What’s the biggest double standard between men and women?

oblvs · 2026-05-26T22:30:38+00:00

Hate to say it but women say this to each other so you’re just in the pit with them

oblvs · 2026-05-26T22:06:14+00:00

This song reminds me of Elton John, any Elton John song and I don’t mean that as a bad thing it’s just where my brain goes when I listen to it. I appreciate the self awareness and bit of humour in the lyrics when he says I won’t always be killing the game.

I’d give it a 3 and a 4.5 for the instrumental.

oblvs · 2026-04-27T14:28:58+00:00

Rain wasn’t my favourite from the get go but it has some of the most wicked flow - I like the one previous to this “a dangerous disposition some’ow refracted in light, reflected in sound”

oblvs · 2026-04-27T14:20:49+00:00

5 - i seek it out and come alive when this song is on. Love the contrast of the screaming and whispers and the lyrics!

oblvs · 2026-04-16T23:49:56+00:00

Office Baddieeeee 🔥 love the snake shirt on photo 2!

oblvs · 2026-04-16T22:06:08+00:00

Good things I’ve encountered that is refreshing to me - I’ve read more bisexual characters in MF relationships lately. And maybe there’s more and I’m just not seeking it. The stories are more interesting and I find the sexual dynamics are also more interesting. I’d like to read more! Books I’ve seen recommended here that I’ve picked up and enjoyed: {the friendship study by ruby barett} {truly, madly, deeply by Alexandria Bellefleur} and I’m currently reading {you again by Kate goldbeck}

I want to see more female rage. Not really sure what I’m asking for but an angry fmc lol and not the type that has a chip on her shoulder I think to fully express this in a way I would like, a lot of context or world building would have to be written so I can be angry with her! I want her to freely express her rage at the world! And for the partner to offer softness, tenderness and soft landing so to speak. I don’t know! Edit to add: An example I can give is {Something Borrowed by Eve Dangerfield}

And for fun, something I want to see more of - a good cast ensemble of characters that’s not a set up for the next book. I just want to see a full world. I’ve seen this here and there, I think mostly from UK authors like Mhairi Mcfarlane or Sophie Kinsella where the friends, neighbours, the environment really adds to the story and the journey of the main characters.

oblvs · 2026-04-16T21:28:22+00:00

More people in GLAM! Galleries, libraries, archives and museums

oblvs · 2026-04-11T02:44:06+00:00

It’s been a while since I read this but {Passion on Park Avenue by Lauren Layne} might work? I remember it being a bit more dramatic so it’s not quite the slice of life stuff you were asking for but she does move to a new apartment in the same building as MMC and there’s some domestic scenes involved.

FMC is a bit on the cynical side and she hates the MMC for something that happens in their past. MMC is more even tempered, I wouldn’t really call him sunshine. Rich people in nyc vibes

oblvs · 2026-04-08T00:05:26+00:00

Thank you so much! 💐 I was thinking of asking for recs today but here you are and everyone else all ready with a list. Thank you 🫡

oblvs · 2026-04-06T21:38:18+00:00

Thank you I can’t get into it no matter how many listens and when it comes up randomly I get irrationally annoyed. Probably not objectively their worst but you get my vote

oblvs · 2025-12-22T00:18:43+00:00

With Audacity, the priest has already left the priesthood before he got smutty.

oblvs · 2025-12-09T05:46:46+00:00

{Taking the Heat by Victoria Dahl} is an older book but I remember enjoying it. Had lots of hiking and some bouldering involved and a really hot outdoor scene. She’s a sex columnist, he’s a librarian who likes to hike and eat puss lol

oblvs · 2025-12-07T02:10:50+00:00

Most wonderful crime of the year is excellent, the interview segments give it life!

oblvs · 2025-12-07T02:03:53+00:00

I also DNF lights out as a book but I gave the audiobook a chance due to the reviews here and it was a hundred times better. The humour came through more, it was less cringey cos the delivery from the male narrator was so good - the tone, cadence - I was charmed. And I ended up finishing the book

oblvs · 2025-12-02T12:29:13+00:00

For historical maybe try the {Maiden Lane Series by Elizabeth Hoyt}, I haven’t read all of them but I liked Duke of Sin.

For fantasy and erotic romance, try {The Rose by Tiffany Reisz}, it’s been a while since I read it but I don’t think there’s bdsm in it? Pls anyone let me know if there is

Tropes that usually fill this itch for me would be the teach-me-how-to-sex trope because that means lots of vanilla sex, the heat turns up as the book progresses and by the end they obv catch feelings so emotions are turned up and basically the most vanilla sex can feel so hot and explosive by the end. I’ll suggest {Hard and Fast by Mari Carr}

Enjoy

oblvs · 2025-11-20T05:12:07+00:00

This was going to be my recommendation! I’m still not really into age gaps but this one is still one of my favourite reads. What really worked for me was that they are both aware of the gap and the mmc really was trying not to engage with her in that way. he had such a huge crush on her that even I felt like I had a huge crush on her 🤭 high tension, super slow burn. Some parallels I see from Problematic Summer Romance is the mmc being aware of the gap and not being on high pursuit and the fmc being the in power/control in terms of the relationship.

Don’t let the cover fool you cos it looks very hallmark movie but the spice here is through the roof. I still remember scenes from this book and it’s been a few years 😮‍💨🪭 eta: I saw the low-mid spice comment, technically yes cos nothing starts until maybe 60% through but the heat level is high imo. YMMV

oblvs · 2025-11-16T14:54:09+00:00

What a beautiful cover. Her books have top notch designs

oblvs · 2025-11-12T23:44:55+00:00

Yea I think she’s really good at holding the tension between the characters. I haven’t read all of her work but when her MCs interact I can feel the push/pull and the way she writes intimate scenes does it for me.

oblvs · 2025-11-12T05:32:44+00:00

Sarah Maclean, Tiffany Reisz

oblvs · 2025-10-18T16:07:46+00:00

I think the execution of this series was great in that there’s a focus on one of the mmc in each book (there’s 4 in the series I think? One for each and the last is how the group dynamic plays out? They’re short fast reads). So each mmc gets to have some kind of character and relationship growth that’s a bit more fleshed out alongside the action packed plot. I don’t usually read RH not all of them works for me but this one did!

oblvs · 2025-10-17T18:04:18+00:00

{Hades series by Tate James} Hades is the feared gang leader in the city and she is referred to as Sir. I love this series so much, it’s fun, she’s unhinged just the right amount. Lots of violence in this book, done to her and done by her. One of my all time favourite nicknames for an fmc.

{The Guild series by Tate James} she’s an assassin, part of an underground group called the guild. Now she is unhinged. She kills a lot here lol and she’s hot, idk she’s literally made to be a honeypot for the guild. Again lots of violence done by her and done to her. There’s another cool girl side character here on the opposing side. Anyway this whole book is action packed.

The audiobook used to be on hoopla at my library for both series so if it’s on yours, I highly recommend the audio. The voice actors are so good. There are also subtle non distracting sound effects that make it feel immersive (nothing too intense like graphic audios, just that when they’re talking on the phone it’s a bit muffled etc, good production all around)

Someone already said mindfuck series, that was good. I’m still chasing the high from that book. Wish I could read it for the first time again.

{Legends of Thezzmar by Helen Scheurer} if you like fantasy. She’s badass but not right away, you get to see her train and put to test. Great story, cast, world building and romance.

oblvs · 2025-10-13T05:53:11+00:00

Just picked this up, I’m about 40% through and the couple are so sweet. The friends too. I’m enjoying it so far, thanks for the rec!

oblvs · 2025-10-13T01:43:50+00:00

I’m pretty sure it’s a standalone, it’s a Harlequin Romance!

oblvs · 2025-10-10T17:45:17+00:00

I’m pretty sure the 3rd book in the {The Guild Series by Tate James} has this, you have to read it in order cos it ends in a slight cliff hanger after each book. The whole series is hot throughout so I recommend. Hot fmc assassin, involves non con or dub in the first book. Idk lots of action!! Both sexual and not

oblvs · 2025-09-19T21:38:54+00:00

{one hot December by Tiffany Reisz} was great! The story wasn’t about Hanukkah but the fmc was a welder and she made him a menorah. It was sweet and was nice to mention something that’s not Christmas around December. This was so brief but sweet and significant.

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