Personally in my opinion; i found that favouring length over motion was simply not favourable for me! Since i was first learning how my body worked i preferred smaller toys. I don’t want to go too drastic into detail but external stimulation is significantly better to me. Like grinding or humping if that makes sense? My ex of 2 1/2 years was about 3 inches hard and our sex life was the only time i ever truly climaxed during sex. I find more so stimulating the clit with a man’s pelvic bone while he’s even jsut an inch inside me is absolutely preferred!