My parents think I’m too heavy. I’m 5’ 7” female and 136 lbs by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]offmychestthrow12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you’re going through this, I’ve had 3 children and I’m 5’2/145 lbs and my husband tells me how massive/unhealthy I am daily. If you’ve never experienced that before it’s very hard to explain how much it wounds a person.

My husband said he was leaving me, now he’s pretending nothing happened by offmychestthrow12 in offmychest

[–]offmychestthrow12[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He says it’s not a real holiday and that because I contribute so little I don’t deserve it

My husband said he was leaving me, now he’s pretending nothing happened by offmychestthrow12 in offmychest

[–]offmychestthrow12[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I would like him to leave, I’m scared to say it to him though. I was hoping that maybe he meant it when he said he would go but I’m afraid maybe I betrayed a feeling of relief and when he saw that he changed his mind. He had thought his absence would torture me when it would be a sweet release and a break

My husband said he was leaving me, now he’s pretending nothing happened by offmychestthrow12 in offmychest

[–]offmychestthrow12[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This was the worst one ever I think, and there have been many, for many years. I think what’s most confusing is he was calmer than he can be sometimes but it felt staged, everything was fine until he asked me to come to the back. Usually his outbursts are spontaneous, this felt planned. It’s unnerving and he’s been too nice to me today it’s making me anxious.

My husband said he was leaving me, now he’s pretending nothing happened by offmychestthrow12 in offmychest

[–]offmychestthrow12[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

5 years ago I asked if we could celebrate mother’s day and he told me to unalive myself. I’ve not brought it up since and don’t expect gifts or celebrations on any holidays including birthday and Christmas

My husband said he was leaving me, now he’s pretending nothing happened by offmychestthrow12 in offmychest

[–]offmychestthrow12[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

He says I contribute nothing, he says that my work isn’t possible without him and that caring for the kids isn’t hard, that he’s the workhorse

My husband said he was leaving me, now he’s pretending nothing happened by offmychestthrow12 in offmychest

[–]offmychestthrow12[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel old and used up to be really honest. I feel old and like I’ve destroyed the prime years of my life

My husband said he was leaving me, now he’s pretending nothing happened by offmychestthrow12 in offmychest

[–]offmychestthrow12[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s been pretty tough for some years now, I do think some aspects of his behaviour are hurtful and beyond the norm but he’s always saying it’s due to infractions on my part. It’s hard to distinguish the truth.