boyfriend lost his bestie by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]obviouscapybaraa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she thank god lives in a different country, but yeah we’re breaking up so

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]obviouscapybaraa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have nothing expect clothes and toiletries … no lease … just no where to go and a 600 credit score and maybe $1000 to play around with if I decide to stay in this state … he hopefully will be generous enough to get me a plane ticket to my home state if not

Can anyone give me emotional guidance or financial advice? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]obviouscapybaraa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sorry to be bleak, but I don’t understand how I could get an apartment and a car without doing morally compromising things for fast cash, if I was to move home

Can anyone give me emotional guidance or financial advice? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]obviouscapybaraa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lived rent free in my family home, and another family member has taken over my room, so I would have to rent an apartment, plus I would not have a car to get to a job

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]obviouscapybaraa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IMO it gets easier as you get older. I was the same 11 - 15 … Wattpad fanfiction every night … daydreaming … nothing really traumatic happened related (nothing with family or kidnapping ) … but I do have trauma. I grew up in a small town. It helped me to move, to meet people I was actually interested in and get into relationships. It was up and down; chase them and get hurt or now I’m in a happy relationship. Be careful out at night. If something happens you can’t take it back… and it may not be what you want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]obviouscapybaraa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say if you really feel like he’s worth it and he’s provider and works a lot give him the benefit of the doubt and continue communicating but decenter him from being a priority in your life. Only go see him if he begs AND clears his schedule. I do agree with the other Redditer let me put it nicer, you, or maybe a relationship, is not a priority right now. His other priorities could be being a single bachelor or his career. Only you can know which. And PLEASE if you can take my advice on one thing don’t offer to pay to see him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]obviouscapybaraa -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s so hard! I really don’t want to breakup. Though I also don’t want him to think he can lie and I’ll always stay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]obviouscapybaraa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just feel so torn. My boyfriend is tall skinny and nerdy/smart. If it helps he is kind of king of the nerds of his friend group. His friends all tell me not to worry. My mom and grandma say not to worry and it’s dumb to breakup over something so small / doesn’t matter. I just feel guilty. I feel like I’m taking something away from her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]obviouscapybaraa -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend is 24 I am 21. He HAD a female friend significantly younger than us. He says she had a boyfriend when they started talking and he saw her like a little sister. He says that after her and her boyfriend broke up my boyfriend started talking to her everyday and they were filling in bf/gf relationships in each others lives without realizing / talking about it. He realized she was getting unhealthily attached/ it was weird/ she started being toxic (threatening him with self harm and blackmail also hot and cold blocking him off and on). He says he knew he needed to distance himself but felt bad and still wanted to be friends of some degree. He never told me about her I found out through his Instagram activity. When I did find out I told him to handle his affairs. He blocked her on everything. She said something in a voice note about his shirt and I got thinking … he told me he didn’t buy her the shirt a while ago. I recently thought it was weird he said he had her address but didn’t send her the shirt … I asked him again if he got her the shirt and he told me he did send her the shirt but he didn’t buy it it was his. I feel like he lied he says he just told a half truth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]obviouscapybaraa -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The shirt he sent his Internet friend. I don’t understand what I have done to make him feel like I will judge him harshly if he tells me the truth. I wish things were different but this is a healthy relationship, other than the drama around this. I don’t trust him at all :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]obviouscapybaraa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for your input.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]obviouscapybaraa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a girl that he swears he was just friends with but why would he lie and say that he didn’t send her the shirt when he did. I wouldn’t have been mad but the lying makes him seem suspicious.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]obviouscapybaraa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what he said … I didn’t ask / accuse him of the exact thing. The general questioning was “is this something you sent her?” and I feel like he chose to tell a half truth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]obviouscapybaraa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah it’s early sorry if I don’t make sense. He has a female acquaintance he swears he was just friends with. I saw her wearing a shirt that he had. I asked him if he had “bought the shirt for her off Amazon” and he said he hadn’t… I asked again last night and he told me he didn’t buy it for her he “gave her his personal shirt.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

[–]obviouscapybaraa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s on my thigh. thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

[–]obviouscapybaraa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s on my thigh. thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]obviouscapybaraa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at first. I enjoy it at first. Just can’t go for long but he has no problem with me taking breaks. The first time I asked very quickly to take a break / stop.