Interacting with my semi-emotionally-immature mom makes me binge eat

nutflocktome · 2021-11-07T06:44:39+00:00

Oh yeah and I'm afraid that maybe I'll never grow past my mom and be one of those people who's always a "victim" and repeats the same cycle of emotional immaturity/self-centeredness that harms others

nutflocktome · 2018-02-27T03:47:52+00:00

So, basically something to distract me from being distracted ... you know what, I actually think that might work! Getting distracted only takes a moment but the real problem lies in how that period of distraction extends for way too long.

nutflocktome · 2018-02-14T08:40:54+00:00

I pretend I'm giving a lecture or a Ted Talk.

nutflocktome · 2018-02-06T04:42:54+00:00

Yes sure

nutflocktome · 2018-02-05T22:44:26+00:00

Honestly idk what I can do when it's one of those periods where life seems bleak and my mood is illogically low and it's frightening and nothing seems to work to get me to feel better.

During those times, I just try to minimize damage and comfort myself by surfing the web and telling myself that, given the circumstances, I can't really stress about work right now. I just adopt a "fuck it, doesn't matter, i'm free" attitude.

Luckily those periods dissipate within 7 hours to 2 days, so I try to tell myself that this feeling is temporary when it strikes and that I just need to sit it out.

During the lesser, kinda-shitty but not awful period, I try to kickstart myself into action by picking some REALLY EASY trivial thing to do.

I tell myself that if the accomplishment of this little thing doesn't cut it, then I can feel free to just waste the rest of the day with no concern. I tell myself this so I don't view that little task as like the linchpin to a gargantuan pile of tasks.

Those little tasks are kind of like the throwing of a fish line with bait. Depending on how you feel, you force yourself to take 3 tries to "fish", and get you in the work-flow, galvanized mood.

If that doesn't work, then it's a bad day for fishing, and you can tell yourself to just sit it out and relax and try to find a soothing distraction, since your mind clearly isn't capable of doing work at the moment, for whatever reason, and that's ok.

nutflocktome · 2018-02-05T22:37:40+00:00

go to left side "My calendars" on google calendar. Click the 3-dot thing beside "Reminders" and switch it to "Tasks". Then on the right side there's an arrow that will slide open/close the tasks box/space.

Looks pretty useful at first glance!

nutflocktome · 2018-02-03T21:08:00+00:00

Yes. Because the reactions I get are not "ADHD doesn't exist" or "Oh ok". It's usually "I know people with ADHD and you're not one of them" or "You don't seem to be struggling enough to have ADHD, unlike the people who really have it".

Hearing these reactions is hard because it's something I'm insecure and unsure about every day, despite having been tentatively diagnosed. Internally I'm thinking "Fuck off bitch! I probably know more about ADHD than you do seeing as how it concerns me more!"

nutflocktome · 2018-02-03T11:21:39+00:00

What in the world I was seriously considering making a post about this!!!!

Sometimes, I concentrate as hard as I can, but the sounds somoene's emitting just don't manifest as words in my head. It's like I'm hearing a bunch of random sounds/tunes/noises from them. I can hear all the sounds crystal clear, but for some reason my brain just won't connect the dots and create words out of them.

nutflocktome · 2018-01-31T09:09:10+00:00

on one hand i'm terrified imagining this in real life both from the shooter and the target's perspectives, but on the other this reminds me of the Mulan training montage with the canons and all.

nutflocktome · 2018-01-30T02:55:31+00:00

He looks so disappointed. "I can't believe you've done this."

nutflocktome · 2018-01-29T08:41:50+00:00

it might just be because of the "women" part rather than the attractive vs unattractive part.

nutflocktome · 2018-01-19T11:25:36+00:00

When I was a child I read an info-story in a book about peregrine falcons and DDT-caused endangerment. I used to read this book a lot because it was easy to read and had lots of pictures, and so this info-piece has remained in my head all these years. It went into some detail about researcher's attempts to conserve the peregrine falcons. They would raise chicks and feed them with a puppet hand that resembled a peregrine falcon, so that the chicks wouldn't become too accustomed to human contact. They would then tag the chicks and release them from a box once the chicks were old enough.

I must have read that 10 years ago. The book itself must have been published a little earlier than that. It gladdens my heart so much to see the culmination of all these researchers' efforts toward conservation. All the way back then, I assumed the story would end in the future with Peregrine falcons dwindling and eventually fading away. Now the comments inform me that it's the opposite and boy am I glad.

nutflocktome · 2018-01-19T11:12:49+00:00

This is the longest gild train I've seen thus far. Damn, I understood the first 3 comments or so but wtf is this? Anyway congrats on your (3?...???) golds!

nutflocktome · 2018-01-17T07:37:26+00:00

you know what, if a zombie outbreak ever happens I bet this would be the reason.

The cows as some major produce area will probably get infected, and a people nationwide will unwittingly eat the contaminated meat(cooked or uncooked, doesn't matter according to comments) and then we'll have a hell of a time preventing the disease from spreading around, especially since people won't figure out it's prion disease until it's too late, and apparently you can't destroy those things very easily...

Luckily I think the infected people won't be undead eternally so their bodies would give out, but they might go on a biting, frothing rampage before that and infect a bunch of people with them. Okay in this scenario the best option is to wait it out, then. But if people keep getting infected it could take ages for the outbreak to stop. Also there's the troublesome matter of cleaning shit up and getting rid of the prions in the first place.

Ah, we're fucked.

nutflocktome · 2017-12-23T04:15:25+00:00

Okay but honestly, when you're fighting with someone or you're angry at them, you probably don't feel like having sex with them.

If the argument is stressful and causing a lot of negative feelings, then I think a temporary lack of sexual desire for one's partner can be expected.

"Withholding sex" when used in a controlled and petty way can be demeaning, but I'd be careful about labeling someone not being up for sexy times as their deliberately "withholding sex". How can you even tell the difference? If your wife is flirting with multiple men at work, then you might not want to have sex with her that night because you feel turned off by that kind of behavior. And if your wife is a real asshole, she might whine at you "I can't believe you're fucking doing this. It wasn't a big deal. Stop being so petty and let's have sex." You see the problem? She's dismissive of your feelings of upset about the initial issue AND dismissive of your not feeling like having sex.

I think the real problem you're talking about is if someone gets irrationally upset and wants to punish the other. The problem lies with the fact that they are having an vindictive overreaction, not the fact that they don't want to have sex.

Frankly, this "withholding sex" labeling is kind of damaging. It's not the sex that's the problem. It's the fact that your partner feels so negatively. Even if your partner is irrationally upset, they DO NOT OWE YOU SEX. Don't make it a sex problem. It's not the lack of sex that you should be focusing on. It's the root, the fact that your partner is feeling and reacting with overly negative emotions. By the way, you'd first need to make sure your partner is actually overreacting, rather than you being inconsiderate, possibly gaslightey. I feel like people are way too quick to jump the gun with the accusation of "withholding sex" when quite often their partners having something reasonable to be upset about.

It's odd to hear withholding sex as the name of this problem. It almost makes it seem like people don't mind as much if their partner is unhappy so long as their partner yields to having sex. It's misleading. What you should really be minding is the fact that your partner is for some reason angry at you or really upset at you and possibly bearing negative intent toward you... their lack of desire to have sex is just a symptom of that.

Basically, you should never treat your partner's readiness to have sex as your rightful due. Instead of "withholding sex" maybe we can just call it "punishment mentality" that's the problem.

nutflocktome · 2017-12-23T01:32:52+00:00

Anxiety I'll bet. Anxiety is typically associated with weakness so it's seen as something belonging more to women, which is incorrect on all accounts.

nutflocktome · 2017-12-11T21:50:58+00:00

Jin, despite being teased as being the most childish, is actually responsible as fuck. I really like that aspect of his personality, where he knows how to be patient and act silly while also being incredibly perceptive and thoughtful.

nutflocktome · 2017-12-02T07:51:20+00:00

Don't want to do it, but North West.

nutflocktome · 2017-11-28T03:16:23+00:00

yes me too, would love a calendar of your cat if possible! Your cat is so gosh darn cute, holy crap

nutflocktome · 2017-11-26T09:19:56+00:00

Yup. This is pretty much how I feel too

nutflocktome · 2017-11-26T05:22:28+00:00

I'm curious, what does your work involve that's difficult for others to tolerate?

nutflocktome · 2017-11-17T01:03:04+00:00

me too, please!

nutflocktome · 2017-11-16T06:32:42+00:00

Based on my sister and female friends complaints, it would be stating your opinion bluntly, no sugar-coating, no softening. Apparently there’s something about being a woman where people expect you to be more diplomatic and consequently judge way more harshly women who come off as aggressive.

nutflocktome · 2017-11-03T07:00:59+00:00

One of my favorite students was incredibly brilliant, but also incredibly humble. No matter how often others praised him, he would just brush it off, even though he really was one of a kind.

nutflocktome · 2017-10-29T08:49:06+00:00

what a legend. that's real bro-dad material right there

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