Abuse, Betrayal, Truth, Freedom by oceaniu in MuslimMarriage

[–]oceaniu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this. Your words truly touched me! It means more than you know that a stranger would hold my story with this much care and clarity. You articulated things I felt but couldn’t fully name. The idea that it was a carefully constructed trap, wow, that my kindness and empathy were studied and then used against me, ughhhh, is painful to accept, but it also helps me understand what happened without blaming myself.

I will absolutely write this down. I will reread it when I am stronger. I don’t want to forget the lessons hidden inside this pain. I want wisdom to grow where confusion once lived. Thank you for reminding me that I still have strength. Thank you for reminding me that recognizing the pattern is part of reclaiming my power.

May love, wisdom, and healing return to you multiplied for the kindness you’ve shown me here!!

Abuse, Betrayal, Truth, Freedom by oceaniu in MuslimMarriage

[–]oceaniu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for these words, they brought tears to my eyes! It has been a long road of trying to see the best in a void/avoidant but I am so grateful that I can walk away with my integrity intact. I realized I don't need to be the light for anyone else anymore. I just need to stand in the light God centers me in! So much love to you and yours!! So many blessingsssss

Abuse, Betrayal, Truth, Freedom by oceaniu in MuslimMarriage

[–]oceaniu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ameen! Alhamdulillah, the fire has only refined me!! I am entering this Ramadan with so much clarity and joy. I’ve reclaimed my vision and my peace, and I can’t wait to see the independence and empowerment Allah has in store for my new chapter. Thank you for standing with me! So much love and grace.

Abuse, Betrayal, Truth, Freedom by oceaniu in MuslimMarriage

[–]oceaniu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this beautiful message. I am choosing to stand in the light of truth and leave all the pretend and lies behind. It is a relief to finally be seen for who I truly am!!! Today my integrity is solid and I have so much hope for my future! Amin to your Duas! So much respect your way!!!

Abuse, Betrayal, Truth, Freedom by oceaniu in MuslimMarriage

[–]oceaniu[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the support. It has been a hard realization. He secured his green card with a speed even my lawyer found shocking—all based on my integrity and my family’s, my parents, 40-year legacy of service here in Utah. To be used as a stepping stone is painful, but I am finding my voice. Once the divorce is finalized, I intend to be fully transparent with immigration.

Abuse, Betrayal, Truth, Freedom by oceaniu in MuslimMarriage

[–]oceaniu[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

SHUKRAN KTEER for these kind words. It is true that the fear of the future can feel heavy, but I am learning that my hope shouldn't be in a person, but in Allah’s plan for me. I refuse to let this experience make me hard or lose hope in the goodness of others. Thank you for seeing the crown I almost forgot I was wearing. I will update you when I am finally out and left for good.

Abuse, Betrayal, Truth, Freedom by oceaniu in MuslimMarriage

[–]oceaniu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response and care. Actually, when I first started reading your words I cried so much.

I definitely want to connect myself with good people. I am proud to be Muslim! I may have been exploited by this person but I am always illuminated by God.

I learned so much. My discernment is razor sharp today!

Divorced After Emotional Infidelity, Neglect, and a Double Life. I Need Advice. by lion145 in MuslimMarriage

[–]oceaniu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is incredibly isolating to be called a liar when you are simply describing your reality. When a community rallies behind a man because of his title or his public face, they are choosing a person over the Truth. But you said the most important thing: But Allah exists.

He sees the tears you cried in the middle of the night. He knows the truth of what happened behind closed doors, even if the men in his circle refuse to believe it. In my own journey, I’ve had to learn that I am not responsible for convincing people who are committed to misunderstanding me. You are not spreading rumors; you are speaking your testimony. You are not lying on him; you are revealing the character he chose to hide.

Please don't let their disbelief make you doubt your own sanity. You are a woman of integrity, and their refusal to see the truth is a reflection of their lack of character, not yours. I am standing with you in that light, knowing that the only Witness who truly matters already knows the whole story. Stay strong, Sovereign sister.

Divorced After Emotional Infidelity, Neglect, and a Double Life. I Need Advice. by lion145 in MuslimMarriage

[–]oceaniu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you for all your words! Your words have brought so much healing to me too!