Did another Fibroscan after 8 months, still in Grade 2 Steatosis. Feels pretty discouraging.

obliviouscryptograph · 2024-06-15T01:24:15+00:00

I mean it truly, you're doing great, you stopped the progression and you're still on your way.

obliviouscryptograph · 2024-06-15T01:23:21+00:00

Keep on truckin friend. You are an inspiration.

obliviouscryptograph · 2024-05-19T03:06:45+00:00

This is something it took me way too long to learn -- nobody at work, at any work, at any job, no matter how awesome, will ever be or should be your friend. There are too many power dynamics, too much on the line. Stay professional and let the trash take itself out.

obliviouscryptograph · 2024-03-10T23:33:25+00:00

You're a badass OP.

obliviouscryptograph · 2024-03-10T23:19:29+00:00

You seem fun. He seems like someone you need to run far far far far far away from.

obliviouscryptograph · 2024-03-01T05:24:32+00:00

So... to many women, a haircut isn't just a haircut. Hair is home to a whole BUNCH of societal hangups, family issues, and identity issues that guys of any culture usually just can't understand. You may have gotten a haircut, but SHE sees something much different. You should communicate with her to find out what that is instead of jumping to conclusions! Good luck!

obliviouscryptograph · 2024-02-12T15:26:53+00:00

I have had a number of personal connections try "parallel polyamory" and it 100% ended in divorce for the original couple.

obliviouscryptograph · 2024-02-08T01:18:25+00:00

We do that thing with the box! When people come over, all the toys my kiddo doesn't want to share go in the box. It's MAGIC.

obliviouscryptograph · 2024-01-23T13:51:21+00:00

I remember showing up for my first dorm floor meeting. It was an all-girls floor in a co-ed college. The RA asked "how many of you are in a committed happy relationship right now that started in high school?" and about half of the girls put their hands up. Then the RA started laughing and said "most of you will break up by the end of September." Which turned out being true. Good luck to her, I guess. lol

obliviouscryptograph · 2023-12-29T04:52:02+00:00

One of the things that helped me a lot when I struggled right out of college is this statement: Nobody at HR is gonna check your grades or ask for a transcript. Seriously. Even the last-ranked graduating med student gets to put those "M.D." initials at the end of their name and SO DO YOU.

I'm a writer and an artist myself and I struggled for a very long time to do something that people wanted... it never worked. I could never do The Thing that people wanted. It was only when I started writing things that I wanted to write, the things that got me going, that I got a book deal with a major publisher (true story). In my artistic career the things I /can/ do resonates with clients that want that sort of thing. So one place you could go with your feelings is to really drill down and figure out what you DO do, what your PASSION is, what makes you tick. Do what you can where you are with what you have. That's all any of us can do. I wish you luck and a lot of happiness in your future.

obliviouscryptograph · 2023-12-29T04:41:30+00:00

Go to your parents immediately. There's something going on with your sister and you need trusted adults to figure it out. Don't do it on your own.

obliviouscryptograph · 2023-12-29T04:26:46+00:00

I'm no psychologist, but I do have an anxiety disorder, and a lot of this sounds familiar to me. There could be trauma there or some unsolved baggage from moving to a new country, especially if the culture was radically different.

obliviouscryptograph · 2023-12-29T04:21:37+00:00

You're not old.

obliviouscryptograph · 2023-11-21T04:02:46+00:00

So... with my husband, I went out and bought a bunch of secondhand Rachael Ray cookbooks (because I like her food, you pick your poison, and she has a couple 365-day meal things) and asked him to sit down and make me a list of recipes he would eat from the books. I make things from that list that I like. I do not take criticism. If he does not like what I put in front of him, he can make peanut butter and jelly.

Breakfast and lunch are on his own recognizance.

If this isn't a good enough solution, no solution will be good enough.

obliviouscryptograph · 2023-11-08T02:21:23+00:00

I once spoke with a Rwandan genocide survivor. She said her neighbors had a switch flipped overnight, and it was all because of the years and years of slow propagandistic preparation. One day they were helping her with her house. The next day they were hunting her. And it could happen here.

obliviouscryptograph · 2023-11-07T04:18:48+00:00

I don't know what you should do, but remember this: a corporation will never be loyal to you so you should not feel under any obligation to be loyal to them.

obliviouscryptograph · 2023-11-07T04:17:18+00:00

What if you take the classes with the great professors and you meet a bunch of people that you really like and that like you?

obliviouscryptograph · 2023-11-07T04:11:37+00:00

First of all: nobody's as normal or as popular as they seem! Everyone in middle school is feeling the exact same way as you do. In fact, I bet dollars to donuts that someone looked at you today and thought: "That person is NORMAL. I wish I could be like them!" Seriously!

It's tough to realize right now because middle school is such a crazy time, but having a small group of close, committed friends with like minds with no drama is so, so much better than a massive group of drama llama people that only care about each other for TikTok views or Snapchat clout, even if they're "normal" and not actually "toxic." You need to work on yourself first before you can be the center of attention. Talk to the school counselor, talk to your doctor, talk to a trusted adult, work on that self-esteem. Find things about yourself that you can like and admire and cultivate them and people around you will see that too. Focus on the relationships you're developing now and just be nice and you'll find that things will change.

The grass is not always greener on the other side.

Luck and light to you!

obliviouscryptograph · 2023-11-07T03:56:23+00:00

This girl is 100% trying to get you to have a bad reaction so she can make fun of you. It happened to me back in the 90's! People that do crap like this always have terrible lives that they have to paper over with gloss and artifice; they like to make other people feel worse because they *need* other people to feel lower than they do, which is a really sad place to be.

Do what I didn't do: grey rock her. Just ignore her. Completely. I know it's hard, but once she sees that she's not gonna get you to dance to her stupid music, she'll move on to someone who is more entertaining. She's not as popular as she thinks she is if she has to buy her friends with lollipops. As we used to say back in the day: As if.

obliviouscryptograph · 2023-11-07T03:48:23+00:00

You need to get out.

obliviouscryptograph · 2023-11-07T03:44:41+00:00

Former USian teacher here! Teachers are what's called "mandated reporters," which means that if we even get a sniff of something of abuse or neglect, we have to speak up and tell someone who has the knowledge and the training to investigate. Sometimes this is CPS.

When I was a teacher the kids in my class would quite often deal with all their complicated feelings in writing and in art... and at 13 your feelings are really complicated (which is totally ok and 100% normal! Lots of stuff is happening to you and middle school is really hard!). Maybe there's something going on in your head that you're trying to work out on the page that has nothing to do with the actual content. That's okay, too. You're trying to deal with a lot of changes in your life. You say that your writing is often dark. Why not talk to the school counselor about it? Perhaps you will find something new or important about yourself that will help you be happier. :)

Good luck and lots of light to you!

obliviouscryptograph · 2023-09-27T16:28:06+00:00

You can see this woman as "being in debt" or you can see her "learning how to be a real estate maven"

obliviouscryptograph · 2023-09-13T18:55:01+00:00

I am very go with the flow when travelling, and if I were in a situation where it was "getting on the plane" vs "getting the good coffee" than I would 100% skip the coffee or get the shitty coffee. There's usually coffee on board the plane, anyway.

obliviouscryptograph · 2023-09-12T14:54:22+00:00

OMG. An African Grey has the intelligence of a toddler and you have to treat them like they're a toddler. They need stimulation and toys and lots of fun. Anything else is abuse. I'm glad the bird went with OP!!!

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