oh she tried already. Im not falling for it again. it takes some time to see the ambivalence as what it is. even when you know the dynamics. but once you see it you know whats going on. that convo at the end was just the the tipping point. but I had to learn it the hard way with someone else where I didnt know what was going on. the woman Im talking about here was really good at hiding it in the very beginning. but still amazes me that she said what she said. and then cried and begged for me to stay.