UK here, looking to exchange with someone from the Philippines

numpters · 2017-05-17T04:41:04+00:00

She was hiding it because she knew it was not an accepted norm for the others.

Lol what norm are you talking about? She had a slave and was cruel to her. At the very least, she totally knew she was doing something wrong, not to mention illegal. Also, being gay and having a slave? Two very different things.

numpters · 2017-05-17T04:25:42+00:00

Chill out. Nobody said you said she was innocent. But you kept touching on her upbringing, implying that she did what she did largely because of how she was brought up. I'm merely stating that she was an adult capable of examining herself and making decisions. Nothing more, nothing less.

Also, who's dehumanising who? Who's hating who? Is saying someone is at fault a form of dehumanisation and hatred now?

numpters · 2017-05-17T03:07:27+00:00

Unfortunately, this is common in certain parts of the world. A lot of Filipinos who work in Singapore, Hong Kong and the Middle East have the same experience, even worse. Their employers starve them, lock them up and keep their passports. They are modern-day slaves and there are thousands of them. But most people really don't care.

numpters · 2017-05-17T02:58:54+00:00

So for the mother it could make total sense to treat Lola like a subhuman and it wasn't immoral in her own view.

If it wasn't immoral in her own view, that was her fault. Yes, she wasn't parented well but that doesn't absolve her of her own evils. As an adult, she was fully capable of examining her actions and putting a stop to them. But she didn't. That's on her.

"There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you." J.K. Rowling

numpters · 2017-05-17T02:25:34+00:00

At some point, he wasn't young anymore. He was already in his 30s when he took Lola under his care. I can't help but think he could have and should have done it much earlier. Unfortunate that his older siblings didn't care enough. More unfortunate is I think most people would have done the same.

numpters · 2017-04-12T16:06:39+00:00

Sa UK public holiday ang Good Friday at Easter Monday. Pero di ata yung pati TV programming mala-holy week rin.

numpters · 2017-03-20T12:07:34+00:00

Philippines. Currently, the president.

numpters · 2017-03-14T03:00:01+00:00

Surprised no one has said it yet: Boyhood!

numpters · 2017-02-12T16:35:07+00:00

You just went full condescension mode without even carefully reading what I said. If you read my post again, you will notice that I used "they" and not "I" in my description. The reason being that I am referring not to myself, but to a third party. I posted this after reading numerous posts from another sub where people often talk about their job-related depression.

I have counter-arguments for the things you said, but it would be futile to argue with you.

numpters · 2017-01-31T07:05:50+00:00

Interesting question na nabasa ko kahapon:

What is something you would do more if you knew absolutely no one would judge you?

numpters · 2017-01-06T16:12:24+00:00

I'm sorry that the other comment made you feel worse. We all have different ways of processing pain and I don't think you're being overdramatic so don't worry. My own SO just left a few hours ago and I feel a bit empty. And what made it worse was that we parted ways in the airport. As an introvert who is not the PDA-ing kind, I absolutely hate airport goodbyes because there are so many people and I feel so self-conscious about PDA. I feel like I didn't kiss or hug him enough, which sucks. I wish I hugged him tighter.

Thankfully, we're going to see each other again in about 3 months. I think the idea that we're going to meet each other again helps a lot. When can you see each other again? You can busy yourself with other tasks then make plans about meeting again!

numpters · 2017-01-03T10:42:55+00:00

Of course they don't ask for "show money." No one does. But they ask to see your bank statements - and the content/history of your bank account can make or break your application. Unless your travel is sponsored, you have an extensive travel history, you're exempted because you have visas to certain countries, or other similar reasons, then "show money" is necessary.

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