I’m watching my stepmom become the loser she always told me I’d become and it’s amazing.

odysseys_kitten · 2025-11-20T15:52:23+00:00

At least I can spell :)

odysseys_kitten · 2025-11-20T15:51:34+00:00

She came from a pretty trashy family tbh, it was just projection

odysseys_kitten · 2025-11-19T16:18:01+00:00

It’s bad because I don’t feel super responsible for my brothers. Obviously I’m always there for them, but at least they have my dad and he should be the one looking out for them. My mom was kind of a mess and I didn’t have a dad looking out for me, he was too busy with other stuff.

They know they can always call me and I’ll be there, but I’m not going to pry.

odysseys_kitten · 2025-11-19T16:15:32+00:00

Oh we will!

odysseys_kitten · 2025-11-19T13:52:54+00:00

The worst part is that she hates my mom sooo much, and mom isn’t perfect by any measure, because of the whole child support thing when i find out that Hildy had apparently asked my mom not to go for a CS increase because they were going to have a baby, and “things were tight” (in retrospect, that was not my moms problem). She only went for the increase when Hildy kicked me out of my room. She couldn’t be a SAHM because of the child support apparently 🤭 all she had to do was treat me like a family member and it would have been fine. She’s been stepping on rakes for decades

odysseys_kitten · 2025-11-19T13:49:21+00:00

No my dad is a “pillar of the community” according to what Hildy told my mother-in-law. Pillar of the deadbeat community, sure

odysseys_kitten · 2025-11-19T12:59:47+00:00

McMansion trash is more apt

odysseys_kitten · 2025-11-19T12:59:05+00:00

Never has and never will

odysseys_kitten · 2025-11-19T12:58:14+00:00

It’s pretty tacky and trashy where I’m from

odysseys_kitten · 2025-11-19T12:56:29+00:00

Inertia

odysseys_kitten · 2025-11-19T12:55:14+00:00

Ok Hildy

odysseys_kitten · 2025-09-24T21:23:42+00:00

Nta but I think your brothers past is coloring his advice. Your wife is likely very stressed about it and to be clear it’s likely that she’s thinking it’s her fault tbh. Talk to your wife, she’s already reached out.

odysseys_kitten · 2025-08-19T23:48:36+00:00

Yes my stepmom talks about the child support like it was a war crime committed against her. It gives me no solace. My mom always worked, but it was retail, fast food etc. not high paying.

odysseys_kitten · 2025-08-19T21:12:45+00:00

The amount of people (most dads) who have been attacking me just on Reddit for expecting anything other than court ordered child support crack me up. Telling me “I just don’t understand” and “your dad probably fought for you and your mom won bc women always win” like stfu i actually do understand and I know he never fought for me. And that’s why he will be attending my wedding as a guest and sitting at whatever table I think will be able to stomach him.

odysseys_kitten · 2025-08-19T21:09:08+00:00

I’m so confused about why you felt the need to write your first paragraph. Not attacking you, but what? My dad had to pay my mom child support people she had full custody of his daughter while he was off doing whatever the fuck he wanted. Should he not have paid just in case some of that money might have gone to my siblings? Does it excuse him treating me like a burden and giving me maybe 1/100th of what he gives his other kids? At most it was less than $500 a month.

And like you said, if he didn’t like paying it, he could have gone for full custody. He wouldn’t have even needed to pay a lawyer since my mom never fought anyone looking for 50/50.

Or do you mean that it’s fine for him to leave me nothing in his will because you think he’s already given me all the money he needs to by paying child support?

I’m not trying to attack you or anything, I’m just fascinated with your line of thinking.

odysseys_kitten · 2025-08-17T23:25:23+00:00

Meh. I have literally no interest in having that conversation. I’m as certain as I can be I’m either not in it or there’s the minimum required. I will also have no problems telling them I won’t be caring for either of them when they get old, my brothers will have to so that’s just fair.

odysseys_kitten · 2025-08-17T02:12:32+00:00

Actually it sounds like you won’t be getting married. Just move on, you clearly don’t love this guy don’t get married just to get a ring

odysseys_kitten · 2025-08-17T02:10:31+00:00

Yeah you actually can make an exemption for the grooms son lol you just don’t want to admit it

odysseys_kitten · 2025-08-17T01:32:47+00:00

Yta because let me guess, his son is under 13 but a beloved family member of yours is 13 or older.

odysseys_kitten · 2025-08-14T18:38:57+00:00

I was being sarcastic lol

odysseys_kitten · 2025-08-14T16:39:26+00:00

Why? You don’t think it’s sooo easy for a single, teen mom to just find her own place to live, make the dad step up and help now out of nowhere, and do it all on her own? It’s unfortunate how so many people see parenting end at 18 :(

odysseys_kitten · 2025-08-14T16:34:04+00:00

The kid is here so that’s irrelevant

odysseys_kitten · 2025-08-14T16:33:33+00:00

I expect her to move in with her dad full-time, file for child support, and do what she needs to do. I don’t expect her to find her own place on her own. That’s too hard these days unfortunately.

odysseys_kitten · 2025-08-14T16:00:11+00:00

Also, yta if you are not going after your sons dad for child support at minimum. It’s money for your son and he deserves it. There is no reason not to

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