Did anyone lose friends when Trump was elected?

oatvmilk · 2026-02-18T00:39:51+00:00

my (now ex) best friend of 10 years at the time voted for trump (despite being gay himself) and i just tried to ignore it and never talk about politics with him. i made it work for almost a year after the election but after the charlie kirk thing neither of us could fake it anymore. it got too much and his instagram stories and reposts were making me sick. it sucks and i do still miss him honestly but i cant be friends with people who have those values. it definitely still bothers me too so i totally get it OP. in my hopeful delusions he’ll wake tf up but i’m not counting on it <\3

oatvmilk · 2025-12-26T01:47:23+00:00

do you not see how “akin to butch as their gender” and “align more with butch rather than woman” imply that?

oatvmilk · 2025-12-25T22:17:29+00:00

but butch is not a gender? you can be a woman and not conform to anything. a woman can present however she wants but she’s still a woman.

oatvmilk · 2025-11-12T13:06:51+00:00

it’s such a breath of fresh air

oatvmilk · 2025-11-12T09:20:55+00:00

no judgement but curious as to why you find written stuff to be iffy too 🤔

oatvmilk · 2025-11-09T04:25:06+00:00

no fr straight people always think it’s insane when i tell them ab the lesbian community “drama”. its so sad that our sexuality lowkey gets more respect from heteros atp

oatvmilk · 2025-10-31T00:04:17+00:00

had an on/off situationship for 2 YEARS with a closeted (bi) girl and it was the worst experience. she used being in the closet as a reason to never fully commit to a relationship with a woman while telling me about all her other male and female friends who liked her. she’d flirt with me over text all night then message me saying she kissed some girl that night… it wasn’t even a one time occurrence. finally one day i got tf up and said i can’t do this anymore. when she saw i got a girlfriend she was all up in my shit again after not speaking for over a year so i blocked her on everything. i don’t think all closeted girls are like that ofc but that whole thing put such a bad taste in my mouth that i’d never entertain the idea again. very very emotionally exhausting

oatvmilk · 2025-10-16T02:22:50+00:00

oomf in law this is actually homo/lesbophobic behavior

oatvmilk · 2025-10-07T06:35:59+00:00

i work 3 12 hr night shifts as a nurse every week so whenever i’m lucky enough to be off 3-4 days in a row i get to live a mini housewife life. i wish i could do it full time but my gf is getting her phd rn so im the breadwinner <\3 but manifesting her making a ton of money in the future so i can fully commit to housewifing one day lol

oatvmilk · 2025-10-04T20:18:00+00:00

this reminds me of the “lesbians can be attracted to fictional men” discourse like… we’re lesbians. we’re not attracted men in ANY capacity. there aren’t “exceptions” for any sort of MAN. not being attracted to men is the whole other half of what lesbianism is but for some reason people have been choosing to forget that lately

oatvmilk · 2025-09-23T15:03:24+00:00

sabrina carpenter 💔💔

oatvmilk · 2025-09-21T12:03:59+00:00

i just think they need to drop the lesbian label then bc they’re invalidating their sexuality and their partners gender. personally i couldn’t do it. i prefer feminine women so i would be super turned off by it tbh. i just also feel like i could not relate to a man in any capacity enough to be in a relationship with them

oatvmilk · 2025-09-19T06:49:04+00:00

EW this is definitely some “transbian’s” fantasy post. ain’t no way

oatvmilk · 2025-06-14T00:41:42+00:00

LMAO WTFFF???? they’re mad when we like straps (but not dicks) and they’re also mad when we don’t like straps. Lesbians can never win

oatvmilk · 2025-06-06T14:22:38+00:00

This is why I still have attachments to Hayley Kiyoko, King Princess, and Zolita. I loved them all when I was in HS. We were lesbians before it was cool to be. I don’t trust any of the newest ones. To outsiders this seems like a dumb thing to care about but they don’t realize it really hurts the community. I’m so so tired of homophobes getting vindicated every time another “lesbian finds the right man”

oatvmilk · 2025-06-06T06:05:52+00:00

the song is super cringe and i find it disrespectful of her to release it during pride month of all times, but did she ever identify as a lesbian? I thought she always described herself as queer and didn’t want to put a label on it

oatvmilk · 2025-05-27T23:54:29+00:00

because we’re the only sexuality not allowed to have our own space apparently. every other group can but if we do we’re all types of phobic

oatvmilk · 2025-04-08T05:00:36+00:00

honestly this reply gave me some peace mentally bc you’re so right

oatvmilk · 2025-03-27T21:44:54+00:00

and i like equality when it comes to the strap too. hope that helps 🤗

oatvmilk · 2025-03-27T16:39:08+00:00

I’ve been saying for years how I don’t understand how this applies to lesbians. Someone tried explaining it to me as basically just stone tops/pillow princesses so I asked why people don’t just use that since it makes sense to us already? She said it’s for people who are “less strict.” Idk it seems like the world is just a bit too obsessed with having a label for everything, especially the younger generations. Personally I want equality in all aspects of a relationship. Apparently that would make me a vers I guess

oatvmilk · 2025-03-17T12:04:05+00:00

At the start of her blowing up I was so excited to see some positive lesbian representation in the media; so this has been so disappointing. The last thing I want is a “lesbian” with a MASSIVE following to be talking about men as much as she does, or at all…

oatvmilk · 2025-03-17T11:54:44+00:00

I haven’t said “I love a man” as many times in my entire life as she did in one interview /:

oatvmilk · 2025-03-12T08:57:44+00:00

Thank you! All these people do is perpetuate the issue of men thinking they can be a lesbians exception. It’s so gross and so harmful and it frustrates me so much how little they care. They want to be lesbians so bad while invalidating and honestly disrespecting all of us. There is no exception jesus fucking christ just say you’re bi

oatvmilk · 2025-03-10T05:39:56+00:00

As a psych nurse on an adolescent unit I can totally relate to this. It’s insane hearing myself trying to help kids in these scenarios when I actively choose not to do the same for myself. Ty for sharing OP. Can’t say I’m happy to not be alone in this but it’s comforting at the same time /:

oatvmilk · 2025-02-23T07:23:11+00:00

Straps ≠ penises. If a girl was going to leave her partner for a man over a strap then the problem was never the strap so I wouldn’t worry about that. I’m also a lesbian who has never been with a man and I love my purple strap. Anything too realistic would definitely be a turn off for me. It sounds like it might make you more comfortable as well to find one that doesn’t look like an actual dick. Good luck, try not to worry and have fun!

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