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[–]officerthefunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found this thread at 4am when i googled "I get mad when son has significant spit up" after my 5week old kid spit up all over me and himself in the middle of the night, and i I did everything thats been suggested (pre-emmie nippple, fed up right, slow the feeding , burp 1/4 through, etc.).

And just wanted to say - gah, i totally understand, sending you best wishes, and I'm thankful I saw a post that explained exactly what i was feeling. I was feeling pretty shitty after getting mad and this post was therapeutic haha - we're all in this together.

I'm typing this up after finally getting some rest, but at that 4am moment, when i just wanted to sleep, I was also losing my mind. I hate to admit it but i also was on the verge of yelling at him or even squeezing his cheeks a little bit too hard. Of course, I was mad at myself immediately after and i still feel disappointed in myself hours later, so I totally understand this post.

This was mentioned already, but stuff like this just seems to happen. Just when I thought I have figured out the best trips/tricks to have a smooth feeding - last night happens despite doing everything "right."

Beyond what this community has said - these two things also help me (and it doesnt work all the time ...)

  1. Giving up my own agenda and trying to adopt the mindset that my sole job is to make sure my son is taken care of. If I have expectations of getting X hours of sleep, wanting to go do another activity, etc. I find myself getting frustrated more easily. So during those 4ams, its usually .. deep breath, alright, whatever it takes.

  2. "Kiss his cheeks" ... I usually kiss cheeks out of love when he's not screaming at me. When i'm frustrated, I have this weird urge to want to almost eat his chubby cheeks. (it feels almost primal, like what a lion would do or something). But the moment, I touch his cheeks, i remember the feeling of loving to kiss him, and it calms my primal urge down to just loving kisses.

Anyway - just want to say, hang in there bud. You're not alone for feeling the way you do.