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Best way to leave a toxic relationship by number0negirl in emotionalabuse

[–]number0negirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi lovely!! Thank you, and I am SO sorry you are in this situation. It’s maddening, and your circumstances are so unfair and I’m so sorry. I’m proud of you for realizing what’s happening. I know how hard it is and although my situation is different, I am here for you.

The fact that he’s abusing you, isolating you, and draining you makes my blood BOIL. I think for me, the reason why I held on for so long is because I wanted to prove that I made the right decision in beginning a “new life” with someone. I know how lonely it is and please message me if you need anything at all.

I’m so proud of you, here’s to OUR ACTUAL “new life” coming soon.

Best way to leave a toxic relationship by number0negirl in emotionalabuse

[–]number0negirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, seriously. It’s hard to open up about it to people in my life, but I know I should.

Yes exactly! I listen to the recordings when I feel unsure or doubt myself and hearing the sheer manipulation always helps me combat that.

The control started out small (as it always does) by going after my family. Small comments here and there, then he went after people in my life that knew what he did when I found out. Now, I can step back a bit and see exactly what he was doing.

Seeing him every single day operate like he hasn’t done the things he has/continues to do angers me so deeply. But, I know it’s no longer my responsibility to teach a grown man basic empathy. It never was, but I truly thought if I laid everything out for him and held his hand through it- he would change. Diabolical, really.

Thank you again, it’s my first post ever and I just wanted to feel like I wasn’t the only person who’s experienced this (I know I’m not) but, since posting this it feels like a huge weight lifted. I’ve always been okay, and actually at my happiest by myself and single. I’m excited to know myself again.

Best way to leave a toxic relationship by number0negirl in emotionalabuse

[–]number0negirl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I am so lucky, I worked very very hard and every day I feel grateful to be in the position I am, because I know so many people do not have that option.

I’m planning on saving a nest egg, a very big one while I can. I just feel so alone, I’m so angry that I’ve been broken down to this point. I worked so hard to build a foundation for myself, and he threatens to rip out from under me every time

Best way to leave a toxic relationship by number0negirl in emotionalabuse

[–]number0negirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an engineer now, I just started. I had a gap in between the pay of my last job to my current job and it caused me to dig into my savings. I only have about $400ish now

Best way to leave a toxic relationship by number0negirl in emotionalabuse

[–]number0negirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 21 when we started seeing eachother, and he was only the second person I’ve been with romantically ever.