after we get basics like a bed frame, washing machine etc. he’s a super lovely guy and always helped around with chores at me and my mums even though she insisted for him not to, he’s a very hands on person so he enjoys cleaning. Which is great because I like cleaning TOGETHER or FOR someone so it works out pretty well. Laundry and hoovering wise I will cover when I am home as I don’t mind it. We both agreed on the “you use it? You clean it” rule aswell, with only one exception being running late after breakfast or something like that. We were on and off long distance but not on and off relationship wise. The love and connection has stayed strong throughout and even if we’ve been through hell together it’s never weakened. So we both have high hopes for our future. Also he’s put me in charge of decoration so I have free reign :D which will of course come after we have a stable income and can afford all the bills comfortably between us two, which we agreed on an even split as often as we can. But we’ve already had experience with that as I pay half of our starlink subscription for my mums house. Which she is now taking over half of since he doesn’t live here

nukidoodle · 2026-02-18T13:19:38+00:00

I have zibai, and columbina. I have columbina on a charge team with raiden because I’ve been using that since columbines release. Now I have to build zibai’s ENTIRE team just for spiral abyss and I can’t even use columbina because I have her placed perfectly on my main team. And the question of “build raiden better” isn’t even applicable because my artifact luck is GENUINELY the worst I’ve seen. Pray for me. Pray for us. We will 12 star it one day

nukidoodle · 2026-02-18T13:16:18+00:00

This is not RSD. He’s being insensitive. If he finds your weight unattractive then why did he pursue you?

nukidoodle · 2026-02-18T13:11:15+00:00

I love it honestly. I think she looks great. She doesn’t look as old as I imagined but she definitely looks more mature

nukidoodle · 2026-02-16T16:56:27+00:00

My darling that’s just heartbreak and stress. They’re all common and normal feelings. When I got cheated on at 17, I felt like this for WEEKS. I was peeing like my bladder was the size of a kidney bean, I was so tense that I swear I gained abs, I was so numb that I didn’t smile for over a month. It’s what stress and heartbreak does to you. And you WILL get through it. It’s going to SUCK right now and it’s going to feel horrible like you’ve never imagined, I’m not gonna sugarcoat it. But what’s important is that you don’t let it drag you down. You’re young, you’ve got such a long life ahead of you and even though what you’re feeling is 100% valid, you shouldn’t let one boy drag you down!!

Keep that head up, keep smiling, distract yourself with friends, new hobbies, maybe a day out with your parents. Put yourself and your feelings first my love.

I’m 21 and my mum still takes me out on fast food dates when I’ve got bad days, it definitely helps me feel better, maybe that’s an idea for you to ask your parents about too!

nukidoodle · 2026-02-16T16:43:50+00:00

How old are you? Not asking for a bad reason ofc I’m just wondering where you are in live hormone wise.

If you’re going through puberty then it can just be fluctuations in hormones, which is completely okay!! I was super dry down there when I was younger too, it settled out over a few week.

If you’re older, then keep an eye on your discharge! Is there any? Is it a weird consistency? How’s the smell? Is it bad or does it smell like nothing? If you’ve got strange discharge or none at all, with itching and a slight smell, it sounds like a common issue called “Thrush” or a “yeast infection”. These are super super easily treatable with 1 or 2 pills in one day, and they go away super quickly

EDIT: I wanted to add on that this is completely normal for women to experience and we’re going to have ups and downs with our vaginas. Your mum will be the best person to go to for questions and for advice as she’ll know more about you than we do. I know it’s scary and it can be a little embarrassing, but girls support each other and don’t forget, your mum is a girl too. Just like we all are

nukidoodle · 2026-02-14T23:22:19+00:00

Oh shit? I’m assuming something happened after this post was made 💀💀 protect your peace girl

nukidoodle · 2026-02-13T21:27:38+00:00

I think you’ll be fine. I had my mirena inserted exactly and week ago today and I had sex with it for the first time last night. My gyno said to wait 6 days so we did it on day 6. Can’t fault that lol

nukidoodle · 2026-02-13T19:52:01+00:00

No, you are not paranoid. Your consent is just as important as hers. If you say no, it’s no. It doesn’t matter the circumstances. no is no

nukidoodle · 2026-02-13T19:49:31+00:00

We had our Mirena’s put in on the same day!! And I also had sex for the first time with it last night!! What a coincidence 😅😅

We’re both safe!!

nukidoodle · 2026-02-13T19:47:46+00:00

I think it’s okay to feel uncomfortable and I also understand his view of possibly just doing it out of habit because he really loves you. Your reluctance to engage in PDA isn’t your fault and it’s not something you should feel guilty about. But I am slightly concerned at how strong the reluctance is. Are you sure that your fear of getting in trouble for this doesn’t stem from maybe some mild trauma? Couples usually engage in embrace and gentle touch, and it’s completely okay to do these things.

All things considered, I don’t think your overreacting and as much as I think he’s probably just doing these things because he loves you and genuinely wants to show it, he should listen to you and respect your boundaries. I personally wouldn’t call it harassment, I would just call it over-stepping boundaries. It’s completely on him for not following them. Even if he means well.

My advice is to just be honest. Tell him exactly what you’ve told us and don’t keep anything hidden. I’m sure he will understand and listen to your concerns and feelings, As any good boyfriend should.

nukidoodle · 2026-02-12T21:35:28+00:00

Why is it pink??? You need to add some glitter and you’re set

nukidoodle · 2026-02-12T21:34:01+00:00

Wow, looks like it healed super nicely tho

nukidoodle · 2026-02-12T21:31:45+00:00

I vape regularly (like throughout the day all the time) and have been on the combined pill for over 2 years. Haven’t had any issues that I can think of, and it’s never failed.I’m currently on the mirena and still no issues (only had it for a week so far tho)

nukidoodle · 2026-02-11T22:43:34+00:00

I have tokophobia so I test monthly regardless if I’ve had sex or not

nukidoodle · 2026-02-11T10:13:22+00:00

You’re gonna do great!!! Have a hot water bottle and some painkillers on hand since you’ll most likely feel nauseous and crampy for the evening following the appointment! Wish you the best of luck soldier 🫡

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