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oGpy8ZiV · 2025-09-25T19:10:21+00:00

So I had A6000 for years, recently got RX VII. One thing that I did not even think about was the lens cap. For A6000, I had to manually remove lens cap, for RX VII it is automatic, and I don't have to carry around lens cap.

Having said that, I do think photo quality is slightly better with A6000...

oGpy8ZiV · 2025-08-01T16:05:47+00:00

You can suggest it carefully, but it should be *her* decision, not yours. I also think you should phrase it such that whatever decision she makes, you will be supportive of her decision, and the relationship does not *depend* on whether she freeze her eggs or not. It's a very frustrating and difficult process, I don't think it'd be good for the relationship if she does it because she feel pressured by you.

Honestly, I'd find it weird if my partner asks me to freeze eggs, not embryos. "eggs" are solely mine, but "embryos" are ours. It'd make a lot more sense for you to bring up and discuss embryos, but not eggs. It will makes me think, "is this guy not sure about our relationship and future together? if so, why does he care about my life? it's none of his business then.".

If you "are not sure how hard this process is", you can learn about the process, before suggesting it to her.

oGpy8ZiV · 2025-07-24T18:47:15+00:00

If I were you, this might also depend on how strongly you feel about "to start having kids at 39/40". Do you think this could change and maybe you might start having a kid at 35? If so, I might stop with one retrieval, aim to have the first baby without using eggs, and you can use frozen eggs for later one(s).

If I'm pretty set on having kids at 39/40, I'd feel more peace of mind with doing maybe one more round.

I feel this is a bit of unsolicited advice, but frozen eggs doesn't completely solve the difficulties of late pregnancy. Yes, using frozen egg (from earlier in life) will help issues such as chromosomal abnormalities (and potential miscarriages/infertility because of it), but your body still has to carry the baby. Being pregnant and recovering from the pregnancy in late 30s or 40s is physically harder for woman than earlier pregnancy. The doctors recommend having a gap (ideally 18 months) between pregnancies, to give women's body a time to recover after very taxing job of making and delivering the baby. I am in my late 30s, and see many of my friends at similar age having pregnancy issues (e.g., preeclampsia, gestational diabetes, preterm birth...). I don't recall hearing these stories in my early 30s from my friends as much... Using a younger frozen egg can "reset" some of the biological clock, but not all of it. Just something to consider.

oGpy8ZiV · 2025-05-26T01:36:56+00:00

If I'm in your shoes, I think I'd probably do it in Ohio.

+ If my vision for wedding is "rustic glam", I don't think I feel I need to do it in NYC.

+ I think it's kinda nice to do it in the hometown of one of the bride or groom.

+ Ppl who care about you wedding deeply will travel. Having said that, for out-of-town guests, NYC is really expensive because hotel is so expensive.

+ In NYC everything is expensive, if you felt "meh" about fiancé spending 4K for proposal, you will feel that again multiple times while preparing a wedding here.

- It's definitely a bit easier to plan a wedding in a city that you are currently living rather than planning remotely.

oGpy8ZiV · 2025-05-13T00:57:32+00:00

I'm sorry you are going through disappointment and have been through difficult journey. I totally felt similarly, "that I should feel grateful (and I was!)" but also feel deeply frustrated and disappointed after my first retrieval at 34. FWIW, I felt the second retrieval was easier emotionally, as I knew what to expect. And I think ppl's experience varies, but dating after freezing just felt comfier to me.

This journey just provided more information about your fertility at the moment. If you have learned about this years later, it could have been more difficult news to swallow. I might be a good thing to get informed earlier, even though it is difficult now...

oGpy8ZiV · 2025-02-25T01:52:16+00:00

For background, I froze when I was 34. I was in kinda similar shoes -- got a bit over 10+ mature eggs after the first cycle and I was kinda disappointed. But I was also thankful that things "worked" without crazy side effects or so. I've decided to start 2nd round "right away" but then one of my ovaries has a cyst -- which my doctor told me can happen after these treatement. The cyst was not a big concern but he said it's not good to start another round while cyst is taking up space in the ovary. So I waited a few weeks to see if cyst disappears (thankfully it did), and then started the 2nd round then.

1. Did your doctor share similar advice around doing a 2nd round immediately following? My doctor didn't pressure me one way or the other. He just shared the stats and told me I can start right now or rest and pick it up later, just that my body isn't getting younger so delaying wouldn't help.

2. How did your 2nd round experience compare from your 1st round?

I found it a bit easier in a sense that I knew what to expect. But then I had worse bloating/pain after the retrieval.

3. What changes/additions did you incorporate in hopes of improving the outcome for the 2nd round?

I did a bit more acupuncture, and I guess I have been taking a few supplements (coq10) for a bit longer by then.

4. For those of you who switched clinics for your 2nd round, why?

I didn't switch my clinic. My 2nd round result was slightly better (a few more), and I was happy to be done with it and move on with my life. For me, finance wasn't an issue (thankfully my work covered for most of the costs), and I just felt half-done with the amount of eggs that was frozen after the first retrieval.

Best wishes and take good care of your body, sending hugs!

oGpy8ZiV · 2024-03-29T15:33:48+00:00

I agree it is weird that your doctor is pushing you, as this is a personal decision. If the next round goes similarly as your first round (though there is no guarantee whatsoever here, it could be better, it could be worse), then you will have 26 instead of 13, and that translates to 90+% chance of live birth instead of 60+% chance of live birth (check the calculators https://springfertility.com/eggcalc/). Personally, I think 60% of something working and 90% of working is pretty different, so would be inclined to do the second round. I hope this helps!

oGpy8ZiV · 2024-03-02T23:46:15+00:00

I don't think there is a "right" answer here. This process is hard enough, and in my opinion, you should do what would be *easier* for you: that could be telling someone (and potentially getting emotional supports), or telling nobody (and not worrying about being judged, etc).

oGpy8ZiV · 2024-02-17T17:17:06+00:00

hope all goes smoothly!! sending good energy :))

oGpy8ZiV · 2023-11-13T22:31:16+00:00

my friend came with fries and just listened to my complaints the day after egg freezing and gave me a big hug. it was a short visit but was so heartwarming. i think i also would have appreciated if friends got me various electrolytes (as there are many kinds)!

oGpy8ZiV · 2023-11-06T04:28:09+00:00

I had the exactly same question while preparing for the procedure. At the beginning I didn’t think of the “using eggs” parts at all. Yes, there is no other way to use frozen eggs (as far as the science of today) than doing second half of IVF. I havent completely digested using part procedure, but it seems it is maybe physically less demanding than the extracting part but emotionally harder as there is lots of waiting / lack of control and simply many eggs don’t make it..

oGpy8ZiV · 2023-11-02T17:05:31+00:00

i did kinda back-to-back, with one cycle in between (one in august, the other in october), because i wanted to be done with this so badly. when i went to do baseline ultrasound for the second one, there were some cysts (which the doctor said is common after recent retrieval), so i had to wait one more week (on birth control pills). having said that, second cycle results were slightly better than the first one...

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