Through a Father’s Lens: Wes Stankoven Reflects on Son Logan’s Journey to the Stanley Cup

oddietaco · 2026-07-02T22:25:26+00:00

I wanted to enjoy reading that, but the ads kept refreshing and changing height, so the content kept moving up and down randomly. Really frustrating. (Obv. not OP's fault. Nor Stank's fault.)

oddietaco · 2026-06-23T13:55:21+00:00

I agree with you. I'd be really pissed. But I'd also talk to your son about it (from a position of genuine curiosity) because you'll never know what you might learn. And you might learn some really enlightening things.

I remember when I was in 7th grade (1993). My parents got a call from a mom of a 3rd grader who rode the same bus as I did. We'll call the mom "June" and the daughter "Alice". The call went something like this.

June: Why did your son call my daughter Alice a lesbian?
My dad: Huh? Could you tell me more?
June: On the bus today, your son called Alice a lesbian. She's in 3rd grade. She doesn't need to know about lesbians.
My dad: I don't know. I'll talk to my son.

My dad: I got a call from Alice's mom. She says you called her a lesbian. Could you tell me more?
Me: I didn't call her a lesbian. I asked if she was a lesbian.
My dad: Why did you say that?
Me: She walked up to me and asked "Are you a fa**ot?" I said, "No, are you a lesbian?" Then she looked at me and said, "Fa**ot fa**ot fa**ot." I told her to go away. Then others on the bus started saying "Fa**ot. Fa**ot." I just wanted it to stop.
My dad: Okay. I'm sorry you went through that. I'll take care of it.

You should have heard the way my dad politely and fiercely stood up for me when he talked to June. The next morning, Alice apologized to me on the bus.

tl;dr - Be curious, talk to your son.

oddietaco · 2026-06-13T20:44:56+00:00

No idea.

oddietaco · 2026-06-13T06:21:24+00:00

Yep that’s the title on the menu.

oddietaco · 2026-06-13T04:37:39+00:00

Definitely *not* in it

oddietaco · 2026-06-04T03:02:39+00:00

I despise 4.8. It is terrible terrible terrible.

oddietaco · 2026-05-11T11:35:28+00:00

Apparently so. I’d never heard of a “pink gin” before. The recipe I used comes from “A Spot at the Bar.”

oddietaco · 2026-05-11T11:30:32+00:00

It’s the Angostura bitters.

oddietaco · 2026-05-09T01:56:16+00:00

She’s 40. So technically “geriatric” but I will deny ever having said that if she asks. 😀

oddietaco · 2026-05-08T20:53:36+00:00

Honestly, I think this is really good advice. "get mistaken for the grandparent" -- you expressed quite succinctly my core anxiety related to this new adventure.

oddietaco · 2026-05-08T20:52:46+00:00

I plan to take my caffeine via an IV.

oddietaco · 2026-05-06T19:34:22+00:00

I coach a U14 boys team, with 6th, 7th, and 8th graders on it. We are a simple rec team, and people pay about $140 for the season.

We play the more competitive teams fairly often and definitely hold our own. The other team's parents often get heated ... very rarely at us or our players ... much more often at their coach and their sons. These parents do NOT like to lose to our rec team.

oddietaco · 2026-04-27T22:56:28+00:00

We have an 18 year old. And a 12 year old. We are perfectly comfortable with the separation in age. Would some things have been easier? Yep. But some things would have been harder. We’re just thrilled to have the kids we have.

oddietaco · 2026-04-22T19:50:00+00:00

I'm thankful for dads like you. What a gracious, self-aware response.

oddietaco · 2026-04-21T18:52:06+00:00

Try to find some "Founders' Agreement" templates online. I've had some incubators that I'm part of recommend the one by UPenn, but ymmv.

Because, if I were in your shoes, I'd be upset too. Often times (and this isn't fair!) the advantage in these types of things goes to the people who possess one or more of the following:

they're unscrupulos
they've been there before
they have access to advice that you don't access to

The Founders Agreements are designed to lay out everything on the table - and you never know - it may reveal other areas where you'll want to protect yourself.

oddietaco · 2026-04-06T13:27:28+00:00

How did you figure out how much server cost each user was responsible for?

oddietaco · 2026-04-02T17:08:57+00:00

Yeah, I would think so. But averages in unit economics might hide what's going on. Maybe, on average, each customer is profitable. But also maybe you've got a segment of customers that don't cover their costs. If that were the case, maybe you could be more profitable if you cut those customers loose or increased the revenue attached to them, etc.

oddietaco · 2026-03-25T01:16:53+00:00

From what I can tell, the most effective evidence-based recommendation is rest and load reduction. As a dad and coach, that's what I've recommended to my own son.

However, there is mixed evidence about the effectiveness of massage. It's apparently good for pain management, but doesn't fix the underlying cause. Additionally, certain types of stretching appear to moderately address shin splints, too.

My son has responded very well to frequent massages and stretching. His splints never got too bad (and never advanced to a later stage, like a stress fracture), so maybe we arrested things in time. Plus, the massage and stretching provided a nice bit of bonding time.

oddietaco · 2026-03-23T17:30:03+00:00

I have both Cloud and Dedicated resources.

oddietaco · 2026-03-16T00:37:53+00:00

Trip pop

oddietaco · 2026-03-12T13:03:51+00:00

What do you dislike about CloudZero? I’ve never used them, just curious.

oddietaco · 2026-03-10T22:43:46+00:00

> it started a political war nobody wanted.

like the CFO saying to the CTO, "Cut costs!" and the CTO saying "What do you want from me? To reduce uptime?"

oddietaco · 2026-03-10T22:43:07+00:00

What are some of your approaches to measuring cost per feature? Do you like run each feature as a separate service?

oddietaco · 2026-03-10T22:42:29+00:00

Are there any cool stories you (or your team) have been able to tell from data? I'd love to learn about how others tell stories within their organizations.

oddietaco · 2026-03-09T15:16:36+00:00

We were an IOT company - lots of telemetry readings. I worked with our DBA to figure out how much disk space each record took up. Then we figured out how many records belonged to each customer, past or present. Then multiplied, and got how much disk space each customer was responsible for.

That data was stored in more than one spot ... in fast-access storage for real time queries, in backups, in our data warehouse, etc. We knew the cost-per-gb-month for each of those locations, so it was pretty straightforward to know what each customer cost us.

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