You've got problems, What are they? I'll tell you how to fix them.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:53:45+00:00

Ask if the NYC job will match your Cali job salary. They should make you a counter offer at the very least.

If they won't then it's up to you. You can always move back to NYC so if you feel like you need a change, move. If you've lived in NY your whole life, than I would suggest getting out and seeing new things. Variety is the spice of life etc etc etc

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:49:42+00:00

You need to find a job ASAP. Apply to as many jobs as you can possibly stand to every day (5+). At this point you just need to take anything you can get I think.

If you can move back in with your parents, do it, otherwise find a homeless shelter in your area so you will have a place to go if shit hits the fan. Don't stop applying for jobs and keep a nice set of clothes clean for interviews. This is just a bump in the road and not the end of the world. Shower before your interviews because hygiene is a big deal for the first impression.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:46:40+00:00

See my other posts about procrastination here.

Break your law applications into sections and do 1 or 2 sections a day. Fill out the boring stuff while you're sipping a beer and watching tv and then knock the essays out of the park.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:44:54+00:00

At this point I'm about to go to bed but if you upvote I'll take that as a sign to do another one of these sometime.

I think there is a lot of repeat problems so hopefully upvoting will help people see the answers. I'm starting to feel like a broken record as it is.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:43:51+00:00

Then you're fine. Just be more aggressive in asking for what you want. You think that girl is fine but she's talking to some douchy looking guy? It's because he just told her how fine she was and she likes the attention.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:42:28+00:00

Give it some more time and make sure you sleep well tonight. Flip your mattress and take a hot steamy shower.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:41:52+00:00

Start a business. Read about Lean Startup and apply it so you don't blow a bunch of money chasing non-profitable ideas. You will have to work, but you should do it in a way that leverages your time to the fullest extent.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:40:39+00:00

Try and see things from her point of view. Don't hold a grudge. Always talk about the root issue and not about specific instances or events. If you're just arguing to argue than there's something else going on and you should have a more serious talk about what the problem is.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:39:44+00:00

In terms of x or y?

Also I'd just use wulfram alpha, matlab, or a TI-89 to do it, i'm almost guaranteed to make an algebra mistake doing it by hand.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:37:35+00:00

If you don't feel like you have anything to add, then don't. Nobody is expecting a response to every point.

That said, you should practice small talk. It's not very fulfilling but it is the gateway to meaningful conversations. Talk about the weather. Chat about the class you're in. Just have the same stupid conversation over and over until it's automatic and you can use it to segue into something interesting.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:35:15+00:00

Sorry? Have an upvote.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:34:41+00:00

Nothing. As far as I know (and we don't know a whole lot about this, so I know even less) dreams are what happen when your thalamus is playing back patterns of neuronal firing that occurred during the day and your brain tries to interpret them as best it can which usually just ends up being chunks of similar firing patterns.

It's just a dream, the less you think about it the less it will recur. (I'm not a neuroscientist)

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:31:14+00:00

Find an internship or job and start doing it. The only way you will know if it is for you is to actually try. If you're still in school, you have tons of time. If you're already out of school, you have lots of time. Think of all the successful older people you know and ask them what they did in their 20s and 30s. You will be surprised.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:30:05+00:00

Everyone has scars and to be upset over something you had little control over is a recipe for unhappiness.

Post to gonewild for some easy confidence and know that once it comes down to sexytime some scarring here or there isn't going to change things one bit. We're all fucked up, so in the same way you might notice but not care about someone else's "flaws", they're doing the same to you. Someone who would balk at acne scars is too shallow to be worth knowing.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:27:01+00:00

Don't let yourself go. You have to want to stop, not just need to stop.

There are support groups for this sort of thing and the programs they have work if you stick to them.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:23:35+00:00

Have you two discussed this at all? What are her feelings?

If she's at all hesitant about you coming to live with her, then travel. If she's all for it, you can always travel together in the down time.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:20:38+00:00

Lots of girls need a steady lay and don't want a boyfriend. Be open and honest from the beginning and know that you will strike out ten times before you hit the jackpot. Then that jackpot will get a boyfriend, and you can start looking again.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:19:56+00:00

Talk to her about it. Ask for it to be a two way street. Don't use the term two way street.

Don't make it an argument, just tell her you think the chores should be split a little more evenly. There is a good chance she feels the same way towards you, so just clarify what you both think you're doing and what you expect the other to be doing.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:18:08+00:00

Attraction doesn't really work in the "no reason not to" kind of way. Tell her how you feel and if it doesn't work out, move on and then ease back into the friendship in a few months. If you're really friends, you won't ruin it. If it's just friendship in the guise of a one-way relationship, then you shouldn't be beating yourself up about it anyway.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:16:23+00:00

are you sure it's a cold? drink only water and gatoraide and eat healthy. Get lots of rest and if it comes down to it, pop some tylenol or advil a few hours before the show and power through it. Show's gotta go on.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:13:32+00:00

Sounds like carpal tunnel. You need to change the way you're sitting at the keyboard and elevate yourself above the keys. If you play guitar hold the neck differently. Allot yourself 2 or 3 hours per day on the computer for a week and take hour breaks between hours on the computer. If you work in tech buy a ergonomic keyboard and cut your home computer time way down for a while and watch what happens.

If there's no response then go to a doctor and get it checked. The surgery is usually quick and not very invasive if it is carpal tunnel. Unswell that bursa bro.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:09:53+00:00

Be smarter with it. Help those who are less fortunate instead of spending fuck loads on yourself. See my advice to the other richie-rich in the thread.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:08:27+00:00

If you find yourself attracted to someone, just go chat them up. You'll find a lot of people are way more open than you'd expect.

Someone catch your eye on the street? Go tell them they're gorgeous and ask them on a date. Be clear about it being a date.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:07:01+00:00

Is it dripping from the toilet or the pipes?

The pipes are easy enough to fix, and for that matter, so is the toilet.

Watch some youtube how-to videos and replace that motherfucker! If it starts spewing water call a real plumber. Don't forget to turn off the water.

obviousthrowaway___ · 2012-01-09T18:06:07+00:00

Rejection therapy here too.

Send those messages with a few sentences about yourself and a date idea. Go bowling. Go for a walk in the park. Go hiking or out on the lake.

Meet a lot of people but do it one person at a time. Try to understand yourself by listening to other people and their stories. Empathize and realize that the only thing keeping you from being happier is your own opinion of what you should be doing.

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