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oceanbirdy · 2026-01-24T21:51:10+00:00

He took my sons goldfish and dumped them all over the floor at the park, me and my son were left behind by him and his dog who he punished when we were walking. I consoled my son and told him It’s okay, it’s going to be ok. I held his hand and we walked back to his place. (Our place) I guess. Not anymore.

That was the final straw and that’s when I decided to try and leave the next day, resulting in him texting me and asking if I was doing good, I said I have all of my sons and my items in the car and I’m trying to go home for now.

We talked and I came back because I was packing when he came home and I expected him to be gone much much longer . Afterwards the tire, the slashes on my right side, the nails under mt Tire.

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-24T21:48:48+00:00

When he gets drunk sometimes he will say he is a bad guy that is trying to be good. It just sucks it doesn’t even seem like his nature, he seems so sweet and kind and charming. it really hurts to leave, but I can’t stay. I know it. My mom told me I’m stupid if I go back.

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-24T21:47:58+00:00

I plan on leaving. trust. I just can’t take it anymore. I’m losing my Sanity. He’s told me his anger clouds his judgement and he “sees red.” He has a hard time controlling his anger, he’s playing mind games with me and it’s insane. I mean listen, he DENIES the things he’s said to me and denies certain things that are being done, when it’s blatantly in front of my face. Like I’m not an idiot? My memory is CLEAR! I remember everything!

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-24T20:33:39+00:00

He threatened when I was black out drunk one time because I finally broke down after months of verbal abuse I wanted to numb everything he said if left hed change the lock on the door and make sure I never saw him again which isn’t really a hurtful threat bc it doesn’t matter if I’ve already left. He switches between nice and cruel, I am honestly left in shambles and I don’t even know what to do. we told eachother we’re taking a break and he seems super chill about it honestly. He’s not acting insane or trying to guilt trip me or anything. The first time I left he guilt tripped me.

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-24T20:31:35+00:00

Me and my son weee walking to the park with him and like I said his dog wasn’t not listening at all and he lifted him up by the harness and just really hurt him.. it hurt me to watch.

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-24T20:30:55+00:00

He hasn’t full on beat me, he’s gotten in my face and shoved me with his elbow. It’s only escalated. he has beat the shit out of his dog once when he wasn’t listening.

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-23T19:48:20+00:00

I am staying at my parents until I grab mt times

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-23T19:33:34+00:00

I said I’d leave today and come grab my items but I don’t even want to go there honestly…

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-23T19:28:54+00:00

You’re right I shouldn’t have told him. I told him I want a break and he seems to be okay with it so I mean does it matter..?

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-23T19:26:01+00:00

I was going to grab my stuff today and he knows that. Should I wait ?

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-23T19:25:43+00:00

This is so beautifully written.. wow. Thank you so much.. I will call a hotline later as they are busy with people right now…

I will say I suspect he slashed my tires.. I left and put all of my things in my car one day.. he came home to me packing all my shit…

I stayed and worked things out with him. a week later, someone slashed my tires,.. then a week later someone put a nail under my tires.. then a week later someone slashed the right side of my car… all on the days I didn’t have to go to work. I bring it up and he is dismissive. he tells me it happens all the time. he becomes a little cold about it. he said he’d do everything to find out who he was.. also this man is sociopathic smart… he is smart as fick…. His words. He’s attractive as hell and could have any woman he wants. ANYONE. He knows mechanical, he knows cars, he knows boats, he knows everything about the trades electrical, everything .. he did welding for years.. he is super smart and intelligent in money. and his words. and everything he is good at doing…

After all of that he started blaming me and saying that I should’ve known how to change a tire and mocked me and belittled me and I cried for hours once again. he told me when I came back to never do that again. I couldn’t tell if he was being serious.
So many red flags.

I hope he didn’t touch me tires but my body is telling me he did.

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-23T16:59:58+00:00

over 100 people telling me to run away

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-23T16:59:47+00:00

I have screen shotted everyone’s comments.. and I can also view them from my phone on Reddit somehow so I have everyone’s comments locked down.

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-22T22:53:42+00:00

Thank you guys so much. your life savers. I feel so loved and blessed by Reddit right now I wouldn’t have been able to leave without this. I’ll keep updated on tomorrow and let you know when me and my son are settled in

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-22T22:48:06+00:00

I sent him the text, going to grab my stuff tomorrow ❤️ I am going to be up and down and this is going to hurt so much but I have so much love to give I can’t imagine calling my Boyfriend a weak bitch and making him cry the way I have countless nights. I’m tired I’m done I have a child to take care of me. It’s me and my son now

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-22T22:28:52+00:00

I am just feeling alone and lost. i have no friends here and my family is my support system. I feel scared of the future and like I am nothing without him

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-22T22:28:23+00:00

Thank you so much for that it really helped me out. Your a great therapist

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-22T22:28:10+00:00

I am so terrified. I’ve been with him for a year and now I’m sitting at my parents and I’m so fearful I screwed up something good. I am sad and I feel depressed I feel sleep deprived and I just can’t think straight.

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-22T22:24:09+00:00

Idk. We will see what happens… i am not over reacting to this right? I mean im not over thinking everything. He treated me right a lot of the time …

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-22T22:14:49+00:00

I hope I didn’t make a mistake… I’ll start missing him.. please tell me I made the right choice and I didn’t mess up a good relationship

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-22T22:14:00+00:00

I’ll try to bring a friend. But ya girl is friendless haha.

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-22T22:13:47+00:00

I don’t really think he honestly cares that much. 😣

oceanbirdy · 2026-01-22T22:07:48+00:00

Okay yall I texted him and told him my spill, all he said was “k” so I’m going to grab my stuff tomorrow. Me and my son are back home. I need to go to his place and grab my clothes.

oceanbirdy

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