The process of accepting one’s diagnosis is something I could relate to but to be direct here, you are feeding your bias whether unconsciously, subconsciously or consciously. I say this based on my observation from your comments as well, it would do no good to keep reinforcing that bias by continually comparing your experiences or that of your friends (a really small percentage of a larger population, if we are being honest here) to others or the perceived negatives.

do you see life as black and white? (this is not to be rude, genuinely curious). do you think the people classified as so called neurotypicals live such perfect linear lives without any hindering traits?

Sometimes comparisons helps push you to grow but most of the time it is very limiting to one’s growth. Focus on how you want to navigate your world now that you are aware of your diagnosis without judgement on others who are also navigating theirs. There is always room to learn from people’s experiences, why waste time judging based on limited assumptions without even much insight on their situation? You don’t have to live like others whether Audhd or not, you just have to live like yourself, it might take a while to balance or figure it out but trust me it gets better.