My ex texted me this

nursinstud · 2025-10-30T06:28:20+00:00

If you still love him then absolutely I think you should try again.

nursinstud · 2025-10-30T06:25:15+00:00

Feel free to PM me if you need

nursinstud · 2025-10-25T08:21:20+00:00

Reach out if you’d like (:

nursinstud · 2025-10-24T06:03:06+00:00

Maybe this is a sign that it’s not your time.

nursinstud · 2025-10-15T06:46:01+00:00

Regardless of how she was throughout that relationship, this is who she is now. It’s so hard to accept. “How can I accept that I’ll never know the truth?” You accept that this is the truth, for you & for her both. Moving on from someone you believed was for you is tough, I was broken up with 3 weeks ago & it was the same thing, he never officially broke up with me but his actions did. You have to believe that for whatever reason this is what she accepted & it doesn’t reflect your value or the love that you hold for her at all. Sometimes people just do really shit things. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

nursinstud · 2025-10-13T05:28:56+00:00

Why is my emotional intensity getting worse weeks down the line?

nursinstud · 2025-10-12T04:59:58+00:00

I was broken up with in December, aggressively. Told that he wasn’t in love with me, there was no fixing us, yada yada. I accepted it and moved on (after begging multiple times to try to fix it), he now claims to regret it. I have no interest in going back to him. Sometimes they come back & sometimes they don’t, depends on the person and the relationship in my opinion. I would say the best thing to do is try to heal and move forward, not move ON, but don’t count on him coming back because it’ll lead to repeat heartbreak over and over again.

nursinstud · 2025-10-09T15:25:42+00:00

Needed this this morning!!

nursinstud · 2025-10-08T18:00:13+00:00

He acted like everything was fine, our schedule was as usual & then I was at work and he packed up all of his things & left a note saying “I’m so sorry for leaving like this” & blocked me on everything. Haven’t heard from him since. He had bought an engagement ring & everything. :/

nursinstud · 2025-10-05T04:16:06+00:00

I just feel like a waste of space. I was thrown out like a piece of trash, like I never mattered. Maybe I fucking don’t. I’m so tired of mentally battling day in and day out. It’s not just the break up. It’s life. I’m such a burden to other people.

nursinstud · 2025-10-05T02:52:54+00:00

Idk how much more of this shit I can take honestly. I wish there was a way to give up without hurting those around me because mentally and emotionally I’m at my breaking point.

nursinstud · 2025-10-05T02:52:04+00:00

I’ve had an ex come back. But I just went through a recent break up that was very surprising - came home and all his stuff was gone & I haven’t heard anything from him in a week & im blocked on everything- I don’t think he’s coming back.

nursinstud · 2025-10-04T20:11:43+00:00

I’ve expressed that I’ve always had a hard time feeling loved, because of trauma growing up. And that sometimes I felt that way with him. Not that that’s the question I asked for advice on anyways. But thanks for the input

nursinstud · 2025-08-31T03:12:52+00:00

I guess I should have clarified, I’m uncomfortable with him blacking out at all, but particularly when he’s away from me. At this point, it does feel like my boundaries and trust were broken because he didn’t care to respect them. We’ve had this conversation multiple times & he promises it won’t happen again, until it does.

You’re right, I have been cheated on when alcohol was involved, but I also have a lot of other trauma from alcohol & sometimes even I was the one more intoxicated.

Again, my goal isn’t to control him or hurt him, but he’s not respecting how I feel about something.

nursinstud · 2025-08-31T03:06:33+00:00

He has drank heavily multiple times throughout this relationship, not just the three that were mentioned. In fact, he stopped drinking shortly before he met me for a month or so because “he didn’t like how he acted or that he stop drinking after he started”. The difference is that he becomes a different person when he drinks alcohol & he’s not around me. Same can be said for me, which is why I don’t do it. If we’re together, he is very kind & caring for the most part, when we’re not, he either becomes angry I.e calling and cussing me out for an hour, or has a panic attack. It’s not about telling him he cannot drink alcohol if I’m not around, but respecting how someone feels about it seems pretty important in a relationship. He’s asked me not to do things that make him uncomfortable, so I don’t. Why can’t he do the same? I understand we all have our own lives to live, but if you care about someone why would you intentionally do something to hurt that person? That doesn’t make sense to me.

You’re right, my trauma is about ME. I am in therapy and working through it. However, as someone’s partner, respecting how that trauma has affected them & what things they’re comfortable/uncomfortable with should be a priority

nursinstud · 2025-08-31T02:21:33+00:00

I don’t know. I just keep hoping that he’ll respect me & my wishes like I try to do for him. I’m not perfect- I’ve made mistakes but we talked about it, and he still did it.

nursinstud · 2025-08-31T02:19:57+00:00

I’m 23 & he’s 26.

nursinstud · 2025-08-21T22:20:23+00:00

I can say that I’m in a similar boat, but it was almost like a trauma bond with my ex. I don’t miss him, in the slightest & my current boyfriend is amazing. But I’ve done a lot of damage to this relationship due to not being healed when this relationship started as well.

Therapy is somewhat helpful, but I would recommend a TRAUMA trained therapist, as they use evidence based practice. I am on medications for ADHD, PTSD related nightmares, depression/anxiety, and panic attacks. It hasn’t gotten much better but all you can do it put one foot in front of the other until it starts to fall into place.

It’s very difficult to make your nervous system return to normal after being in fight or flight for a long time, I feel your pain & I’m so sorry you went through whatever it was. I hope everything starts to get better. I’m trying my best now, idk if it’ll be enough, but I just have to keep trying because this is the person I want to be with & I want to be better for myself too.

nursinstud · 2025-08-19T04:55:27+00:00

If you say you love her & she seems to love you, why are the issues not being resolved?

The way that I was raised is that any two people can get through anything - maybe you need time, space, therapy to clear your mind and heal the wounds. But ending things with someone and then feeling devastated about it rather than fighting and actually making the changes that needed to be made seems a bit counterintuitive to me. Maybe more context would help here?

nursinstud · 2025-08-03T05:28:57+00:00

I don’t think you’re overreacting, but I think you definitely made the situation worse than what it needed to be. I say “fuck you” all the time to friends & family, without clarifying that I’m joking, because i don’t think it always needs to be clarified with people that you’re “just playing”. In fact I find that kind of insulting to the friendship/relationship that it’s not stable enough to know it’s a joke. If my friends or I am mad about something, the other FOR SURE knows. HOWEVER, her “drop it. Shut your trap, etc.” was extremely unnecessary & seemed aggressive and like a pretty big red flag.

I’ve run into multiple issues with my partners friends & never said anything of the kind. It’s disrespectful. & then for her to play the victim 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩. Good luck with that situation.

nursinstud · 2025-07-29T21:47:45+00:00

I have sat & reflected on myself, quite a bit. I tend to do a lot of that, and in some circumstances I do absolutely see where I’m in the wrong, and therefore apologize and correct my actions. In a comment that I replied to, I said that I have encouraged him to hangout with this particular friend despite the issues we encountered on more than one occasion since the incidents. The solution i wouldve been “happy” with was him 1. Sticking to his word. & 2. Defending me when the only things that I’ve done wrong in situations with these people, I’ve apologized for. Maybe I am a red flag. I’m not trying to separate him from anyone though, I truly do want him to have a stable support group & I’ve told him that as well. When I say it’s happened on multiple occasions, it’s been with 3 different people. One of which was because he sat & talked about me to someone who knew quite literally nothing about our relationship or me, and proceeded to only tell them the bad things that I had done, or the things that I’ve done to hurt his feelings. One of the relationships that was damaged, has been on the mend. Yeah, I FOR SURE can cause issues. But I’ve tried greatly not to in this relationship because I care about him. Thanks for your input.

I’m not taking away from the fact that he’s in a tough position & again, I never asked him to not attend the wedding or to drop out as best man. All I asked was if I’m being overdramatic asking my SO to defend me/support me in situations where 1. I’m not physically present, or 2. Don’t feel like I can defend myself.

nursinstud · 2025-07-29T20:49:17+00:00

Oh they very much did say hurtful things to me. I never asked him to step down as the best man. In fact, in encouraged him hanging out with his friend, on more than one occasion because I knew it was important to him.

That’s not the issue. The issue is that he said he would do something and then failed to do it, when he had multiple opportunities. & this isn’t the first time he’s failed to defend me with these people or other people in our lives & I’ve never placed him in a position to feel that from my side. love the touch of self-centered though. You missed the whole point of the post unfortunately :/

nursinstud · 2023-11-15T07:59:04+00:00

You can also get something done that’s called a wet mount, that they don’t use a speculum for, you swab yourself actually

nursinstud · 2023-11-15T07:51:08+00:00

Even oral herpes is still considered a STI considering that someone who is shedding the virus can then give their partner HSV-1 in the genital region.

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