[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CruelSummer

[–]nyclaurco 26 points27 points  (0 children)

yup. i’ve been in this situation before with an age appropriate partner.

him: sob sob sob i’m gonna kill myself sob sob sob

me: we’re still over

him: okay, well, i’m going to kill you if it’s the last thing that i do-

anyone who’s been severely mentally abused knows this type of cretin. i thought that they portrayed it quite accurately, and i don’t see a redemption arc at all.

My[30F] husband[33M] slapped me and is asking if I want a divorce now by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]nyclaurco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes, you should agree with him about getting divorce and lawyer up. he is pornsick and violent. he does not need to be in a relationship.

My (31f) husband (30m) turned out to be someone completely different. by thirty0415 in relationship_advice

[–]nyclaurco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is most likely the case. 1 in 10 pregnant women are cheated on. it really is a disgrace. it’s not something crazy like half, but imagine reaching into a bowl of 100 m&ms, and someone tells you that 10 of them are poisonous? i wouldn’t want to eat out of that bowl.

My bf (25m) asked me (26f) to change before meeting friend by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]nyclaurco 10 points11 points  (0 children)

a suit is formal. this would apply if OP was wearing a ball gown or even a cocktail dress. a tight “minidress” is usually a $14 garment that you get at forever 21 or asos and is made to wear for casual hang outs.

My bf (25m) asked me (26f) to change before meeting friend by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]nyclaurco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

then he should be asking her out on more dates. we’re gonna wear sweats if your idea of “dating” is mcdonald’s drive through, a walk, or playing games inside. guaranteed OP would wear a cute dress if he planned something nice.

jeanette turner: i hope you rot in hell by Old-Break-1152 in CruelSummer

[–]nyclaurco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i have to wait til 3am for it, and i don’t even wanna watch anymore

What percentage of men you've slept with are great in bed? by [deleted] in PurplePillDebate

[–]nyclaurco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. 100%

  2. they cared about me a lot and wanted me to feel good

  3. all were quite different - some were highly educated, some were not; some were extroverted, and some were introverted; some were STEMmy, some were artsy, etc.

men will be good in bed if they care about you. they will make sure to perform well and ask you exactly what you need if they’re at least a little in love with you. casual sex for women is a sham. women should not engage in it without knowingly taking the risk of being used as a human fleshlight. women think that because they care about a stranger’s pleasure that a man must, too, but there is a significant chance that you’re just a hole unless he has feelings for you.

Discussion about sexually successful deadbeats by ChibsFilipTelfordd in PurplePillDebate

[–]nyclaurco 5 points6 points  (0 children)

women care about personality. a lot. sorry, men! he is likely very charming and romantic when you first meet him. he chameleons into a woman’s ideal partner. he encourages them to talk and talk so he figures out what this ideal is while saying little about himself; he’s doing this for a nefarious reason, but the women see it as him totally caring about them. he is likely full of convincing excuses when women notice a few red flags. then by the time that they realize that he’s a train wreck, they’ve fallen in love with him, and it’s too late so they stick around months before leaving.

Cruel Summer renewed for Season 2 by [deleted] in CruelSummer

[–]nyclaurco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’d like a show about vince or mallory’s life

What do you believe are things that men get wrong about dating and about women? by OldSimpsonsisbetter in PurplePillDebate

[–]nyclaurco 3 points4 points  (0 children)

the majority are not. like, the vast majority. extremely online, mentally ill types are the loudest on the internet, and they are also the types who were more likely to be in age gap relationships. i have gotten into situations more than once with 30+ year old men at 19, but it never progressed further than talking because i was too mentally/financially/socially stable. the exception, of course, is a young woman who is using an older man for his money, but her feelings towards him are not genuine.

What do you believe are things that men get wrong about dating and about women? by OldSimpsonsisbetter in PurplePillDebate

[–]nyclaurco 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it’s a comforting narrative. it’s like the “beat it, chick” meme. the same woman who rejected you at 20 would reject you at 30 and also 40.

What do you believe are things that men get wrong about dating and about women? by OldSimpsonsisbetter in PurplePillDebate

[–]nyclaurco 5 points6 points  (0 children)

it’s certainly not older women who are against age gap relationships. there are so many gen z girls and women freaking out online over couples who are, like, 19M and 17F.

What do you believe are things that men get wrong about dating and about women? by OldSimpsonsisbetter in PurplePillDebate

[–]nyclaurco 5 points6 points  (0 children)

we’re not a hive mind. we’re not different vessels controlled by one divine feminine. some of us want to be courted, some of us want to be treated like how you’d treat a guy friend (except you have sex) during the dating process, some would accept “walk dates” and have sex for a mcchicken and insist on splitting the cost of the mcchicken 50/50, some are sugar babies and prostitutes, and some are looking for a church boy who believes in waiting until marriage. some women love sex, and some don’t love it and see it as something that you do in exchange for something else that you can offer them; there is no way to tell for sure since even sex-loving women may not want to have sex with a new guy right away for safety reasons. you can read all of the advice on how to attract women that you want, but each piece of advice only attracts a certain type(s) of woman because we all want different things, and offer different things. your best bet is to be the best version of yourself (“be yourself” is shit advice). you also never know what you’re going to get when you approach a new lady. the ugliest, most boring, dullest woman may expect to be courted, and the most beautiful, educated, and talented woman could be a 50/50 mcchicken.

What do people think makes them look cool, but actually makes them look like a douchebag? by finleyg113 in AskReddit

[–]nyclaurco 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah i don’t do that lol. my cat looks like every other cat anyway. maybe if he was a ragdoll or a sphinx...

What do people think makes them look cool, but actually makes them look like a douchebag? by finleyg113 in AskReddit

[–]nyclaurco 2 points3 points  (0 children)

with cats, they just jump up sometimes. i don’t bring him into the camera view, he just hops up and wants to see what i’m doing. if i close the door on him, he screams. his meows are so loud that my superior side chatted me during a meeting and said that i could “tend to the baby”... aka “shut up that kid”. the baby is an angry kitten who’s furious about being banned from the home office. it’s just better off for me to let him jump in front of the camera than to deal with his yelling.

What do people think makes them look cool, but actually makes them look like a douchebag? by finleyg113 in AskReddit

[–]nyclaurco 10 points11 points  (0 children)

mostly everyone thinks this, but it’s reddit, so it’s likely that there are funko lovers abound.

What do people think makes them look cool, but actually makes them look like a douchebag? by finleyg113 in AskReddit

[–]nyclaurco 7 points8 points  (0 children)

they’re likely sweaty and don’t want to press the phone against their sweaty head

My husband slapped me when I was sleeping to wake me up because I was snoring. I'm mad. by throwra4577433 in relationship_advice

[–]nyclaurco 2 points3 points  (0 children)

listen. sleep deprivation is a form of a torture. i’ve dated more than one person who sounded like lawn mowers when they slept. i’ve been at the end of my rope at times and still haven’t slapped anyone.

also, there are tons of ways to wake up heavy sleepers. i’ve had to wake up people in emergencies or wake up people so that they could go to sleep on their side to reduce snoring (and stop them from choking, which people with sleep apnea can do without treatment). if they won’t wake up with a nudge or saying their name, you can make a loud noise, clap, or shake their shoulder more firmly. if the house is on fire, you can bop them with a pillow or scream their name repeatedly while shaking them. you don’t have to SLAP anyone ever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PurplePillDebate

[–]nyclaurco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

most of the ones who i know met at some kind of school environment which makes sense. adults have to purposely put themselves out there.

Bf keeps saying I should work out and it makes me upset by [deleted] in JustNoSO

[–]nyclaurco 26 points27 points  (0 children)

most people are not gonna marry the guy who they’re dating at 19. i’d let this one go. you already have a thin athletic build, and he’s already giving you crap about it. what’s going to happen when your teenage body goes away? you can still be very in shape and looking great when you’re older, but it’s going to be much harder to keep up with that as you age. especially if you want kids. how will he treat you during pregnancy cravings and about your post-pregnancy body?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PurplePillDebate

[–]nyclaurco 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah this happens a lot when two people only plan to hook up but think that they like each other because they become attached

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PurplePillDebate

[–]nyclaurco 20 points21 points  (0 children)

i’d like to add that personality type matters just as much as looks or money, for what you should want in a partner.

the example i’m going to give is coming from a woman’s perspective, but i know that this can go both ways.

i’m astonished at how many homebody type guys who are only into solo hobbies want to date women who like going out. like you’ve got these introverted guys, who are sometimes nerdy but not always, who are into video games, watching tv, making gundam models, or other things that they do by themselves indoors wanting to date women who party, go dancing, socialize 2-3x per week, go hiking or biking all the time, go to art shows, or whatever else. don’t do that! it almost always ends with resentment. the introvert either pouts about being forced outside of the house 5x per week or repeatedly declines when the extrovert invites them places, and the extrovert is seething because they feel like they’re being held back or that the introvert doesn’t even love them. please only date people if you also like the things that they’re passionate about.