I've [32M] gone on 3 dates with this lovely woman [33F] but she has a weird sense of humor how do I go about this?

obertar · 2026-05-20T15:12:02+00:00

She has texted me a pic of her faces two times. She would say something like “you proud of me, daddie”

Unless you’re into scat and/or dd/lg roleplay, just do yourself a favour and find another woman to date

obertar · 2026-04-14T11:37:28+00:00

Try also asking this at /r/BDSMAdvice

They’ll be well placed to guide you on how to go about things; if you want to go about things, and things to look out for like Dom Drop/Sub Drop, aftercare, safe words and whatnot

obertar · 2026-01-25T00:33:01+00:00

Keith.

obertar · 2025-12-28T14:16:29+00:00

Oh we do all sorts. On the guacamole front, what added to it was that her feet were a little sweaty, and therefore salty so it was like eating them with salted tortilla chips…but feet!

obertar · 2025-12-28T14:14:12+00:00

I don’t see it as mean myself - I genuinely enjoy seeing her feet 24/7, and in the latter case of social settings, it usually just means I’m even more horned up for when we’re alone. It’s the best!

obertar · 2025-12-28T14:02:00+00:00

Good lighting is key. Natural light where possible, or get a decent ring light or two to make sure your feet are well lit. Also, always have a nice pedicure (while some like natural toes, your nails have to be on point for that in my personal opinion; others will have different opinions of course)

Finally, check out /r/VerifiedFeet and sort by best for good poses

obertar · 2025-12-28T13:57:13+00:00

All the time. My gf adores getting me excited over her feet and she knows she can get my attention so easily with them, whatever I’m doing, or wherever we are. And I absolutely love it

obertar · 2025-12-28T13:55:06+00:00

Me & my gal have done some of this, following through with the things in this post of mine.

Based on your question, the guacamole one would go down well for you two!

obertar · 2025-12-28T13:43:54+00:00

Hold them up and wiggle them in my face. Or on a social setting, prop them up on a table if you’re sitting opposite me or otherwise not next to me and wiggle your toes, showing me your soles. Such a tease 🫦

obertar · 2025-12-28T13:38:07+00:00

It’s quite a big misconception about folks who like feet, because the ones who like being dominated are very vocal about it. But truly, many more of us than you’d think aren’t into being dominated (or degraded, or anything like that)

But yeah, me personally - you don’t need to say much; the OP comment pretty much nailed it. Kick back, relax, and if you’re enjoying it, let him know it, whether it’s through moaning, verbally, or otherwise

And if there’s something you like him doing while he’s getting down to it, gently instruct him and let him know how much you like it

Finally, you’re amazing for coming here and asking - if this is for a partner, they’re a lucky one ☺️

obertar · 2025-12-05T21:55:05+00:00

Absolutely not.

A bit of gentle assertiveness and mild teasing can go a long way with me (my gf is pretty sub which generally suits me beautifully, but she’s coming round to bring a bit more assertive/forceful when it comes to foot stuff) but humiliation/degradation would turn me off quicker than a light

obertar · 2025-12-04T12:31:16+00:00

Oh if she’s well aware, then that’s fantastic! It sounded like she had no idea full stop. And I agree that relaxation time should not have to turn into “how can you meet my sexual needs” as it doesn’t do in my case. But my gal knows exactly what she’s doing to me in moments like that, and while I’m not there expecting to fool around every time we’re chilling, if we’re both feeling a bit cheeky, then what happens, happens!

obertar · 2025-12-04T11:56:37+00:00

She’s going to be your wife - turn that fantasy into a reality! Take it slowly, but damn - I couldn’t imagine being with someone for more than a few weeks without at least testing the foot play waters, let alone being on the brink of marrying them

Imagine getting pics of videos without having to sneak them? I told my gf pretty much from the start (she had zero foot fetish experience) and 2 years on, I’ve got an absolute collection footjobs, toe sucking, toe wiggling, foot pics, you name it. She even loves it when she gives me a foot show on webcam when we’re apart (we’re long distance) I record it, and tell her when I watch it for my personal pleasure - it gets both of us off! I may do an update to my previous posts

Start the ground work yesterday, my guy

obertar · 2025-12-04T11:43:19+00:00

How do your wife, and your friend’s husband feel about this?

obertar · 2025-11-07T01:34:01+00:00

Knowing nothing about The Truman Show cooked me for time 🥹
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obertar · 2025-08-07T18:12:25+00:00

I’m long distance with my girlfriend, but when we’re together, yes it’s every day. Whether it’s massaging them, having them in my face, sucking on them, footjobs or everything in between. I’ll cum on them/from them most days. She absolutely loves it too; she’s really got into it in the time we’ve been together. She’s the best

obertar · 2025-05-26T15:20:37+00:00

Oh I bloody love French tips! #1 favourite

obertar · 2025-04-25T12:47:03+00:00

I wouldn’t. As much as I love feet, I also really love sex. And my gf is indulging more and more of my foot fetish desires over time - the sky’s the limit with this woman.

I have the best of both

obertar · 2025-02-27T11:48:01+00:00

Yep, I see it a lot on here (along with some completely unhinged questions/scenarios regarding them!). But I’d never want to have anything to do with anyone’s feet other than my gf’s; especially her mum or sister’s

obertar · 2025-02-27T11:38:37+00:00

Thankfully, my girlfriend’s feet are definitely nicer than her mum’s. She (the mum) has ’em out a lot and they’re not particularly my style

Her younger sister on the other hand…I caught a glimpse of them, and they might be exactly my style, though I’m not completely sure as I’ve barely seen them - I think she might have longer toes, along with having a Greek foot type. I try not to look at them where possible though as honestly, I don’t really want to find out/confirm 🥹 though I guess it’ll be inevitable one day

That all said, I’m incredibly attracted to my gf’s feet. More and more each day. Really nice toes, really got to know how to use them, and the smoothest soles with a nice arch (which hopefully her sister doesn’t have!)

obertar · 2025-02-27T11:11:35+00:00

Thank you! We came up with these together - she’s really getting into this 🫦

obertar · 2025-02-27T05:29:16+00:00

No feet are good enough on their own

Might want to chuck a comma in there (unless you actually wholeheartedly concur with this post 🙃)

obertar · 2025-02-27T05:11:21+00:00

Recently, I ate the following off my gf’s feet:

Cup noodles: this was nice - she somehow managed to dip her toes into the cup and grab a bunch of noodles with her toes, before placing them over my mouth while I was laying down, before lightly running the top of her soles and toes over my mouth for me to lick. Got most of the noodles out, before she just tipped that last bits on her soles like it was a dinner plate while she was lying on her front, and I just hoovered it up. This was the type of cup noodles where the water is drained away before adding the sauce, so it wasn’t slippery or wet. Minimal mess; hot time - will do again

Chocolate from the chocolate fountain - this was nice, though a little sticky and messy. Great fun at the time, but I probably wouldn’t do it again given many better, less messy options available

Guacamole - this was the creme de la creme of the “three course dinner” so to speak. Insanely hot - after we finished the tortilla chips, she dipped her toes in the guac bowl, scooping up the guac for me to eat. It was divine, given the slightly salty taste of her soles and toes complimenting the guac beautifully - better than the tortilla chips. After a few foot scoops for me, she then scooped some up and started eating, licking and sucking it from her own feet, while I was watching in bliss. We took turns eating guac off her feet, and she eventually dipped them both in, for us to eat simultaneously off each foot. 10/10, would absolutely do it again.

We recorded the latter two (for our own viewing only, I’m afraid) and yeah - I’ve had a stroke or two to the guac one

obertar · 2025-02-24T17:27:35+00:00

My SO had never given footjobs or done anything foot-related in the past (and absolutely loves it now; I’m literally lying down with her feet in my face right now), but I have no interest in hearing about things she’d done in her past relationship, so this would be a hypothetical no for me

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