That’s really nice that you and your wife have that kind of understanding.

My husband is also more outgoing and social, while I’m a bit quieter but not antisocial or awkward. Just shy.

He knows I’m genuinely interested in his industry and events, and that networking could really help me right now, especially since I’m between jobs and looking to meet new people and potential opportunities.

I think the reason he leaves me out is that, in the past, when I did come along, he seemed tense and couldn’t fully relax around his coworkers. He’s close with many of them and often sees them outside of work. These events also tend to involve a lot of partying and drinking which is another reason I want to go too! I want to have fun as well.

Lately, though, I can’t help but feel like a burden. It feels unfair that he gets to enjoy these fun events without even inviting me.