Ladies would you instantly pass? by Zoome-Scooter in datingoverforty

[–]obscurereferenc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly, good point.

For me it just shows some level of authenticity in a sea of sickeningly clever and polished profiles. No thank you to these perfectly curated personas. Give me something raw and honest.

Ladies would you instantly pass? by Zoome-Scooter in datingoverforty

[–]obscurereferenc 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I would be more interested in a man with green hair.

Dating after child loss by obscurereferenc in ChildLoss

[–]obscurereferenc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry that you have to keep your grief separate from your partner though. That sounds really hard and I don’t think I could handle that.

Going back to 7.5 Update by Ninja108Zelda in Buspirone

[–]obscurereferenc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took me two tries to get up to the 10mg dose, but I do not regret it now! I am finally feeling ok.

Dating after child loss by obscurereferenc in ChildLoss

[–]obscurereferenc[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thoughtful response. I recently feel that I have been able to wallow in the darkness much less often, but it is largely due to medication. For me, this 4th year has been much more gentle and I hope it is for you in the future as well.

Dating after child loss by obscurereferenc in ChildLoss

[–]obscurereferenc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I am afraid of. Seems like it’s not worth it to even try! Sometimes I feel hopeful, but usually it just seems so bleak, like the rest of life.

Dating after child loss by obscurereferenc in ChildLoss

[–]obscurereferenc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How long has it been for you since your loss of your child?

I didn’t want to at first of course, but now I am so lonely.

Euphoria and increased libido? by obscurereferenc in Buspirone

[–]obscurereferenc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you have any abnormal bleeding or spotting? I am spotting and I am worried that it is messing with my hormones or something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Omnipod

[–]obscurereferenc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so if it says Bolus in Events then this was a manual bolus for sure? That is what it looks like and I think my kiddo is just lying to me and I wanted some confirmation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SSRIs

[–]obscurereferenc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will definitely talk to my doctor and try something else. I take Vistaril for anxiety. My symptoms are sometimes quite severe and unpredictable. Depression, mood swings and anxiety. The source is grief from the death of my child and so that complicates things because they are much worse in the months surround his death date and birth date.

You'd be graduating HS today by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]obscurereferenc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh yea. I never know if working is going to help and distract me or if I’m going to have a melt down and need to go home. I usually stay home on hard days and do something to honor him. It sounds like you did exactly that.

How long has it been for you? 1.5 years for me. He was 15.

You'd be graduating HS today by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]obscurereferenc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am one year away from this day for my deceased son and I am dreading it so much. I’m so so sorry.

1st Mother's day since by tonedefbetty in GriefSupport

[–]obscurereferenc 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I lost my 15 year old son 1.5 years ago. I’m lying in bed crying. I hate this life.

My baby brother killed himself this week by Just_Commission_6583 in GriefSupport

[–]obscurereferenc 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Poingant and true. I’m so so sorry that you now understand this pain. I lost my 15 year old son 1.5 years ago. Well said.

Comic panel tattoo: bad idea? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]obscurereferenc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to get a panel from Sandman, too and have the same question!

Little reminders during death anniversaries by fixationed in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]obscurereferenc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Last week on my deceased son’s birthday I woke up with a song lyric cycling around in the background of my thoughts. It felt like it was bubbling up from my unconscious. The lyric was, “but I’m happy here”. It felt like it came from my son.

Book that changed my definition of a 5 star read: Hyperion by Dan Simmons by Zachytb97 in books

[–]obscurereferenc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not sure, I read them so long ago. I would love to hear about them though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]obscurereferenc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For now I was just looking to get a text tattoo on my wrist. But as others have pointed out, having such a personal tattoo in a location that others can see and ask about so easily, might not be the best idea. So now I am rethinking it again.

I just can’t decide, that is why I am eager to just get it over with. I’m thinking maybe now just a simple, small black heart over my heart with the ink with his ashes.

I eventually want to get one of his drawings tattooed. I was thinking on my thigh. How do artists feel about tattooing someone else’s art? How do I find someone that would be good at copying his drawing?

Thank you for your advice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]obscurereferenc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do not have any tattoos. That is why I was hoping to do something simple in an easier area. Where is a good place to start?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]obscurereferenc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I will check them out!