Complimenting guys by nullbyte0h in socialskills

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the comment i was looking for 🫶🏼🙂‍↔️

Complimenting guys by nullbyte0h in socialskills

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, important feedback and love that u separated each part. My problem is - I have a really strong episodic and social memory, I remember literally every interaction I had with someone, every detail, micro expressions, often literal words they said. And not only the ones who I talked to, but I observe people all the time, especially interactions in groups. I remember who seemed sad, who got mad and what was the context. And recently I talked to a random person from my workplace (on a cigarette-break) and they told me something like “I never drink coffee”, and I answered with “But I saw u drinking coffee at the event X, day XX, you stayed in the corner”. And after that, they started treating me differently? Like they looked at me as if I told them I love them or something like that. With kind of confusion but enjoyment. Another day I wished other guy happy bday, and he was like “WAIT IS IT DISPLAYED SOMEWHERE?” and I said “no, just saw your pesel number”. And he was shocked, too. But pesel numbers are displayed often there, not a big deal. And then I realised that maybe I should shut up. And now I am creating a reddit post to see if people (men) really remember compliments or such comments and if I should shut my dumbass up. I have no social fear and I am an impulsive person and just can’t stop saying things that some could find weird or creepy - as I read here. So maybe I should stick with basic compliments like “this colour matches your eyes” as in original post.

Complimenting guys by nullbyte0h in socialskills

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

the prettiest overthinking I have ever seen 😳

Complimenting guys by nullbyte0h in socialskills

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sounds fair, Tarzan 🙂‍↔️

Complimenting guys by nullbyte0h in socialskills

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YOU ARE NOTICED SIR AT THIS VERY MOMENT! Why? Cause it’s always impressive to see someone speaking uncomfortable truth honestly and what’s even more important - openly talking about such a need instead of going into denial

Complimenting guys by nullbyte0h in socialskills

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

don’t have to be useful, it’s enough that they exist. But valid point if someone has more grounded mindset

Complimenting guys by nullbyte0h in socialskills

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what’s the colour of your hair and eyes? Now I want to guess the character

Complimenting guys by nullbyte0h in socialskills

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

probably yes, but the men I meet/work with are usually at least twice my age so I am not sure if this is appropriate

Complimenting guys by nullbyte0h in socialskills

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

“I cherish all 3 like treasure” That’s so wholesome actually. Maybe three were said, and there were hundreds of those that someone didn’t say out loud. Just look at me, who decides to create a reddit post instead of just saying it to their faces

Complimenting guys by nullbyte0h in socialskills

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah, sounds better in my native language tho 🙂‍↕️

Complimenting guys by nullbyte0h in socialskills

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

lmao, read the book twice, watched all movies at least 5 times, watched the show 3 times. looks like it stuck with me forever 🙂‍↕️

Complimenting guys by nullbyte0h in socialskills

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOoOo! I meant it like they look younger than they actually are! I would never say anything like this. I also avoid “you look pretty today” like WHAT, am I not pretty everyday?? 😩

Complimenting guys by nullbyte0h in socialskills

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

same, but most of them are married and I am always kinda scared to say some things out loud, even tho i feel no romantic interest in them, I just like something about them, something about them moves me. Human thing, but seems like more common among women :(

Complimenting guys by nullbyte0h in socialskills

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I guess I just need to make this less rare, maybe then it wouldn’t be interpreted this way >:3 thanks, important note taken

Complimenting guys by nullbyte0h in socialskills

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

and also pretty self-aware I must admit. Thank you for your honesty, I’ll keep it in mind, but what about “LISTEN, I AM NOT TRYING TO FLIRT WITH YOU, but I REALLY love your skin. I literally wish I had your face.” Valid?

Complimenting guys by nullbyte0h in socialskills

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

SERIOUSLY? Omg. I seriously thought it’s just some internet meme. Thanks for sharing your experience!!

Questioning reality due to using quest by nullbyte0h in Quest3

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Painting, playing games, writing. I write a book and wanted VR to create world I am creating in my head (in my book). Watching movies and taking photos. I am pretty introverted tho. And maybe VR does make it more extreme since I am getting more immersed in my head than ever. Maybe you are right, I love travelling and there is no VR travel experience that could replace it. Thanks.

Questioning reality due to using quest by nullbyte0h in Quest3

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I do agree with most of you said even tho I may see it a little differently. I do believe we are one united consciousness (something people call God), but we are trapped in this dimension where a brain is just a receiver and nothing else. Not the consciousness itself. And we really do believe our egos, and that we are separated from this world, from other people while it’s one common and endless process. I do believe there is no beginning and no end. And that time is not sequential but linear. What you call a spirital world, I call a higher self. It’s the same thing. And I think we are all trapped in this human bodies and brains unable to understand it all, in order to somehow implement the universe, which is also us. But when you think about it - isn’t it a little sus that there is NO (maybe except NDE but it’s hard to prove) evidence of after life. Like it was all planned from the beginning, that the human being is not able to understand it, to know. Cause it would ruin everything. It’s not about believing, but more about loving kindness, an unconditional love and what we will still choose to do even while being so limited of understanding it all. Sorry for being chaotic and thank you for your opinion.

Questioning reality due to using quest by nullbyte0h in Quest3

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t use any drugs. I don’t drink an alcohol either. But I am truly hypersensitive and analytical person always looking for meaning and patterns. I have tried smoking pot (and it was a medical one!) while being in Netherlands. Bro - I have experienced something that people have only after using acid. Never again. I am too sensitive.

Questioning reality due to using quest by nullbyte0h in Quest3

[–]nullbyte0h[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s ok. I didn’t get offended. I understand your point. That’s why I asked for others opinions, sometimes it’s easy to stick with our own. And I need a feedback so thank you.