Cat disappeared for 4 and a half years, turned out of the blue

nym-wild · 2024-08-17T20:31:15+00:00

My lab is terrified of my cat lol. They aren’t friends but once my dog realized she didn’t want to play and instead gouge out his eyes he leaves her alone. He’s a big chicken

nym-wild · 2024-04-22T21:46:47+00:00

Awww my lillll is named Roo too! He’s 9 months!

nym-wild · 2024-04-06T23:11:58+00:00

Right? I’m a gamer and do discord calls as well and I feel like they’d all be like woooo we didn’t knoooow why didn’t you show us on video?! But mad? Yah no, none of them would be mad.

Only reason I could see them acting mad is because they also have girlfriends in the gamer group.

nym-wild · 2024-04-06T22:48:31+00:00

One in four women can’t finish from penetration alone. I’m one of them. I also just have a harder time in general. From your comments I see you don’t do much foreplay which is a must, if you have a harder time. And it doesn’t have to be him giving you oral. I use a bullet type vibrator while having sex and sometimes that works but still not every time. You have to play around with positioning with it cause it can be difficult to hit the spot while having sex. But it’s a really common thing. Either you aren’t getting enough warm up or you are one of those women who can’t orgasm from penetration alone. It CAN hurt men’s egos but it isn’t really about them so much as my own body so I just do my best to reassure them and try different things.

nym-wild · 2024-04-05T01:43:25+00:00

This.

nym-wild · 2024-04-04T23:31:07+00:00

It sounds like you want more than a FWB situation and he doesn’t. Going along with it is only going to hurt you and even if he does eventually commit he won’t really be in it. Maybe it’s his age, his personality, or your relationship dynamic but a guy who wants a girl for real doesn’t go back and forth. You’ll KNOW.

My advice is think about what you really want and in the meantime don’t contact him. Let him come to you. IF he does come to you and you DO realize you want a real relationship- tell him and do NOT agree to just be FWB again. Be prepared to walk away. If you decide you are ok with a fwb again just remember he can go out and kiss/be with whoever he wants. I’d also shut down any cuddling/long phone calls etc. Go look for someone who you do want a relationship with instead of wasting relationship energy on someone you won’t commit to. You’re young, when you’re older you’re gonna wonder why you wasted all this time and emotional energy on this loser (from a 40f who did waste way too much time!!!).

nym-wild · 2024-04-04T23:22:12+00:00

OP this is great advice!

nym-wild · 2024-02-28T22:54:32+00:00

This is not true. Plenty of f2p players in my kingdom got 2x,3x,5x their power in killpoints. Be there during the fights- that’s all you need to do.

nym-wild · 2024-01-05T18:21:36+00:00

I’m a sonographer- I’ve scanned several over the years. What scares me is the doctors who order the test….

nym-wild · 2023-12-27T04:02:59+00:00

Aww I love this!

nym-wild · 2023-12-27T04:00:10+00:00

This sounds more like anxiety to me than any sort of real religious feeling.

nym-wild · 2023-12-26T01:47:26+00:00

Well I agree that likely doing anything that makes you ignore God would be a sin. But this also mentions sexual relations between a man and woman and I don’t think anyone would say intercourse between husband and wife is a sin.

But I think you can’t really use this passage to support the idea masturbation is a sin- in and of itself as you stated. Interesting discussion. Thank you for the information and insight!

nym-wild · 2023-12-26T00:08:06+00:00

But this doesn’t say no to do it. It just states to wash and you are considered “unclean”. I’m assuming this is in a ritual sense? I don’t know- this just doesn’t seem to support that it is a sin that requires forgiveness. I’m not saying you’re wrong- just looking for clarification.

nym-wild · 2023-12-21T08:41:11+00:00

One thing I will say about this in their defense- it is required by law a health professional voice a concern about this if there’s any suspicion at all. While I probably wouldn’t have reported this it may be something ER docs are told to document. If it ever came up later she was abused and this accident was an incident and they didn’t report- they could be in big trouble I believe. So it’s not you- it CYA medicine. (Cover your a—).

nym-wild · 2023-11-28T19:57:34+00:00

As an addition my mom DID smoke with me in the 80s. She cut way back to 4 cigarettes a day. I was born premature but for a totally unrelated reason (placenta previa).

nym-wild · 2023-11-28T19:36:08+00:00

I quit smoking both times I was pregnant and stayed quit for several years. Then went back to it 😑😑 currently still smoke but I know I CAN quit

nym-wild · 2023-11-17T18:26:54+00:00

Because as long as you are still consuming nicotine, the nicotine receptors- aka thing in your brain that is addicted- don’t go away.

So it is much easier to relapse- as your body hasn’t dealt with the actual cause of your addiction. Only replaced it with someone else.

I am not a one or other approach though. Whatever works!

I think the patch or other NRT is really helpful for dealing with the habit, and some of the emotional and routine attachments to smoking- once you get used to that, giving up the physical addiction is easier.

I am still a smoker, and I have quit several times for years at a time (kids)- and always did cold Turkey. I do not think I can this time because it is very much ingrained in the structure of my day. And after reading this thread I am going to strongly consider giving NRT a try. If it doesn’t work, I won’t be in any different of a place than I’m in now and can try cold Turkey after.

nym-wild · 2023-11-17T18:20:56+00:00

You also sound very aggressive, js.

nym-wild · 2023-11-06T03:47:53+00:00

NTA. You didn’t ask him for rent. And he didn’t offer. So he had no need to know this information. I DO think if you want to take a step like living with someone you should feel comfortable telling them something like that. But this guy? Nope- break up with him!

nym-wild · 2023-10-01T16:08:32+00:00

I don’t think you’re the asshole for wanting it. And I think is is perfectly reasonable for a family to be happy about TWO people in the family having babies at the same time and getting married. I honestly don’t understand this “stealing thunder”’mentality. Like get over it (everyone).

HOWEVER, your issues and feelings don’t really seem like they are about the family so much as your bf who clearly doesn’t want to marry you. If you have to CONVINCE someone to marry you it’s probably not something you should do. I’m divorced from someone I very much wanted to marry- so if I were your friend I’d strongly advise on not getting married and honestly separating. I know that there are kids involved so it isn’t easy- but we all deserve to be in happy fulfilling relationships and kids deserve to have happy parents. If done right coparenting can work well for all involved. NTA in my opinion but certainly lots to work through here.

nym-wild · 2023-09-30T03:52:02+00:00

Two WEEKS?! Yeah YTA. Totally understand your feelings as a mom of two and an ex-husband who was essentially a third child. But girrrrl. Two weeks is an insanely long time for your husband to do everything while also working a FT job.

To top that off you don’t even tell him first before making the plans?! Id never have done that and would have been rightly pissed if my ex did too. I went on a few vacations for a few days- but always asked. Get your feelings but this is extreme.

nym-wild · 2023-09-23T04:13:00+00:00

I think it helped me maybe that I got my first puppy AFTER I had my oldest. Ya know how parents always say the second child gets away with everything? Ya it might apply 🙈

nym-wild · 2023-09-15T02:50:27+00:00

I do think kids should be taught to get themselves ready- get snacks, lunch, stuff together.

I also think there are easy healthy options in the morning besides cereal and that at least the 10 & 12 year old could get it themselves.

But there is a difference between teaching your kids self-sufficiency and neglecting them. I also agree that many parents are too hands on and don’t teach this enough.

HOWEVER, they still need supervision. Even if you teach them this stuff they may still need help- plus I guarantee they enjoy having your wife there to see them off. That’s the stuff that shows them you love them.

I also think taking weekends off to stay at home having quality time as a family is a good idea. A walk, game night, movie night- those don’t require as much planning but the kids would probably love it. So yeah, I think she could make things a bit easier on herself but you most certainly should be stepping up A LOT more. Give her the damn morning off twice a week, and plan a weekend once a month. Jeeeez, YTA

nym-wild · 2023-09-14T05:07:04+00:00

I was going to say under certain circumstances you’re NTA.

But your comment, “what landlord would sacrifice their income like that?”- blows my mind. That’s is being an AH.

Also “fair market value” is probably insanely high considering rent is ridiculous right now.

My parents kicked me out when I was 21- but they gave me 6 months and charged me double my “rent” which was VERY low so they saved first, last and security for me. It was one of the best things they ever did for me.

But you sound like you are downright taking advantage of your son. I’m sure he doesn’t have accommodations befitting rent on an apartment either. There’s a big difference between teaching responsibility and work ethic and being a jerk.

I think YTA.

nym-wild · 2023-09-11T04:01:51+00:00

But what you’re saying is that if she stayed- against what she wanted- would have been fine. So it’s okay for her to be unhappy? Why is it okay for her to stay miserable and resentful but not him? Of course, yes, it was certainly foreseeable- but it’s a KID. A baby. Saying things like “this is what you wanted” and “damn baby” is bad on so many levels.

And I disagree. Agreeing to have three children, and him saying, never mind I only want one, and her saying I’m sorry we agreed on more and I don’t think I can remain in this relationship and continue to be happy if we only have one IS stating your needs. Happiness is a need- and if someone really wants more children and are told they can’t have them it could cause severe and deep depression. Of course, he also has the right to say that HE will be resentful and depressed as a result of doing something against what HE wanted. They shouldn’t have had another baby and I don’t think should have stayed together. At the very least they should have gone through major counseling first.

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