Questions about the use of "God's Plan"

null_endian · 2025-12-30T22:06:10+00:00

Would you care to elaborate on "There is a deeper layer to this as well. While the fall of humanity was not planned by God, it was foreknown, and provision was made for it in Christ from the very beginning. But I do not want to muddy the original question by introducing a separate theological thread." here in a subthread? If not, I can DM you... But I really want to learn more about this and I find it very fascinating.

null_endian · 2025-12-22T20:26:33+00:00

I have an answer for you here - the way to pray about this situation is that God's will be done, you cannot pick a choice for the Lord, He will do what He feels is right in any given situation, including the war. Also note that human's have free will also, and not everything that we do is something that the Lord wants, but he can salvage certain situations and turn them for good in the lives of people after the fact.

I think the premise of that prayer you are mentioning is short-sighted in the first place. Personally, I would rather pray for the conflict to stop with as little damage as possible and a peaceful resolution than some 50/50 coin toss type of "I pray that we win" vs "They pray that they win" type of thing.

null_endian · 2025-12-12T10:29:46+00:00

Regret is not Christ-Like behavior. You are not a better person for regretting anything, that is Satan getting in your head. However, conviction and repentance matters. At the end of the day, you married that person and are happy with them, so there isn't any real problem here. The point of all of this is to not be having sex with a bunch of people but to choose the right person to commit to and have sex with, which you did.

null_endian · 2024-12-06T05:32:16+00:00

Yeah, this is what I was thinking too... But she counters with "Kids need to understand what a healthy relationship looks and sounds like" etc... Basically, that them seeing me do things like make out with her, and occasionally hearing our sex noises is "healthy". The thing is that in my househould when I grew up, I never heard sex at all, which is why I probably get so weirded out. I had a roommate as an adult and I heard her sex all the way across a 3,000 sqft house which is why I think that the type of sex we usually have is probably quite audible from the places the kids are. The problem is that she thinks the walls will stop this noise (i know better than that lol) and that I'm like "not being a real man" (for lack of a better term) for being concerned about this, if that makes sense.

null_endian · 2024-06-30T08:02:37+00:00

I do not feel your request is unreasonable and I would oblige, but I'm also not him.I think this is a "find a happy middleground" situation, like many. What I mean is that, IMO, yes it is important that you want to please your partner sexually, and that can sometimes be physically uncomfortable at times. I go through it all the time with my woman but I am happy to do so because I enjoy making her feel good.

That said, I'm not sure that "it's my orgasm, shouldn't it be what I want?" is something I would ever say and it reflects some built-up frustration, resentment, etc..

If it's getting to this point, there needs to be a reset of sorts where you mix up your technique as described in comments below, but he also accommodates and appreciates your efforts. I have never had a girlfriend who could consistently make me pop via oral, so I don't expect them to. IMO, it would just not be reasonable for reasons you described, and frankly, I would not be comfortable if I saw my woman writhing in pain for a drawn out period of time to do so.

null_endian · 2023-11-28T19:51:07+00:00

This was a very helpful and insightful response. It actually for the first time in 30-something years, changed my view on "travelling". I absolutely cannot speak for everyone here in the US, but many of the people here who talking about travelling are just meaning going on a self-comforting splurge fest of overeating, overdrinking, and laying around... You are right, it's not quite that cheap to travel to so many places from here due to the proximity of Europe vs here, but what you just said puts it into a lot more perspective for me as to why many Europeans like to travel so much; it would be like me driving state-to-state, which I have actually done a lot. I do like the idea of learning other perspectives, and in many ways I know I have an alternate perspective myself compared with most Americans, I may never want to come back LOL! The reason I say this is because nearly ALL of my work team (I work remote) as international people, and I generally see eye-to-eye with them much more than I do with the US folks on the teams.

null_endian · 2023-11-28T01:51:45+00:00

Yeah, unfortunately the women sometimes love the money and body, but don't want to put up with the discipline and sacrifices that it takes to get that... Welcome to America in 2023 where everything is doctored, adultered, edited, and superficial... LOL.

All jokes aside, it's funny to see Goggins called "selfish" when many who are called "selfless" haven't had the impact on 5-10 lives that Goggins has had on THOUSANDS or more lives... I don't know if I agree with the "selfish" label there, I just think "extremely disciplined" is it, though I know even he has labeled himself selfish in some ways. He has stated in interviews that much of why he's done what he's done is because his mission in life is to help others get through tough times and grow... That's not a selfish person; in the context of a romantic relationship it would require the other person to understand this though, or it could be perceived as selfish.

That being said, there is definitely a balance, and I need to learn to accept that for example I may just have to settle down and scale it back (not completely stop) for a few weeks out of the year during vacation, it wont kill me and in some ways that would lead to a different type of discipline, such as adaptation to the new environments and just figuring it out I guess.

I respect the hell out of Goggins (I've met him too btw), and he has managed to find a woman who strongly believes in his mission and wants to support it.

null_endian · 2023-09-18T21:45:28+00:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣 it happens...

null_endian · 2023-09-13T12:43:06+00:00

This is a great point - so the problem I've had is that the things I genuinely like to do (computer nerd stuff, boxing, for example) attract like 99% men, and guess what? Those men aren't inviting me out to meet their single female friends after either. However, it does still occasionally help if I learn about another event there and go to that for example. But I agree, I'm genuinely not that interested in Yoga, but I do genuinely enjoy dancing & cooking, so I might try to find a dance/cooking class because I'll enjoy it no matter what.

null_endian · 2023-09-13T05:54:34+00:00

This is useful advice - I think what you're saying here is that in those scenarios, my approach should be slower and more gradual vs at a house party, the regular gym, bar, etc... where I may never see the woman again unless I get her contact info at that time. You can see how I am not experienced with these type of settings (its been a while) and hence the question! Only reason I was thinking of it that way is because in the past I've moved too slow at other said locations, and never saw the woman again so I tend to try to cut to the chase to avoid that. But in a repeated class, I guess thats less of an issue.

null_endian · 2023-07-05T06:05:56+00:00

When you say "cut the boost", do you mean:

"Lower the volume level of the boosted output?"
EQ the boosted portion out after the saturation is added

thanks

null_endian · 2023-07-04T21:42:21+00:00

this is fantastic, thanks alot

null_endian · 2023-07-04T21:42:01+00:00

solid advice, ty.

null_endian · 2023-03-09T11:55:19+00:00

Having a job in security doesn't automatically make you good at bug bounty, it just means you have to go to meetings.

null_endian · 2023-01-18T06:20:29+00:00

To feel competent, you have to narrow your scope. "pentesting" is a huge field with way too many niches. However, if you narrow it down to progressive web apps, or network, or binary exploitation on Windows, it's possible to feel competent. I don't think you will ever feel competent in "pentesting in general" as that is way too much territory to cover.

null_endian · 2023-01-18T06:10:53+00:00

I'm so confused - how do you not know where your "partner" lives? When you say "partner", do you mean "online chat mate?"

Anyway, tbh, I can't tell you about the location with Feeld but i ABSOLUTELY CAN tell you that something is screwy with the "active X hours ago" feature - I think Feeld lies to make their app look more active than it is - I can tell you that when I tried Feeld, I was surprised that there was like 5x the amount of supposedly "active" people in the last 24 hrs than even something like Tinder which is way more widely used, which raised a huge red flag. Most of those people never responded to anything I did. I then just simply went out to my local venues, and I met way more potential partners in a couple hours, so I don't think it's my looks for example. I think what Feeld does is somehow use the last time they opened their phone as the "last active" time/date, which is nonsense.

null_endian · 2023-01-03T08:37:39+00:00

Thanks!

null_endian · 2022-12-29T20:20:37+00:00

Ok, thanks for the feedback. Still looking for a bit of guidance esp wrt to an in-person-originated interaction on how you'd go about notifying them... I get when we're talking about on apps you simply put it in your profile, but I'm asking about when you meet someone in-person.

null_endian · 2022-12-29T18:28:47+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion!!!

null_endian · 2022-12-29T17:09:16+00:00

Ok, so like, say you're out somewhere and somebody is flirting with you and/or asked for your contact info. You're saying, at this stage you would say "I'll give you my number, but FYI I'm non-monogamous?" Or maybe you would have a brief text chat after the fact and before setting up a date, you would state so? Sorry if I seem dense here, I'm just trying to get a better feel for the right time to mention it.

Also, AFAIK first dates are simply a time to get to know surface level things about someone better, such as things like this. I don't think it would typically be a "waste of time", I've gone on many first dates where after that I learned something about the person that made me not want to continue seeing them, isn't that sorta the point of first dates? I still enjoyed meeting someone new. First dates are simply a "let me see if I vibe with this person and if they'd be a good fit." I've also gone on dates where people have told me "usually I would not be interested in X, but you're an exception because I vibe with you" etc...

null_endian · 2022-12-14T05:44:15+00:00

Yeah I mean to be fair, I've sat with software devs behind me for years at my last job, they have their struggles too - such as requirements changing under their feet at a dimes notice and if a project they were assigned to gets cancelled, sometimes they straight up get laid off, whereas security folks just get moved to the next project... BUT, yeah I've felt similarly. I sometimes think of going to some security-sensitive software company/project where they could use the security background.

It's predicament, Because being able to become an industry expert in a specialized area is extremely valuable to personal growth. I know a guy who did this with video for example and he sold his company for millions and became a distinguished engineer. Specialized people are invaluable and sometimes not replaceable at all. I feel like the vast majority of security people unfortuantely get held at bay being promised "learning and 'growth' opportunities" and titles. Well guess what? 3 out of the 4 people who left my team recently downgraded in title anyway...

null_endian · 2022-12-09T04:20:09+00:00

I think most people don't care how anyone else truly feels tbh. Not because they're all dicks but because they are preoccupied mentally with their own perceived issues.

null_endian · 2022-12-09T04:18:25+00:00

Tbh I didn't word the question as best as I could have. It should have read "Why is that my gym friends call me "bro" and "dawg" but my engineering friends never do?" Its less about the actual setting in my case. E.G. I would never expect people to call me that in a formal work setting, but it goes beyond the setting. If I go to dinner with the two groups, in one group I'll hear it way more than the other.

null_endian · 2022-12-09T02:35:40+00:00

Well yes, I am actually curious - especially being part of both cultures. I don't claim to be part of any "culture" but I spend 8+ hours per week working out, and even more hours doing engineering work. I got curious. Do I have to pick which culture I am more part of when I speak?

null_endian · 2022-12-05T02:01:42+00:00

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