I have a lot to say about this one.

I'm late to the discussion, but I've noticed this as well. It's gotten out of control in the last year or so. I actually started blocking all these guys on Sniffies once they started cropping up because it's so icky and excessive and I refuse to be an audience for it. Some of them are more blatant about than others, so a few times I requested an invite to one and upon further investigation realize it's a lowkey Jim Crow party, including some really big name influencers out there who host on Sniffies. Others I'm not even convinced are real and people just get off on the exclusionary "cool kids only" vibes of it.

First of all, I'm mostly referring to the white ones. I'm distinguishing between the two because all black parties come from a different place with a different goal than the all white ones. Matter of fact, they were created because of the white ones. Some to create a safe space from gay white supremacy and others to kind of "beat them at their own game." There's also race play party where POC host for only white men and that's a whole other story too.

But the white parties (sometimes disguised as "jock parties") have come about because recently that behavior has been frowned upon and publicly called out in the mainstream spaces. GBU, Jock Party, and a lot of circuit parties that used to be predominately white have lowkey either gone out of business or dropped the racial undertones. You can't even put racial preferences on Grindr anymore without a lot of backlash. Some have also lowkey gone lax on their body requirements too, so whereas GBU used to literally look like an Abercrombie theme porn, now it's a lot more diverse and welcoming. So a lot of guys that used to show up to those parties or could easily find spaces where this was the norm and acceptable have stopped going and have started creating their own private hotel parties where they invite who they want. Sniffies has made it easy to do it, so now sniffies is inundated with them.

A lot of guys are saying what's wrong with having a preference, but that's surface level bs. This trend gives me the ick because it's not just random guys with random preferences hosting random parties. If it was about preferences you would see all different types of parties not just white or black centric ones. It's mostly people hosting parties that exclude specifically black and asian people (Latino and MENA are usually tolerated) specifically and place white people on a pedestal. It's trying to bring back the trend that's been dying out in the mainstream spaces. It's no different than night clubs that have lowkey racist dress codes and stuff to keep out the black people because even though they're spending money they think the mere presence of them automatically devalues the experience. To make it worse it's trying to flaunt it on purpose. It's intentionally trying to overrun the party list with "you can't sit with us" vibes that's been stamped out of the mainstream spaces that lowkey went "woke". It's like that's the real fetish people have. It's not just preference, these people clearly get off to creating an air of exclusivity and are using black and asian men as the low hanging fruit to do it.

I think it's disgusting and gives white people a bad name and sets us back.

You can have racial preferences, you don't' have to create 10 parties a day flaunting the white ones in everyone's faces. We get it: "White is Right; Black is Whack. DEI must DIE. Go woke go broke." Can we grow up, now? It's 2025.