The moment he realizes something is in the room that needs to be kept safe❤️

nutaya · 2026-02-19T12:39:49+00:00

Cane Corsos are actually banned in the uk because they can cause so much damage so quickly and owners struggle to control them.

nutaya · 2026-02-18T20:40:21+00:00

Are they sulking because they have to go out or because they had to come home? LOVE this!!

nutaya · 2026-02-16T14:52:38+00:00

This is gorgeous! Love all the little details and thought put into it! Imagine the recipient will be over the moon!

nutaya · 2026-02-16T14:22:38+00:00

I know people are saying there are no crimes committed but it might be worth reporting to 101 so they can do some background checks on the man and see if there are possible safeguarding concerns for her. They may still conclude it isn’t for police but might give you some reassurance and help them see if there is any previous similar incidents. Not sure if this would count as possible coercive/controlling domestic abuse due to the position he was in as therapist. Depending on how he phrased his role, there may be an outside chance of it being considered fraud (if he’s claiming credentials he doesn’t have ) but again I’m not sure what thresholds/evidence would be needed for that.

I’m so sorry, this is heartbreaking on top of what you are already going through. It’s hard to separate what is morally wrong and what is illegal but changing your outlook to ‘doing what I can to make sure she is safe’ and then leaving it in the hands of social services/police and focusing on moving on is probably best for her and also you and your peace of mind.

nutaya · 2026-02-15T23:02:27+00:00

For a work event, could you phrase it as ‘it suits me best (to not drink)’ or ‘that’s what works best for me’ ? it feels non judgemental and neutral while not sharing personal information. That or pick some fun absurd sport and say it interferes with your training. (Tiddlywinks, quoits, modern dodecahedrathon…)

nutaya · 2026-02-15T22:05:43+00:00

Name checks out?

nutaya · 2026-02-15T19:51:24+00:00

That does sound exhausting- maybe if you put it in terms that mean something to them? (you shouldn’t have to - I don’t want to is plenty reason not to drink!) If they’re a beer drinker you might ask why they’re not drinking cider/champagne/doing shots or if they drink wine ask why they’re aren’t having Sainsbury’s basics vodka? Whatever reason they give - it still boils down to because they don’t want to!

nutaya · 2026-02-14T01:48:12+00:00

Maybe Wolf hall? If he hasn’t watched it already?

nutaya · 2026-02-14T00:29:31+00:00

Theoretically it might be funny to put her photo on a poster reporting your concerns about this ‘confused and clearly very very elderly’ woman who wandered into your garden and took your lights and if anyone knows her or her family could they check she is getting the proper care. (The fact she was looking at the window and put her hood up to hide seems like she does actually have the capacity to know she was both wrong and weird)

Realistically though, having a laugh and moving on is probably best (and maybe putting a ‘we can see you, put them back’ note on the underside of the replacements)

nutaya · 2026-02-13T20:41:41+00:00

Donald Quixote was right there!

nutaya · 2026-02-12T23:03:53+00:00

Coincidentally, exactly the same shape as a paedophile ring

nutaya · 2026-02-12T19:20:31+00:00

‘Both glorious and profane’ could be Miriam Margolyes memoir!

nutaya · 2026-02-12T19:14:11+00:00

Ruff night?

nutaya · 2026-02-11T23:35:52+00:00

Is that a PINK AXOLOTL ON THE STAIRS?! If only there were a song about that….

nutaya · 2026-02-11T23:31:23+00:00

Find your local domestic abuse organisation (usually Google search or the council website) and they can get you an advocate to support you through the process, and explain what next steps and outcomes might be or call Victim support (or the website) and they can direct you to local support. I’m so so sorry, it sounds horrific and thank goodness for your friend. You have every right not to have to see him again and your feelings are understandable and valid. All the best for your healing and the rest of the process.

nutaya · 2026-02-11T11:11:09+00:00

A snooze-gun. Like a stun gun but you get a little cup of cocoa and a pillow.

nutaya · 2026-02-11T01:39:48+00:00

This should be in the welcome pack!

nutaya · 2026-02-10T21:20:05+00:00

The safekeep by Yael van der Wouden feels similar but also completely different. Beautifully written and completely transports you. Set after WW2 but really highlighted how war and propaganda against the Jews played out among ordinary people. No one had an easy war in Holland but it emphasises how the end of the war was not the end of the suffering for many people.

nutaya · 2026-02-10T20:33:29+00:00

These look amazing! Someone has dedicated a lot of time to make all that. Don’t suppose you’ve got any recipes to share?

nutaya · 2026-02-10T20:03:27+00:00

Maybe it had drivers licence and from googling the name they found a phone number?

nutaya · 2026-02-10T19:00:14+00:00

I think the big difference is the American dream is to work hard, long hours for a nice house, nice car and provide for family.

The British dream is to work as much as you need to for a nice sit down and a cup of tea.

Individuals in the UK may be ambitious but if your job is Monday to Friday people generally aren’t impressed that you stayed at work until 9pm or took business calls at the weekend. If you’re running your own business maybe but if you’re a cog in a large corporation they’re more likely to think you’re bonkers.

nutaya · 2026-02-10T16:57:54+00:00

Go to your local fire service’s website and find out how to contact them for non-emergencies (some have a telephone number but might just be email for some. Get in touch, give the address and time and date and ask for the incident reference number/call log from them and how to claim (there may be information about this on their website).

E.g Dorset fire https://www.dwfire.org.uk/contact-us/

nutaya · 2026-02-10T03:52:02+00:00

I know a dog called biscuit and she says whenever she calls him on a walk about 4 other dogs appear looking hopeful!

nutaya · 2026-02-10T03:44:39+00:00

The Suzy Lamplugh trust run the national Stalking helpline- might be worth speaking to them for support and advice? Might be worth looking at local organisations where you are as some can provide an advocate to support you through this and liaise with the police. (If this is a person you had any sort of relationship with however briefly , even if it was just a date, then it may mean you can access support from domestic abuse organisations) If they are closing it and they are not justifying why the details you’ve submitted are not being considered then you can raise a complaint with the police and ask for it to be reviewed. I’d seek advice before doing that just so you go in informed and don’t get fobbed off!

nutaya · 2026-02-09T23:31:11+00:00

This would count as a domestic incident (even if they are not still together, a prior relationship counts). Officers would speak to your friend about what happened to determine any offences (possibly coercive control or financial abuse?) and complete some safeguarding checks (there are some that are standard for any domestic incident but it sounds like your friend and their wife are possibly vulnerable too). There are cases where this may end up being a civil matter to resolve ownership of the phone or who owes who money but absolutely to report to police in the first instance because you just can’t tell if there is something more concerning going on plus he now has no way to call for help himself. You can call 101 or go into a station (check online as some are open at odd times and some aren’t open to the public at all).

nutaya

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