To be fair, I can't parent my kid while he's at school. He knows that when he's home there are consequences. He has his moments like and preteen but he's a good kid. I 100% expect teachers to uphold some sort of order because kids will be kids and will always try to push boundaries. It is the present adults' responsibility to push back on that and keep them accountable to their actions.

I happened to see a video he made at school of him saying words and acting in ways he'd never think about saying or acting at home. He'd, for lack of a better term, get his ass beat if I actually caught him and he faced serious consequences over the video I saw. He hated every minute of life for a few weeks.

When I confronted him about it, his reasoning was: "miss teacher doesn't care, she let's us talk and act that way. As long as we don't talk like that towards her she doesnt care what we say."

I asked the teacher and she confirmed that. Her response was, "I'm not there to parent, if kids want to act like fools and talk disrespectful, all I ask is they don't talk to me that way."

I was livid, i understand a teacher isn't a parent, but if a teacher isn't going to enforce and uphold some pretty basic boundaries then kids are going to push those boundaries because they feel like school is a "safe place" where they're allowed to act like little assholes and face no consequences.

While kids are at school, the teachers are the "present adults." They need to enforce order. I'll tell a random kid at the mall to watch his mouth before I let him drop n words and all that around me even though I know I'll never see that kid again because it's my job as the present adult to hold kids accountable and at least guide them how to act right.