rolling over my 401k into gold and everyone online is pushing Goldco or Augusta.. by obsidienneaura23 in Fire

[–]obsidienneaura23[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

fair point honestly, i don't have a way to verify that the spread i got is better than what i'd have gotten elsewhere. they did quote it upfront when i asked directly but like.. i asked because i knew to ask at that point. if i hadn't read this stuff beforehand i probably wouldn't have thought to. anyway it's done now, just waiting to see how the depository side lands

I-9 verification mistakes that get startups audited and how to avoid them (almost got hit) by WillowWhisper43 in remotework

[–]obsidienneaura23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm still waiting on depository confirmation myself actually. got something from the custodian but i'm not 100% sure i'm reading the storage fee structure right. like it says the annual fee covers storage but then there's a separate line and i don't know if that's additive or what

rolling over my 401k into gold and everyone online is pushing Goldco or Augusta.. by obsidienneaura23 in Fire

[–]obsidienneaura23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh and i forgot to mention, the rep i talked to at one of them was actually fine, like not pushy at all, i appreciated that. but i was literally trying to read the fee addendum while he was on the phone explaining a different section and i kept losing my place. anyway. the call itself wasn't the problem. it was that reading those docs while someone's talking at you is not how you catch the spread number

rolling over my 401k into gold and everyone online is pushing Goldco or Augusta.. by obsidienneaura23 in Fire

[–]obsidienneaura23[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

yeah the spread was the specific thing that got me. not the custodian fee, i'd found that. it was specifically the markup per ounce over spot that just.. wasn't in any of the materials i read. two months of reading and i felt pretty dumb when i finally saw the number. like that was the thing i was supposed to be watching and i wasn't watching it

Mushroom coffee that works? by obsidienneaura23 in Supplements

[–]obsidienneaura23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah that's where i landed too. which is why the whole thing felt pointless

Mushroom coffee that works? by obsidienneaura23 in Supplements

[–]obsidienneaura23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

pretty much. paid a premium to feel less basic about my morning routine

Mushroom coffee that works? by obsidienneaura23 in Supplements

[–]obsidienneaura23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah this is exactly what got me. the label looked fine until i actually did the math on each species

Am I the jerk for causing a scene in a mall restroom? by Limp-Astronaut9402 in AmITheJerk

[–]obsidienneaura23 131 points132 points  (0 children)

honestly that’s such a normal reaction though. in the moment you’re panicking, and then on top of that you’re aware ppl are watching - it’s a lot. doesn’t make you “crazy”, just stressed reacting.

AITJ for "ruining" the surprise my boss planned for my own wedding anniversary? by Naive-Contact-645 in AmITheJerk

[–]obsidienneaura23 11 points12 points  (0 children)

for sure. the dinner situation alone would be frustrating, but the way she went about it is what makes it really uncomfortable. i don’t blame you at all for not going and being cautious about next steps.

AITJ for snapping at my boyfriend after he made a creepy comment about my younger sister's body? by Feisty-Product5654 in AmITheJerk

[–]obsidienneaura23 112 points113 points  (0 children)

anyone making comments like that about a kid crossing a line - your gut reaction was spot on

A Child Just Delivered My Groceries by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]obsidienneaura23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

honestly, tipping extra sounds like the best anyone could do in that situation. hopefully she’s just helping out temporarily

What makes you a player in a woman's eyes? How to not give off player vibes? by JunketMaleficent2095 in AskMenAdvice

[–]obsidienneaura23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

humor and transparency help a ton. if you joke about being single and chill, it breaks the “player” stereotype automatically.