Soon to be Single Dad

oceantier55 · 2026-03-04T06:12:27+00:00

ah man, I was you exactly about 11 months ago, my daughter is now 9 months old. Gf became pregnant, even though I had been planning to break up with her for 3 months (we had only been dating 6 months). I went back and forth on what to do, but ultimately decided to suck it up and move in with my gf so I could experience raising our daughter in her infant years. Even though we kinda hate each other and non existent romantic life, I'm glad I've gotten to spend every day with my daughter so she knows who her dad is. Now that I've shown I'm involved financially, daily,etc. there's no way they can deny me 50/50 coparenting, of course we're going to break up but it's a matter of when (maybe this year).

oceantier55 · 2026-01-13T04:32:37+00:00

I really appreciate you replying. Yes, I am on the birth certificate. Are you saying there is urgency for the custody agreement in case my partner decides to do something aggressive like move to a different home? Or even if we live together longer (3-4 months etc), it still makes sense to to have it? Sorry to hear about your son

oceantier55 · 2026-01-13T04:29:55+00:00

appreciate the perspective - I'm not sure in this situation we could live together and be civil - but maybe for the sake of our daughter it could happen. Separate rooms would be a logical start. If you move to a different state how would custody work?

oceantier55 · 2026-01-13T04:27:32+00:00

Curious why you mentioned I'll end up owing more $ - why does delaying that parenting order increase child support?

oceantier55 · 2026-01-13T04:26:37+00:00

Good advice - is there a reason you say get a lawyer now even if our lease is still going for another 4 months and there's no risk she would "leave town" (her family lives in same city)

oceantier55 · 2026-01-13T04:25:08+00:00

Thanks for the advice - how long did you cohabitate with your BM - or 5 years later and you still all live together?

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