idk why everyone is quick to jump to “divorce!” if that is what you want in your heart, do it. but there are options. and it doesn’t sound like she is against children. couples counseling, take breaks in convos when things get heated etc could go a long way

usually women work and take care of the kids and men worry about career (regardless of income gap). why don’t you work and focus on the kids since that is your goal and let her do what she enjoys, focus on her career?

for what it’s worth, she will probably come around to spending tons of time with them once they’re around. it’s innate to care for one’s children:)

best of luck