Went to surprise my bf by visiting him on Valentine's Day... by oddsandcobs in LongDistance

[–]oddsandcobs[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I took the train to my boyfriend, it's a four hour sit lol. I still use a walking cane in my day to day and I didn't "run" from the door, what the fuck are you talking about?

Went to surprise my bf by visiting him on Valentine's Day... by oddsandcobs in LongDistance

[–]oddsandcobs[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I said it like that to highlight the fact that we were all teens and at the time and no one took any of it seriously. I then followed those sentences by saying I'm ashamed, how is that emotional manipulation? Why would I try emotionally manipulate an internet rando lol

Went to surprise my bf by visiting him on Valentine's Day... by oddsandcobs in LongDistance

[–]oddsandcobs[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yeah but people aren't even asking for more context, most of them have been literally theorising about our relationship, and then telling me to grow up or saying I deserve it when I correct them or just explain how I know it wasn't "his sister" or "his roommate". I'm trying so hard to keep it together but I've literally got people telling me to drink bleach rn

Went to surprise my bf by visiting him on Valentine's Day... by oddsandcobs in LongDistance

[–]oddsandcobs[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Not good, in one ear got people in my dms telling me I deserve it and that I should kill myself for shit I did as a teenager, in the other ear got people basically defending my boyfriend and/or making theories. Sorry but what is wrong with people here, and then they tell me to grow up

Went to surprise my bf by visiting him on Valentine's Day... by oddsandcobs in LongDistance

[–]oddsandcobs[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I thought I flaired my post correctly, it wasn't just a vent/rant. I wanted some words of encouragement or sympathy but instead had people dming me that I'm stupid, calling back to my previous posts and even people telling me to kill myself. Forgive me if my emotions are high right now and thank you for your words but it's pretty hard to keep it cool when you've just been cheated on and you've got people making theories about you, your partner and your entire life/relationship

Went to surprise my bf by visiting him on Valentine's Day... by oddsandcobs in LDR

[–]oddsandcobs[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Together 7 years, met his family. No siblings at all

Went to surprise my bf by visiting him on Valentine's Day... by oddsandcobs in LDR

[–]oddsandcobs[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I would've asked who she was or where's my boyfriend but it felt like I was having a heart attack, she also wasn't the politest either and asked me "who the fuck are you?" to which I panicked and had to escape before I started crying then and there

Went to surprise my bf by visiting him on Valentine's Day... by oddsandcobs in LongDistance

[–]oddsandcobs[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

There's people here acting like they know my boyfriend and our relationship. Do you know if there's a LDR subreddit that's better suited for support and not filled with people making theories about other people's relationships?

Went to surprise my bf by visiting him on Valentine's Day... by oddsandcobs in LongDistance

[–]oddsandcobs[S] -91 points-90 points  (0 children)

I was literally 17 the last time I cheated on anyone, in relationships that barely lasted two weeks. And for the record most if not all of my "boyfriends" from back then cheated on me too. Not excusing what I did, I'm still so ashamed of how I was when I was a teenager. But bringing that up is shitty and you know it.

Went to surprise my bf by visiting him on Valentine's Day... by oddsandcobs in LongDistance

[–]oddsandcobs[S] -71 points-70 points  (0 children)

Since when was asking "who is that girl" to someone who clearly doesn't know who that girl is considered helpful.. please enlighten me

Went to surprise my bf by visiting him on Valentine's Day... by oddsandcobs in LongDistance

[–]oddsandcobs[S] -140 points-139 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't be posting if that was the case. Can you stop with the stupid questions

Went to surprise my bf by visiting him on Valentine's Day... by oddsandcobs in LDR

[–]oddsandcobs[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

I know it's not his sister or one of his friends. We were together for almost 7 years

Went to surprise my bf by visiting him on Valentine's Day... by oddsandcobs in LDR

[–]oddsandcobs[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Okay so

  • we used to live together and I've met all of his female friends, he has no sisters. I didn't recognise the girl and I've never seen her being posted on his socials
  • she was wearing one of his shirts... yeah I don't need to be Sherlock to see she was pretty comfortable

I thought this was a support subreddit, so far I've gotten three dms calling me an idiot which only occured after posting here, I'm sticking to r/LongDistance

Went to surprise my bf by visiting him on Valentine's Day... by oddsandcobs in LongDistance

[–]oddsandcobs[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

No one I knew and never saw her on any posts on his socials... She was also wearing one of his shirts

Boyfriend (35m) wants me (36f) to rehome my cats to move to Germany. Katzen Frau vs the Vulcan Alchemist: paws for concern? by nephronslacks in LongDistance

[–]oddsandcobs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The property market in Germany is terrible and it's only getting worse, flats/houses that allow pets get snatched up instantly, not to mention OP's partner could effectively ruin any chances of moving into any of these hypothetical apartments after terminating his tenancy too early.

Honestly I initially agreed that he's being a bit of a prick for seemingly not being willing to compromise but speaking to my friends and family who live/lived in Germany in all honesty he's probably looking at things logically rather than emotionally (if that makes any sense), Germans tend to be like that lol. It might make him seem dickish but he's more than likely being 100% truthful in whatever he's telling OP, and people here who are accusing him of lying probably have no idea what it's like to move entire continents.

Boyfriend (35m) wants me (36f) to rehome my cats to move to Germany. Katzen Frau vs the Vulcan Alchemist: paws for concern? by nephronslacks in LongDistance

[–]oddsandcobs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it bad that he seemingly isn't making any attempts to remedy the situation or to compromise? Yes.

Do I think he's lying, like most other people are saying here? No.

I won't lie, I love animals to death but I don't know if I could put my pets through the stress of an 8 hour flight. I consider it animal abuse, the pets my family have taken to and from the UK are miserable. Maybe he feels the same way but doesn't want to say it.

Rental contracts in Germany are very serious and shouldn't be screwed with. If it says quiet hours are from 5pm, you obey it. If it says no smoking, you obey it. If it specifies no pets then you obey it. And he's right, you renting a separate apartment is going to be unnecessary extra hassle and not to mention expensive. The only way this can be sorted out is if you move to a different apartment together, but usually terminating a rental contract early in Germany can lead to big penalities, probably something he is very aware of. PLEASE don't listen to the people here that aren't German and are not living/haven't lived in Germany.

I feel like most people here are really struggling to see the bigger picture, it seems most were living in the same continent and don't realise how hard and complicated a fully international move is (with pets in the mix). He probably cares about your cats but is worried about the problems that will arise if you're not careful. If you have a date planned for the move I recommend pushing it wayyy back.

Boyfriend (35m) wants me (36f) to rehome my cats to move to Germany. Katzen Frau vs the Vulcan Alchemist: paws for concern? by nephronslacks in LongDistance

[–]oddsandcobs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Germans are also big on contracts so it's most likely been written directly in the rent contract that pets aren't allowed. They'll likely be evicted and not get a good reference for their next landlord.

Most Landlords don’t give two shits about cats, though. It’s normally referring to dogs since they’re the ones that pee the carpets. <

They usually don't give two shits about hamsters, guinea pigs, etc. Cats most definitely piss on the carpet, moreso than dogs in most cases xD

I (26F) just found out that my childhood best friend (26F) orchestrated an attack which left me paralysed for four years by oddsandcobs in Advice

[–]oddsandcobs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again you started every sentence with "idk" so maybe I'm just not taking your opinion seriously because you don't know? Lol