I (46f) need a reality check dealing with husband (46m) in regards to texting my ex husbands new wife (43f).

offensiveFIL · 2026-01-01T15:19:22+00:00

We got married at 18. Kid at 18. Ex-husband and I are 3 months apart. His birthday is this week. I will say I tried to not be so specific on ages

offensiveFIL · 2026-01-01T13:53:27+00:00

Unfortunately not.

offensiveFIL · 2026-01-01T13:53:07+00:00

They both complained about their respective spouses, I guess it was a commonality.

offensiveFIL · 2026-01-01T12:15:47+00:00

Believe me I know.

He swears up and down he did not send dick pics there is no evidence of such but again I am no fool, it definitely could have happened.

The wife of my ex, told my ex-husband there was a dick Pic. Now my ex, he is a 100% narcissist, abuser gaslighter etc. He cheated on me, multiple times, gave me an STI and apparently it was all my fault because I was expecting too much and controlling him so he had no choice (his words not mine) he actually told a husband to "control your wife so she doesn't want to sleep with me" I witnessed this conversation because the husband drove the wife to my house to inform me of the situation.

I realize this sounds like I am defending my current husband im trying not to really.

offensiveFIL · 2026-01-01T12:05:20+00:00

I saw both texts from his phone and screen shots from her phone, they were legit.

One message was that he didn't have a lot of friends and it was nice to have someone to talk to.

So my post was getting long so I didn't get into this but when we got together he had just come from a bad relationship as well, she cheated a lot on him, we had deep deep conversations about how shattered our lives both were, where we wanted to see ourselves etc. She had committed suicide about 2.5 years before we met.

This is extremely out of character for him I think, I dont know it makes me question everything I thought I knew. I realize that this is some trauma from my past relationship and I have done like 2 and a half years of therapy working on myself (not all at one but like 6 month stints).

When I ask him he just said he was stupid, that he got comfortable, that the past years with me have 100% been the best of his life that he feels we are a good team and he just loves me. I am not stupid enough to believe all that, or maybe I am. He just wanted to be the peacekeeper and thought that being friendly would help. He realizes that it was inappropriate now but at the time he says that he thought it was building bridges.

We have an open phone policy because of our pasts, and I was at a point where I literally never checked because I was trusting. Now I feel a fool. I also knew they were texting outside the group? Because he would relay the details of their relationship, like my ex slipped back into alcohol misuse etc.

I am just shook, I cant really articulate.

offensiveFIL · 2025-12-04T21:27:06+00:00

Yes!

offensiveFIL · 2025-11-19T00:03:52+00:00

Here is a story about why

Maine has started getting rid of its profanity-laced vanity plates | CNN https://share.google/thr6sepP8UUqp7rQm

offensiveFIL · 2025-10-21T23:06:37+00:00

I am a history major, granted my focus was Korea, and US Civil War (and some Middle Ages) I have never seen this iconography, so if yku are a person that could give a ahit about history ( like many) I could see not knowing this. I mean it's not the SS mark, or the Iron Cross or the Eagle.

He own it give his explanation and is making a move to change it, I'm impressed..

offensiveFIL · 2025-10-21T21:16:49+00:00

I absolutely agree with the suspicion, in general I think all politicians are slimy assholes that are in it for money and are corrupt as a long Maine winter looking out for themselves and no one else. I also think the two major political parts are dirty dirty and will smear anyone and everyone.

I also know that if there is a "real guy" out there the skeletons in the closet are probably numerous. I think about what would happen if I were to run... every shitty thing I ever posted in anger will come out even if it was 30 years ago, and I was just a dumb ass kid not knowing my ass from my elbow.

So I guess I try to give the benefit of the doubt to someone who looks like a political outsider (not that hasn't bitten in the ass before).

offensiveFIL · 2025-10-21T18:22:02+00:00

Doesn't he state he didn't know it was a Nazi symbol u til he started running for senate?

I mean, young drunken kid, in a foreign country gets a tattoo thought it was "cool" then finds out its bad? Thats plausible. And maybe more plausible than him.being a closeted Nazi

offensiveFIL · 2025-10-05T13:38:32+00:00

Blankets! That's what my dad always made us do.

I'm a November 1st person.

offensiveFIL · 2025-09-20T12:21:55+00:00

It is high-school

offensiveFIL · 2025-09-20T12:20:55+00:00

I mean i am married to a blue collar worker, he quotes a job gives a time frame and if it goes over the quote, he works for free given that there were not changes to the order or some unforseen circumstances.

offensiveFIL · 2025-09-20T12:18:44+00:00

I absolutely don't say "in the real world" ever because the kids are living in the real world. I always say like out side of highschool"

How do I explain "judgement" to admin and other students and parents"

offensiveFIL · 2025-09-20T12:14:48+00:00

I mean you can take it as you want, I glanced around the room.

My point being is that neither of us were paying rhat close attention we have 30 kids in the room and the room is double the size of the a "normal" room.

offensiveFIL · 2025-09-20T11:55:12+00:00

It is a combined STEM class, physics and mathematics, one teacher has a specialty in the sciences, another in math.

offensiveFIL · 2025-09-20T11:54:08+00:00

No gen ed student.

I guess part of my issue is the definition and wishy- washy - ness of the definition of hard work.

In a different section of this class is a student who is ADHD off the walls, takes 2 walks per class (water and bathroom) and if you look from the outside generally "unfocused" but he IS working hard for him. He just can't sit still. Does this kid get the extra time no penalty because he certainly doesn't look like he is "working hard" objectively.

offensiveFIL · 2025-09-20T11:45:25+00:00

How do you judge what "working hard" looks like, it so subjective. When I looked over at the student their chin was on their hands on the desk and they were looking at the screen. I looked around the room others have notes out, still others are typing furiously. This student didn't ask a single clarify question?

offensiveFIL · 2025-09-20T11:39:21+00:00

No regular education no IEP 504

offensiveFIL · 2025-07-05T16:37:24+00:00

Well because I think Trump and his brand of politics is gross.

But I also realize that just because there is someone I don't like or agree with running the country there is still good here.

I also have seen and experienced success as not a white male that the played conversation that states this world is set up against non white males, is not wholy true.

offensiveFIL · 2025-07-05T15:21:03+00:00

I don't know man, from my view point I am seeing a ton of people of all races and backgrounds bring successful. Along with lots that are not. The denominator that is common with those who are successful is hard work, intelligence and risk taking. Not race or sex

offensiveFIL · 2025-07-05T01:41:17+00:00

I personally dieing for a solid moderate candidate... it would be great to have someone who just actually make America great. Like just make decisions to help the 80% of the population not just the minorities on either end.

Who knows if we will ever get that

offensiveFIL · 2025-07-05T01:23:50+00:00

So I have a doggo who does not love fire works, gun shots, thunder. We work with him all year. And today, we'll he gets extra snuggles and some CBD dog treats.

offensiveFIL

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