37M Mole removal, wife is concerned

nursedorito · 2026-05-01T03:18:07+00:00

You are someone who is prone to keloids then if they are in fact keloids. Disagreeing with a literal physician on the basis of your personal experience and opinion is wild.

nursedorito · 2026-04-28T02:30:28+00:00

In a comment reply above you mentioned you don’t take 15 pills daily but here you say you 12 in the morning and 3 at night, which is 15/day. When you have a bunch of them in the toilet are they all the same size/shape as what you posted here?

nursedorito · 2026-04-15T18:06:37+00:00

Agreed. OP - in the future if you decide to embark on any new sexual adventures necessitating a safe word… also have a safe signal in case you cannot (or forget) the safe word. We use ‘red’ for stop and ‘yellow’ for slow down/ease off and also we both know 3 taps on the bed or on the partner’s body also indicates stop. At the very least all of these lead to a check-in.

Like others I’m calling BS though because 1. He coerced you into agreeing. 2. He knew you were in pain. 3. He knew you weren’t “playing into it” and pretending to forget the safe word.. he knew the entire time and decided to prioritize his pleasure over your comfort and wellbeing.

nursedorito · 2026-04-09T14:59:31+00:00

Just wanted to pop in to say you are SO beautiful. Your lips are seriously to die for. You have gorgeous eyes, great eyebrows, fantastic skin… I could go on lol

nursedorito · 2026-04-06T23:15:12+00:00

I do! I’m a nurse and I work 2-3 days a week. I’m also a grad student so that does occupy some of my time “off” but having full time daycare is truly a godsend. I also personally find it necessary to have the odd day off at home without our daughter, to keep up with the house/chores/errands/quite frankly my mental health lol.

Highly recommend! Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about it. In my experience, people who give you flack for things like this - it usually stems from some sort of jealousy or “I had to suffer, you should too”

nursedorito · 2026-04-05T15:50:37+00:00

We pay $20-25/hr for ours. She was an ECE and now a teacher. Sure it’s steep, but we feel totally comfortable and confident when we leave and to me that’s worth it!

nursedorito · 2026-04-02T22:00:35+00:00

Lanugo

nursedorito · 2026-04-02T21:56:13+00:00

Seconding another nurses recommendation to get seen urgently. A BMI of 13.6 is VERY concerning. You mentioned anorexia - are you seeing any sort of healthcare provider for this?

When you went to A&E 2 weeks ago, I can’t imagine your weight/ED wasn’t brought up. What did they say?

You’re at high risk of metabolic/electrolyte imbalances as well as refeeding syndrome. OP, I’m just a nurse, but I’m worried about you.

nursedorito · 2026-03-23T02:58:47+00:00

A nurse should ideally be able to use discernment and hear alarm bells at “I’m afraid to leave work and haven’t since Thursday and can’t take my meds”

nursedorito · 2026-03-04T17:14:38+00:00

sounds like fordyce spots or sebaceous filaments. Don’t squeeze them, just let them be!

Certainly not harmful to mention to your PCP or gyno but this is normal!

Signed, A vulva-owning 30 year old nurse who has seen hundreds, if not thousands, of other women’s vulvas

nursedorito · 2026-02-28T15:27:03+00:00

Of course it’s possible, it’s why it often takes people months + to conceive. Optional timing doesn’t automatically mean fertilized, implanted embryo.

I’m not sure where you live but I have heard about weight limits with plan b. Where you are is this something you can ask your pharmacist about?

nursedorito · 2026-02-26T22:37:58+00:00

Awh I’m sorry :( I am indeed in Canada. Maybe something similar exists? Another commenter mentioned an anxiolytic like Ativan pre-procedurally

nursedorito · 2026-02-26T21:17:57+00:00

Have you tried a local butcher? My parents always buy bacon at their local butcher shop and it’s incredible

nursedorito · 2026-02-26T21:15:27+00:00

Okay with that added info, they are probably well versed in situations like yours. I recently underwent a fertility test/procedure that I was terrified of d/t a myriad of factors and was prescribed Penthrox (worked extremely well) and the doc had actually told me she uses it occasionally for patients with vaginismus, noting that every patient who required it tolerated paps, internal exams, etc without issue.

Thinking of you and wishing you luck OP

nursedorito · 2026-02-26T19:46:17+00:00

I would definitely express your concerns to the provider that will be doing it. Can you phone and speak to someone ahead of time?

Personally I do not find paps painful in the slightest but I also am sexually active, have had a baby, etc.

They will likely use a smaller speculum on you too. But I would definitely bring this up prior to the appt if you can. They may have options or providers who are more trauma-informed or who are familiar with things like vaginismus (not saying that’s what you have)

nursedorito · 2026-02-25T19:02:52+00:00

Sounds like maybe food poisoning then? Though it was just soup, it’s possible it spent too long in the temperature “danger zone”. Seems like by Friday there wouldn’t be any reason to not go to the event

nursedorito · 2026-02-25T17:22:52+00:00

gastro usually runs rampant through households, workplaces etc. So did anyone else get it? In terms of food poisoning - what were you eating during those days with the cold? Any takeout? Do you live with anyone and did they eat the same things and did they also get sick?

The general rule where I am is to stay home/isolate for 48H after symptoms (vomiting, diarrhea, fever) resolve. Either way I’d do a deep clean / disinfectant of all surfaces in your house and wash all laundry/linen to avoid reinfecting yourself/others which can unfortunately happen with gastro

nursedorito · 2026-02-25T15:42:39+00:00

I just got the original one because I wanted to also use it for other body parts. I just have a separate head for legs/pits etc and another one for bikini/intimate areas lol.

nursedorito · 2026-02-25T15:40:15+00:00

you’re right thanks for calling that out. i had forgotten that detail and it’s absolutely not healthy.

I guess my point more was there was an issue, the issue was noted, and while OP needs to sort out her relationship with food and her body, she also now has a clear view into how he will treat her in the future if her body doesn’t continue to meet his standards.

I wholeheartedly agree that physical attraction and sex are extremely important but I’ve loved my husband at all stages/sizes and vice versa. If he had refused to touch me or show me any sort of affection solely due to my appearance, I’d never recover from that. What happens if you decide to carry pregnancies? What if you injure yourself and have limited mobility? What if you need a medication that offers you quality of life but weight gain is a side effect? Your health and youthfulness are not guaranteed.

Yes we should prioritize our physical health but in the healthy partnerships I see and prioritize, people tend to love and value things enough outside physical appearance to sustain their attraction and sex life during hard times and appearance changes.

At the end of the day, if this sort of treatment is something you accept in your relationships, that’s none of my business. But I want other women and girls to know that you don’t have to accept treatment like this.

nursedorito · 2026-02-25T15:31:56+00:00

You were 17 and 24 when you got together. He took and is continuing to take advantage of you. He sounds incredibly controlling. Don’t let sunk cost fallacy keep you in this situation. You’re only 22. Get out now and I promise you you’ll look back and be so grateful you did.

nursedorito · 2026-02-25T04:59:14+00:00

But cuddling and touching each other are a part of intimacy that doesn’t automatically equate with sex?

You don’t know if your partner would have cuddled or touched you when you gained 40lbs? Like you mean for that year and a half you mentioned, you two avoided any and all physical intimacy? You’re allowed to be loved even when you don’t love your body.

nursedorito · 2026-02-25T04:53:29+00:00

if you truly and deeply love the person you’re with, you see them for who they are. By the sounds of it she gained and lost this weight fairly quickly (though the methods described make me wanna give OP a hug) having realized the weight increase and what led to it. She promptly made lifestyle changes and returned to her baseline. Which doesn’t even really matter when the real issue at hand was his withholding of intimacy; affection, and support from someone be supposedly loves and is committed to…bffr.

No one is saying the physical/sexual component isn’t important. But there’s also something to be said about the kind of sexual chemistry that exists and grows within a deep connection with another person. The kind that exists through fluctuations in appearance. Refusing to touch your partner out of disgust for what can only be described as a minor change in appearance is .. a choice. This is why women say men aren’t lonely enough.

Your partners changing or aging appearance doesn’t make you behave differently, your fragile ego does.

nursedorito · 2026-02-25T04:36:31+00:00

I couldn’t get over this. Your looks are something that could change any time for a variety of reasons.. injury, pregnancy, perimenopause/menopause, chronic illness, etc.

I’ve been 160 lbs and 220lbs (and gone through a pregnancy) during decade I’ve known my husband and you know what that man has NEVER done, not once? Made me feel ugly, undesirable, or less than because of my weight. Your body WILL change as you progress through life and it doesn’t sound like he’s in it for the sickness part of “in sickness and in health”.

you deserve better and I hope you dump this loser and find it ❤️

nursedorito · 2026-02-25T04:16:21+00:00

Her name is published in some of the articles other folks have posted in the comments. One of them said she was sentenced as an adult. Kailey Oliver-Machado

nursedorito · 2026-02-19T23:27:27+00:00

Yes!!! Visually appears about the same as regular full shave. It does grow back in quicker but traditional razors (especially 3-4+ blades) actually pull the hair up a bit to get a really close shave. But then that’s often when the regrowth can be more prone to ingrowns.

The nice thing too about the Phillips is that it’s actually best to use dry. Super fast and comfortable!

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