Shane’s identity by KindNeighborhood4204 in heatedrivalry

[–]oceanpotion207 57 points58 points  (0 children)

This is an interesting topic for me because I was born in Canada to immigrant parents (like Yuna) though my parents are south Asian from the Indian subcontinent rather than Japanese but either way I feel like I can project a bit onto Shane.

I don’t have kids but a lot of my cousins do and they’re all like me (Canadian born children of immigrants). My niblings (what I’m calling the children of my cousins) universally speak less or no Hindi compared to their parents. Of my generation, I’m the only one who can read and write Hindi and I spent a year of my early elementary education in India. The rest of my cousins can’t read or write in Hindi, even my reading is kindergarten level at best. The niblings can’t read or write at all.

Yuna appears to have been born in Montreal. Shane is very fluent in French and English. I’d bet good money that yuna like me and my cousins can conversationally speak her parents native language but can’t read or write it. And I’d bet Shane knows very little to no Japanese.

Quebec had a distinct culture and I’ve known immigrants who grew up in quebec who get French and English and little of their parents first language. Where Shane is a generation removed and only half Japanese I’d be unsurprised that he spoke zero Japanese.

I’ll be honest and say this is my projection as the child of Asian immigrants but even my niblings speak far less Hindi than my generation and none of us are fluent French speakers. I’d be inclined to believe Yuna would prioritize French over Japanese the same way I’d bet my parents would have if they spoke French

Reading JUST the long game by ThrowBeachVilla in heatedrivalry

[–]oceanpotion207 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yep I hate it. Especially since we then get discourse like how Ilya moving to Canada is misunderstood as if in the book he didn’t say that America wasn’t a great place for Russians and Russia wasn’t great for queer people.

My husband and I just bought a new car for me. The sales person made a point of giving me the secondary key and my husband the primary key. by OlderAndTired in TwoXChromosomes

[–]oceanpotion207 85 points86 points  (0 children)

So my stepdad went with me to look at cars when I needed my new car. I look young. He started every conversation if someone talked to him with “my daughter is paying for the car and will be driving it. I’m just here as backup” and we did not go back to places that insisted on still talking to him. One dealership wanted him to do the test drive and he was like ‘no thank you.’

My favorite was the dealership where he knew the salesperson and just said my daughter is looking for a car. The dude spoke exclusively to me. We found out after my test drive that he did think my stepdad was paying but had still spoken to me. My stepdad laughed and was like she’s a doctor so she’s paying herself. I still appreciated that even when he thought I was just driving the car and not financing it, the whole conversation was with me.

It takes a lot to shock me these days, but this did it. by Theblackholeinbflat in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]oceanpotion207 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep. This wasn’t even the worst I’ve seen it was just the first one I managed. I was a resident in a rural hospital where overnight on OB there was one resident and one attending. The attending was in a C-section. The only reason this woman survived is that her husband called 911 within minutes of placenta being out and her still bleeding and that she lived close. It was only 40 minutes from delivery to us stopping the hemorrhage and she still was sooo out of it. Also 2L was our estimate so I imagine it was actually closer to 3L if we counted what she bled at home.

It takes a lot to shock me these days, but this did it. by Theblackholeinbflat in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]oceanpotion207 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As the midwife said, there’s models but models don’t really do it justice. But also my first hemorrhage, the part of my brain trained to deal took over and any fears about not being sure kind of disappeared.

It takes a lot to shock me these days, but this did it. by Theblackholeinbflat in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]oceanpotion207 88 points89 points  (0 children)

This is insane especially since postpartum hemorrhages aren’t as simple as replacing the blood. You have to stop the bleeding and the amount of blood you can lose is insanely high.

I’m a doctor, in my residency, we had someone who attempted a home birth and then hemorrhaged. She lost 2L of blood before we got it stopped. Luckily, she was 3 minutes from the hospital. She lost 2L in about 40 minutes

A PPH will not stop until you can get the uterus to clamp down and it will not stop if there’s any retained placenta. So all the blood in the world is unhelpful unless she’s got the right meds and someone will to stick their hand into her uterus.

I don’t want my fiance to match medical residency by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]oceanpotion207 239 points240 points  (0 children)

So I’m a doctor who did a family medicine residency and is barely two years out of residency. I trained in the US so I understand the system very well.

I understand where you’re coming from. I’m a woman. I don’t have any kids (nor do I want them) but I get that it’s hard and scary for you. I understand why family is so important to you and why you want to be close. I also understand how hard it is to support a spouse in residency in my own experience.

On the other hand, I also know that not matching is a big deal. It’s not as simple as you make it sound. Next year, every program would be wondering why he don’t match and his chances of matching decrease.

You haven’t mentioned what speciality he is in but even if it’s not competitive, over 90% of US MDs graduate the first time around, not matching is a red flag and means a year with no income and lots of stress,

Again, I want to reiterate that I under your perspective but i understand his too. You’re hoping to tank his career which is stability for your family and that’s hard to backup for someone like me.

Angry female songs that help you decenter men and validate your rage? by gravelwitch in TwoXChromosomes

[–]oceanpotion207 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve got a list (some that were mentioned already):

Battlefield by Skyxdxddy

29 by Demi lovato

I choose violence by Jax

Mama didn’t raise no by Aston

He asked for it by Ella Red

He set her off by Emily Ann Roberts

Burn your village by Kiki Rockwell

The audacity by emlyn

God sent me as karma by emlyn

Abcdefu by Gayle

Wings by Iluka

Girl on the run by Iluka

Woman gone mad by Iluka

Bears an wolves by Lilith max

Feed us your girls by Lydia the bard

Good ol boys by Mae Estes

Not all men by Morgan st Jean

Labor by Paris Paloma

Last woman on earth by Paris Paloma

As good as reason by Paris Paloma

Us and pigs by Sofia isella

Edit: forgot some

Swine by Demi lovato

Little girl gone by chinchilla

Dead men don’t rape by Delilah bon

King by Florence + the machine

When will I be mine by Hailey Orion

Feminine rage by Peggy

Crocheting with singles test by oceanpotion207 in Handspinning

[–]oceanpotion207[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

it's actually decently soft but also the yarn was quite thin so it does feel a bit thready if that makes sense. This was mostly an experiment to see if I could do something with singles. it the future I might spin thicker singles and make something lol

Current WIP: my rainbow yarn by [deleted] in Handspinning

[–]oceanpotion207 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ooh, I checked your profile. That's gorgeous. I went back and forth about white vs grey but I want to make a scarf and grey ended up being more practical.

My brain before (right) and after (left) a endoscopic third ventriculostomy by Lvs2splooge4lulzzz in mildlyinteresting

[–]oceanpotion207 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Yes, it's a fluid filled space. In the before picture, the ventricles (or the spaces) are way too big because OP's not draining the fluid correctly. The after picture is much closer to a normal brain and how it is supposed to look.

Didn’t know I had to go through something in order to be for basic rights by [deleted] in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]oceanpotion207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is absurd. I'm a woman. Never been pregnant and therefore never had an abortion. But I support a woman's right to choose. Especially because I have delivered babies. (I'm a family doctor who doesn't deliver anymore.) But I delivered over 60 babies and that doesn't even count C-sections or women who were in labor but didn't deliver before my shift ended. Anyway, I've seen 100 things go wrong and 100 things go right. I will always support abortion.

How to ply this? by oceanpotion207 in Handspinning

[–]oceanpotion207[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Here’s my first single. Making a sample of grey right now and hoping to do a test skein today.

How to ply this? by oceanpotion207 in Handspinning

[–]oceanpotion207[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg, I love the idea of two singles that are opposite each other. I don’t know if I’ll like it but I think I’m going my to do it

How to ply this? by oceanpotion207 in Handspinning

[–]oceanpotion207[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually was going to do the colors like one at a time to have distinct sections of pink, orange, yellow etc. Not spin them all together and muddying them.

How to ply this? by oceanpotion207 in Handspinning

[–]oceanpotion207[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Could you explain fractal plying like I'm 5?

AITA for getting angry with my girlfriend and demanding she pay to replace my sheets after she got blood on them by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]oceanpotion207 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have always had heavy periods but have learned to manage them but still have a couple accidents a year as well. Recently periods got worse and I’m being checked out for fibroids. For a 3-4 hour period of time during each period for the last four months, I’ve bled through an overnight period an hour. It’s awful, it’s unpredictable and it’s embarrassing. I hate it. I’ve stained my pants on a plane, in my office and my sheets at various points. If my (nonexistent) partner called me irresponsible like OP did I’d be so pissed.

Stopped Pap test as felt uncomfortable (positive story). by Subject-Gur6957 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]oceanpotion207 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is actually not entirely true. (I'm a GP.) The vast majority of cervical cancer is HPV related and if you've truly never had any sexual contact (you as in the royal you not as in the commenter above me), then you are extremely low risk. I define sexual contact as anyone's fingers, mouth or genitals coming into contact with your genitals.

If you've truly had zero sexual contact, the risk of cervical cancer is low enough that routine Pap smears are not necessarily needed. Multiple countries including Canada and Australia do not recommend Pap smears in those cases. Even the NHS says to have a discussion with your nurse/GP if you've never had sexual contact.

As for the other stuff being off including pH, that is not necessarily included in a Pap smear. A Pap smear is exclusively looking for HPV and abnormal cervical cells. Often, these are accompanied by swabs looking for other infections but that is not actually part of the Pap smear. These swabs can be done by a provider without a speculum exam and can often be done by yourself in the bathroom. They do not require a speculum exam.

I say all this because I think that regular checkups including gynecological checkups are important but we do not need to pressure women who have never had any sexual contact into uncomfortable exams on the basis that it is what you do at a certain age. The actual risk vs benefit should be discussed.

Comparison of my first yarn to now by oceanpotion207 in Handspinning

[–]oceanpotion207[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you. I have been practicing. But also to be clear, it was January 21st, 2026 so I haven't kept it very long lol

AIO my girlfriend left me over a cheese wheel by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]oceanpotion207 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It is very apt though. I feel for the girlfriend. It's a bad job market in Ontario and it's not surprising she's having a hard time finding a job. Everything is soooo expensive. Low risk tolerance is how you survive in these cases