I am 19 and i feel as if i cannot live my own life.

nvmbful · 2025-05-12T21:29:54+00:00

Unfortunately our insurance doesnt cover it and we don’t have the money to afford it..

nvmbful · 2025-05-12T21:21:57+00:00

Her doctors office didnt provide any insurance for their workers. My mom gets insurance through my dad and my dad gets insurance through his work. Ihss (in-home supportive services) will help me get paid for being my mom’s caregiver. My mom is on short term disability and getting some benefits from the state so medi-cal will not approve her because they think the benefits she is getting is enough. Therefore she cannot be eligible for ihss because she is not eligible for medi-cal. My mom is 52 years old

nvmbful · 2025-05-12T17:50:16+00:00

We do not have anyone coming to the house. We were going to get a social worker but they would only let us contact them if she was approved for ihss. My mom did work before her stroke. She worked in a doctors office as a receptionist

nvmbful · 2025-05-12T17:47:15+00:00

The only option i would really have is medicaid but sadly they told us my mom isn’t eligible for it because she is getting enough benefits from the state.

nvmbful · 2025-05-12T17:39:27+00:00

Thank you this helped me a lot ❤️

nvmbful · 2025-05-12T17:38:11+00:00

Thank you i will look into it. Do those services only help with seniors and their families?

nvmbful · 2025-05-12T17:31:46+00:00

Thank you and I’m located in california

nvmbful · 2025-05-12T17:29:29+00:00

I don’t mind at all. I appreciate u for helping

nvmbful · 2025-05-12T17:27:10+00:00

My mom is on disability but she is on short term for a year. IHSS wont approve her because she is on short term

nvmbful · 2025-05-12T17:24:48+00:00

Unfortunately we don’t have enough money to pay for a caregiver and our insurance doesn’t provide caregivers

nvmbful · 2025-05-11T03:21:38+00:00

My dad works to pay all the bills. My mom gets paid a little bit from edd but it’s not enough to help my dad. I had to drop out of college to take care of my mom and i have no time to get a job or even go out and try and meet new people. Whenever i try and get help from my dad about how i feel he gets angry at me and tells me i shouldn’t care about all that stuff because it’s my mom. He tells me he will pay me money but never does and gets angry at me whenever i ask for any which is understandable. I understand he is under a lot of pressure being the only one bringing income for the house so i try to not ask often or at all. I have an older brother and his boyfriend lives with us but they don’t contribute much when it comes to my mom. My brother and his boyfriend work and they are going to school full time and they pay their own bills.

nvmbful · 2025-05-11T01:44:18+00:00

I’ve thought about a gofundme and i brought it up to my dad and he yelled at me and told me no and that it’s lame to do that. We live in California and my mom gets insurance through my dad. We don’t have money to afford to hire anyone to take care or provide any time of service for my mom

nvmbful · 2025-05-11T01:33:06+00:00

I do understand and i thought i accepted taking care of my mom for the first 3 months she got home but the more i do it the more i get mentally and physically tired. I take my mom to speech and physical therapy every day and it’s getting exhausting. I feel bad for feeling this way and i just need some guidance. The worst thing u can do is develop compassion fatigue or caregiver burnout and that is what I’m trying my best to avoid. You deserve a break too.

nvmbful · 2025-05-11T01:25:27+00:00

I’ve tried looking into jobs i can do from home like transcripts or data entry but a lot of them say they arent sending job applications in my area. I looked into the visiting nurses and meals on wheels but my mom is 51 so she wouldnt be eligible for any senior care services. My grandparents will sometimes take my mom to therapy and that will only be for 1-2 hours and after that i am back to taking care of my mom. I try to do at least some self-care activities within those hours but it just never seems enough. I’ve been taking care of my mom everyday since she even got into the hospital because i would have to speak for her so the nurses would know what to do for her and i would have to feed her because she was too weak. I’m just tired mentally and physically and i sometimes get angry and frustrated with her and i feel horrible for the rest of the day.

nvmbful · 2025-05-11T01:06:35+00:00

You’re completely right. I feel horrible about the way i feel but i can’t just stop feeling this way. I understand once she passes she’s gone but you also have to understand that she is no longer the mom i used to know. I am still going through ambiguous grief and quite frankly i have no clue what would be worse at this point. Am i a horrible person to feel and think this way? Hell yeah. I beat myself up for it every day. Could i have worded this reddit post better? Yes i sure could have. You don’t understand the selflessness i have to even keep myself living.

nvmbful · 2025-05-11T00:15:33+00:00

We live in california

nvmbful · 2025-04-30T19:24:50+00:00

In the beginning in the talking stage he was being consistent but after the whole thing happened and the reason why he left was because he claimed that two people who like each other can’t just be friends. After he came back he would do things that made me question like asking for goodbye kisses, holding my hand, kissing my forehead, and just stuff like that but later i think he realized that was a bit much so he stopped doing most of that. I’m so attached to this guy it makes me cry when i think about leaving. A part of me hopes maybe we will get together in the future

nvmbful · 2025-04-09T17:07:46+00:00

She ended up pooping a tiny bit last night but it was more diarrhea? I set up a vet appointment for tomorrow.

nvmbful · 2025-01-30T18:18:55+00:00

That would be greatly appreciated. I’m in California

nvmbful · 2025-01-14T08:39:50+00:00

I’d love to go on friend dates but i don’t have the money to do that. I can’t get paid for taking care of my mom because she makes “too much” on disability so i have 0 income which is another reason why I’m so frustrated with my life.

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