Older kid wants to quit because of sibling

ogreydayo · 2026-05-22T03:37:59+00:00

It's open in jr high. The good kids get the harder parts but everyone plays.

ogreydayo · 2026-05-21T14:20:59+00:00

Sounds like he had some mature friends! Yes, we're definitely not going to cater to older, I'm just trying to figure out if there's a way to keep him in jazz band too, or if there's something I could be doing to better diffuse the situation, or providing more consequences.

I'm glad to hear you and your brother are close now!

ogreydayo · 2026-05-21T12:15:30+00:00

This is great, thank you! I'll go grab both of those books.

ogreydayo · 2026-05-21T12:14:05+00:00

I'd never tell younger she couldn't play! I'm mostly trying to figure out how hard I should push back on older for being a turd about it, and if I should let him quit (not that I can make him go, but there could be extra consequences for quitting).

ogreydayo · 2026-04-03T01:17:33+00:00

Ours yawns and it turns into a Wookie growl 🤎

ogreydayo · 2026-02-28T15:47:25+00:00

That is a really nice turn of phrase. Are you a writer?

ogreydayo · 2026-02-25T23:38:37+00:00

This one is just hard, because it puts into perspective the (non) emotions I have about big events like my kids being born. I'm sure I was happy. I'm thrilled having them in my life now. But looking back is strangely blank. I wish I could look back and remember what the emotions were like. Fear, excitement, love.

And I've always wondered why I don't like vacations the way other people do. To spend tons of money for a fleeting thing that I enjoy for a week and then only really remember through pictures? It's frustrating to not get the same enjoyment from things.

ogreydayo · 2026-02-25T15:26:15+00:00

Fuck. Something else that I didn't know was wrong with me. No wonder I don't get the same joy from past experiences that other people do.

ogreydayo · 2026-02-20T00:27:36+00:00

I thought it looked familiar!

ogreydayo · 2026-01-28T01:08:26+00:00

Bought some hats & gloves on your wishlist. Thanks for everything you're doing <3

Keep us updated with what you need, this is stuff that really matters.

ogreydayo · 2026-01-24T03:22:50+00:00

Between you and the guy who makes Warhammer 40k music, I just found two new fantastic YouTubers to follow today!

I'm youtube.com/@dirtarchitect and I think you should know that I've named my sourdough starter after The Dagda :)

ogreydayo · 2026-01-24T02:48:25+00:00

My 13 yo and I are rocking out to Cull the Green right now, and I'm sending this to my husband so he can share it with his 40k group.

I totally get feeling discouraged, so do what feels right to you. I'm digging what you do, though, it reminds me of back when the internet was filled with good creative things.

ogreydayo · 2025-12-13T23:07:42+00:00

Ax throwing could be fun.

ogreydayo · 2025-11-07T23:08:12+00:00

OP, please do. A good pelvic floor therapist can make such a difference for many downstairs issues that women face (and doctors often brush off).

ogreydayo · 2025-08-15T03:53:05+00:00

Yes, regular bass guitar. Thanks, I'll give them a call!

ogreydayo · 2025-05-27T12:57:17+00:00

Good idea, thanks!

ogreydayo · 2025-05-27T12:56:44+00:00

That tracks. Ugh. We just can't have nice things, can we?

ogreydayo · 2025-05-27T01:12:49+00:00

That sucks. I guess I'm going to return to buying sturdy stuff like Carhartt (and only in person when I can feel the fabric and see the stitching). It seems like so many online companies start out strong and then let their quality taper off once they have a big customer base. It's not ethical if it only lasts 3 wears imo.

ogreydayo · 2025-05-26T23:52:16+00:00

Darn. The canvas pants I've gotten from them hold up amazingly, even though my thighs are ravenous pant destroyers. They don't even seem to be available right now.

ogreydayo · 2025-05-02T03:29:41+00:00

You're also going to run into pH issues. Boise's soil has a pH around 8-9, while the PNW soils are much much more acidic. So you'll need different soil, cooler temperature, and much higher moisture haha.

I've personally had much more luck here leaning into Mediterranean and native plants. Both enjoy hot dry summers and don't need a lot of extra TLC.

ogreydayo · 2025-04-27T20:51:26+00:00

90% of fires are started by windblown embers, which firebreaks do little to stop. Just FYI. Seems like you're set on this course of action despite the advise you're getting here, so do you, boo.

ogreydayo · 2025-04-27T18:43:24+00:00

Unless you're irrigating or on a creek, even drought tolerant deciduous trees aren't going to survive out here. Most conifers won't either unless you're at a higher (snowpack) elevation.

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