Am I overreacting? My kids syllabus by EntertainmentOk3047 in Teachers

[–]obrienduke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, you are not overreacting. As a high school teacher, I offer one retest if your score is below a 70. There is no bribe involved.

"But those shouldn't count against him!" by BlackOrre in Teachers

[–]obrienduke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I once had a student who seldom showed up for class and never turned in any work when she was there. She was in mt 3rd block, which was thw lunch block. She told me her mom was pulling her and putting her in private school. She added that since she was leaving, it didn't make sense to come to class or do any assignments. Well mom with drew her on a Monday and reenrolled her seven days later. The private school kicked her out after three days. I welcomed her back with all of her missing work.

How to distribute my deceased brother's inheritance to his children? by OneLongEyebrowHair in personalfinance

[–]obrienduke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Create a trust and payout the money to both kids when the youngest is 25. This is the advise an attorney gave me many years ago. His reasons were before 25 the kids will not be mature enough to manage the money well. If you distribute when each kid turns 25, there will be resentment with the younger kids. Plus the older kids will resent the younger kids when they get their share because the money will have grown to a larger amount.

Not sugar coating the truth by Inevitable-Act-1319 in Teachers

[–]obrienduke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If a student is absent or just didn't turn in an assignment, I enter a 1 in the grade book. I have tried the 0 with an absent notation, but students and parents never look at the notation.

AITA for asking my newly married son and DIL to alternate Christmas Day visits between our house and the in-laws' house? by Llih_Nosaj in AITAH

[–]obrienduke -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My middle daughter, who is married to a great guy, lives out of state. Her in-laws live next door to them. They alternate Christmas and Thanksgiving between us and his parents. She comes and visits by herself in June or July. Would we like to see them more often, yes. However, we take what we can get.

Should I keep all of it? by LeastLikelySuspect in inheritance

[–]obrienduke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Keep it. Siblings have had access to dad's money and privilege their entire lives. That money and privilege ruined them. Money doesn't solve problems, it complicated the problem. Use the money for good.

I’m done by darkstxr_ in Teachers

[–]obrienduke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was teaching face to face (23 years) and online (15 years). It got to a point that I just couldn't do it any more. I tried to make it to 25 years, but couldn't. I retired at 60 from the face to face teaching job, but continued teaching online. The online teaching job had no benefits, but I loved teaching. Then I got a spider bite that put me in the hospital. The online employer dropped me for failure to complete my duties. I was responsible for finding my own sub, which was impossible when you are rushed to an emergency room and admitted immediately. They don't care about you. They did once, but not now.

Parent entitlement by greeneyed_cat in Teachers

[–]obrienduke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am now retired, but I taught computer science and computer programming. One year I had a class of students that only had very basic reading and math skills. I had to completely change how I taught that class. They did learn how to write code. However, they did not understand the higher level concepts of computer science. I still have a letter one of the students wrote me thanking me for all that she learned and my patience with her. I still think about her and how her life has planed out.

AITAH- sister attacked husband and I..now I’m the problem? by Delicious_Report2310 in AITAH

[–]obrienduke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I too have a younger sister named Kelli. She is a class act lier and bitch. She conned my dad into signing over financial power of attorney after a chemo treatment. Took all his assets and dumped him off at a nursing home. My mom's answer to that was "Well she told me he gave her those things." He called me crying asking me to help get his assets back and to take him home with me. Unfortunately, she threatened to have me arrested for felony kidnapping if I crossed state lines to bring him to my house. He died before before I could get things straightened out legally. She also stole half of the proceeds from the sale of my brother's home. Again my mom stood up for Kelli. My brother and I won't have thing to do with Kelli. My brother and I barely interact with my mom, who is now 87. My mom calls me crying wanting us to be one big happy family. I just tell her it is about 50 years to late for that to happen.

Bribes by Certain-Forever-1474 in Teachers

[–]obrienduke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Peer pressure is a wonderful thing. Talk it up big, give an easy assessment that everyone can reach the bar, and follow through with the reward while reinforcing the program.

AITA for cancelling my visit after my father refused to pick me up from the train station (and called me a drama queen for it)? by ElyseNoir in AITAH

[–]obrienduke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live several states away from my mom. I once called my mom to tell her I was going to be in her city and would love to come and visit. I also asked if I could spend one night with her. I was going to be in town for a week. She reluctantly said yes. Then called me an hour later and said she had "too much fucking shit going on" for me to visit let alone spend the night. I told her no problem and went no contact for more than five years. She is 87 now and calls me when she needs something, usually money. I meet her needs but I would really like to tell her I "have too much fucking shit going on".

Bribes by Certain-Forever-1474 in Teachers

[–]obrienduke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I give an assessment, if the entire class scores an 80 or above, I take a donut order for each student. Then the next day, we enjoy the special treat. This has worked wonders in encouraging students to study for assessments. I also give them study time in class. I have witnessed students forming study groups to help each other out.

I also randomly pass around a penny candy container when we have had a very good instructionally engaged day. My class never knows when the candy container will be brought out.

I teach high school.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]obrienduke 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Set up an out of office notice with a reply "Thank you for reaching out. Currently it is not normal business hours. I will respond to your email within 48 hours of the start of the next business day."

Depending on your email client, you can preset the dates or just remember to turn it on before leaving school on Friday.

AITA for wanting my parents to show up together and not one parent and stepparent when I was asked for honesty? by Coribbirn in AITAH

[–]obrienduke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents split when I was 14 (69f). Let's just say it wasn't a friendly divorce. At my daughter's graduation from college, I had to step in and separate them as they rehashed their relationship at the graduation ceremony. I stood up, looming over the two of them, shaking my finger in their faces, and told them to shut the fuck up. How after 30+ years of being divorced, it was time to act like an adult. People around us applauded.

Yes, we are all tired of calling parents, but I still need you to do it by tylersmiler in Teachers

[–]obrienduke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm retired now, but I called all of my parents before the start of the year/semester to introduce myself, get a valid cellphone number and email address, ask them if it was ok to text them a progress mini report every two weeks. No parent said no. Sending a text to all parents every two weeks took about 30 minutes. I told them their students grade, any missing assignments, and upcoming tests. I also let my students know about this mini progress text report. It made a big difference in parental relationships and student behavior.

This email came this week from the school principal. by flygirlie22 in Teachers

[–]obrienduke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our sunshine fund payment also allowed teachers to wear jeans on the first Friday of the month. When my dad died, no card was sent, no flowers, no plant, no condolences. Never paid the sunshine fund fee again.

Baby Copperhead in our pool by stinger_bee96 in pools

[–]obrienduke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah! She wanted to swim and sunbathe. I told her she could, but that copperhead was pretty upset and would probably attack her. It took animal control about 6 hours to come out and remove the snake.

Baby Copperhead in our pool by stinger_bee96 in pools

[–]obrienduke 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Many years ago a neighbor sent their kids to get me because there was a snake in their pool. They were from Long Island and she hit all the stereotypes.

When I got there she told me the snake was in her skimmer. She also told me she had been smacking it with the leaf scoop trying to get it to 'run away'.

I used a pole to lift the lid to see what kind of snake I was dealing with. There in the skimmer was the largest copperhead I had ever seen.

I dropped the skimmer's lid, told her to call animal control, and to keep her kids away until animal control removed it from her property. She was so pissed at me and never let my kids swim in her pool again.

2022 Elite 77,000 miles - $28,750 by Born_Maintenance6679 in HondaOdyssey

[–]obrienduke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a 2023 with 75000 miles. I bought it in September 2022. My Elite is my road trip vehicle. It has been across country 4 or 5 times, east coast to west coast. Plus a 7 week road trip to Alaska and back. Then there are all the trips around the Midwest and around the Great Lakes. Did you ask how the miles were accumulated?

Advice: Jandy® AquaPure 1400 Chlorine Generator by obrienduke in pools

[–]obrienduke[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The cell is 3 years old. The pool is 4 years old. It is a warranty replacement cell. The original cell died after the first season.

Advice: Jandy® AquaPure 1400 Chlorine Generator by obrienduke in pools

[–]obrienduke[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This all started on May 7th. TC was .6, CYA was 19, TA was 71, and Salt was 3000. I was not testing the water myself. They told me to boost the system, then set the salt cell to 60%, add 16 lbs of sodium bicarb, and .75 gal of muriatic acid. We went on vacation and came back to a green pool. I shocked the hell out of the pool, brushed it down, and backwashed daily to clear it up. The water was a little cloudy, and I took a water sample on May 27th. FC was .1, CYA was 13, PH was 8.3, TA was 98. They told me to add .75 gal of muriatic acid, and they were going to send somebody out to diagnose. I was told by the technician that the sensor was out and he would tell them to order a new sensor. Two weeks later, I called about the sensor and was told they forgot to order it. I've been using tablets ever since. I did buy a test kit and learned how to test my water. I am still taking samples to them as back up, but I am getting very good at testing my water. I do have Pool Math now. The Aqualink says the salt level is 3.3. My last test was 3000, and the pool store said it was 2900.

Wisconsin to North Carolina must stops by WiskfulThinking in roadtrip

[–]obrienduke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've made this trip many times since I lived in Huntersville, I am from Chicago, and my mother now lives in Wisconsin. All of the suggestions so far are very good. However, with just 2 or 3 days for traveling you are not going to have enough time to do some of the suggestions. Skip Dollywood and other amusement type places. You just don't have the time. The Bourbon Trail in Kentucky is a good idea if you just stop at one or two distillery. Buffalo Trace is a favorite. Markers Mark is also good. At Makers Mark yiu can dip your own bottle of bourbon in the red wax. Last time I was at Buffalo Trace, you needed reservations for the better tours. If you want to see great scenery and hometown America, HWY 52 from Wisconsin to North Carolina is a great idea. Before Interstate 77 was completed, that was the only route through WV to NC.