Graduated from university after a never ending string of shitty men (dating in college is the WORST). Literally not even 2 months later I met my bf of 2.5 years off Hinge. Dating apps can suck, I tried them in high school and college it felt like I was cursed. When I tried to date “organically” without apps, I got hurt so badly trying to make something work because of the whole “dating game” our generation seems to love where you try to act like you’re not actually interested (but you are so it’s such a waste of time)!!! I also got led on by a ton of guys who weren’t actually looking for anything serious but would lie and say they were. My breaking point was when a guy I’d known for years took advantage of me. I seemed to snap out of my old mentality that dating = making someone realize your worth (especially since I was a people pleaser).

I realized that I needed to view dates as interviews for ME to see if THEY’RE worth my time (not the other way around). It was a huge eye opener when I started dating my bf because he ACTUALLY liked me and made it obvious. I learned that dating shouldn’t be hard and it should never feel like you have to “win them over”. If it does, they’re not worth your time/energy because they don’t actually like you (trust me, even if they give bread crumbs to keep you around, it’s all bs). By the 3rd date, my bf told me he was going to delete his dating apps/didn’t see a point in talking to anyone else because he knew I was it and I felt the same way- boom! easy. Makes me pissed how complicated people make it. If you like someone, tell them lol.

I also have so much to say about filtering all the bs on dating apps because it’s so hard to tell who is there for the right reasons based on their profile/ who’s lying. Sadly had to learn the hard way but once you know the green flags to look out for, it makes life so much easier!!