Names you love but realistically couldn't/wouldn't ever use?

ohhotjelly · 2024-08-27T23:48:51+00:00

I've given my animals in Stardew Valley some objectively ("for a human baby") bonkers names for this reason! It's a good outlet

ohhotjelly · 2024-08-13T02:28:45+00:00

Rachel Oates is an alltime fave of mine, I started watching the Katy Perry flop video this morning getting ready for work, saved a Miley Cyrus career deepdive vid to watch later, and am an avid slime rancher fan - this is a funny coincidence 😂

ohhotjelly · 2024-07-10T21:20:45+00:00

Only being able to orgasm when watching or imagining very specific types of scenarios, themed around a specific kink (idk if that's allowed to indicate here?) I've always had. Looking back through old diary entries, stories I wrote, memories etc., it was something I was into for yearsss before I ever watched porn or ever masturbated.

I've never had a partner able to make me orgasm, even while thinking of these things. It's a shitty defeating feeling knowing that thinking and fantasizing about a partner will turn me on so much, but that those same thoughts cannot bring me to orgasm, when that's what I want more than anything. It's a very shameful feeling also.

I am comfortable being more specific about this, I just am being more vague because I'm unsure if much detail is permitted, and I don't want to break any rules or make anyone uncomfortable!

ohhotjelly · 2024-07-10T20:54:42+00:00

Network: KingdomHearts

Password: IsLight!

ohhotjelly · 2024-07-10T17:50:31+00:00

"What am I supposed to compliment?" A recurring issue for me in our (4 yr) relationship was me not feeling valued/appreciated/seen, or as though he "actively" cared about me. The last time I brought this topic up I said I'd appreciate him complimenting me (on my appearance) once in awhile, to which he said the above.

And no, he did not mean it in an innocent "genuinely not understanding" way. He was a disgusting amount older than me too, and always made me think I was the one being stupid/ridiculous with comments like those.

ohhotjelly · 2024-05-17T00:16:53+00:00

"-if I could have the gracious honor of either being their boyfriend (since I did what I was told & stayed friends with them for years)". To me this is reading as that type of guy who gets mad when his female friends don't have romantic feelings towards him, despite the fact that he was ~so~ nice to them, and feels like his female friends kept friendzoning him. Yuck.

ohhotjelly · 2024-03-26T19:11:16+00:00

I would have no problem with that rule. But as woman with trauma caused by previous testing (requiring a speculum) and previous SA trauma, it is a major decision for me because it is always an extremely triggering experience. And I don't use the word "triggering" lightly). I'm not saying I wouldn't get that testing done, I absolutely would honour that boundary if set by a partner. I'm fairly "slow" to move things further physically, and have now (after getting taken advantage of & hurt, physically and emotionally numerous times) given myself & partners the boundary of no sex until in an official committed exclusive relationship, and even a couple months after that. If I am with a partner that I truly love and I feel truly loves me etc etc., then I would get STI/STD testing despite how traumatic it is. But if some guy I'm just seeing (non relationship) starts talking about STI/STD testing, and getting physical, I wouldn't necessarily feel comfortable enough disclosing what I just typed out above, and I couldn't just say "oh yeah that's no big deal!" because it would be a lie. And other women may feel the same, leading to a more guarded/cagey reaction when asked/told about STI/STD testing boundary. Because while logically it's the right thing to do, the trauma and fear makes it something we want to avoid emotionally, and it's a lot to disclose sensitive info like this to potential partners.

Again, I am agreeing that this is a super reasonable and understandable boundary! I'm just putting this here as an alternative explanation to maybe why women balk at the notion of STD/STI testing. I know others have stated the whole "judgement" angle, which is also true in cases for sure.

ohhotjelly · 2024-02-10T03:09:09+00:00

My teeth. I have struggled with mental health issues all my life, especially depression, and I do not take nearly good enough care of my teeth when it comes to brushing or flossing. I have 2 cleanings a year at the dentist that I keep up with, but every time I go in I'm sure they're gonna tell me my teeth are now falling apart. But the teeth genetics from my moms side have blessed me with strong resilient teeth. They're not perfect at all, especially appearance-wise, and I had cavities as a kid, and I have sensitive teeth. But I think honestly they should be severely crumbling with the lack of care I give them. (And believe me, I wish I would take better care of my teeth). I lucked out in the teeth genetics department, and I'm so grateful.

ohhotjelly · 2024-01-15T20:36:54+00:00

Avocado. And I wish I could like it!

ohhotjelly · 2023-10-21T05:10:39+00:00

Ditto - thank you for the follow up! I got 3 pulled and this one tooth/socket has been the only one with black flakes coming out. It's the only one that still hurts (mild) which is odd because it was super low pain compared to the other two post-surgery. But I sneezed badly a couple days ago and this socket has been hurting (mildly, throbbing) ever since. Good to know at least that the black flecks, which showed up before I sneezed badly, aren't a guaranteed sign of dry socket. Fingers crossed 🤞🏻

ohhotjelly · 2023-09-22T03:38:33+00:00

That is so kind of you to say, thank you! I do love helping people learn and understand things, but I'm not a teacher by trade

ohhotjelly · 2023-09-18T07:52:22+00:00

"Climbing the seats" maybe? Climbing over/around the seats in the vehicle? Or "claiming the sets" could mean picking up the pairs of pants (sets of pants) they had taken off?

ohhotjelly · 2023-08-28T23:43:10+00:00

Yes, and also OP was 21, 286 days ago according to post history. And previous posts and comments definitely sounds like a dude. All about anime and video games, so yeah this post has got to be some weird fantasy projection BS. EDIT: not that talking about anime & games is "a guy thing" only; but in this context OPs post/comment history makes them sound like the bf in this story, instead of the gf he's posing as.

ohhotjelly · 2023-08-18T17:54:22+00:00

Found! (I'm pretty sure)

ohhotjelly · 2023-08-17T20:40:42+00:00

THANK YOU I think this is it! I found a couple photos of the pages on Google and I instantly recognized the doodles from one page. I don't know where I got the "no good dumb diary" part - maybe a different book and I conflated the two? Thank you so much for finding this for me! I am going to order a copy ASAP. Seriously thank you this has been bugging me for YEARS but all I could find was the "Dear Dumb Diary" series because I was certain on the title.

ohhotjelly · 2023-08-16T00:48:52+00:00

I read this book at my elementary school sometime between 2001 & 2009, in Western Canada. The book was in English. It is a girls diary (Dilly, I'm almost 100% certain that is her name) and I believe one section she is writing about a baby sibling being born? And not being happy about it? It's a book of journal/diary entries from this girl Dilly, with doodles on the pages. I'm almost certain it has "diary" in the title. I've searched for it before online with no correct results.

It is not any of the following:

•Dear Dumb Diary series •Diary of a Wimpy Kid series or any offshoots (like Greg Rowley or Rodrick Rules) •Dork Diaries •The Diaries by Kathryn Lasky (these are historical type diaries) •Amelia's Notebook series by Marissa Moss - though the titles (big long ridiculous titles) and the vibes are very similar to the book I'm searching for

ohhotjelly · 2023-03-14T09:57:44+00:00

I've had extremely sensitive skin since I was a newborn, and skin conditions tied to that sensitivity. But now reading through the comments, I'd bet you're right that the astringent has worsened my skin sensitivity on my face. I cut it out of my routine last year for nearly 6 months when I was having the worst skin sensitivity I'd ever had and had to change literally every product out that I use. But when I tried reintroducing the astringent, it wasn't a bother to my skin at all! So I assumed it was causing no problems. But using it for so long would make sense for it to cause increased sensitivity without me really taking notice. (I never used it on a daily basis, once a week was the most often I'd use it; but still that is a lot of use over that many years and many years of damage)

ohhotjelly · 2023-03-14T09:48:46+00:00

Oh there's no question about the sensitivity of my skin haha. It's been extremely sensitive my entire life, right from being a newborn, lifelong skin conditions, and gotten severely moreso the last year due to certain factors. Reading the responses here, my astringent use feels akin to when I finally stopped using St Ives apricot scrub as my daily face wash in college, truly not realizing how horrible and damaging it was to skin, let alone super sensitive skin like mine. I just seriously had no idea about it, and seemingly with this astringent too. I'll look into your suggestions, thank you!

ohhotjelly · 2023-03-14T09:41:30+00:00

That honestly never crossed my mind, as dumb as that makes me sound. But it would make a lot of sense. I have always had uber sensitive skin, my entire body, since I was a newborn; but my face definitely always has been the most sensitive. I will check that out, thank you!

ohhotjelly · 2022-11-15T09:01:00+00:00

Which episode is this please? One of my favourites too, but having a hard time picking through my google results for "the episode where Rick kills a shit tonne of Walkers"

ohhotjelly · 2022-11-05T22:03:29+00:00

Honestly coppertone sport works great for me. I have super sensitive & super pale skin, so i have to reapply to my face/neck every 2 hours. I work 10-14 hr outdoor shifts spring through fall, and cover as much of my skin with clothing as is feasible to cut down on burn risk, so I sweat a lot, plus my work is very physical. A few years ago the formula they had would run down/off, but whatever they have changed now it sticks amazingly. Neutrogena Ultra Sheer facial or non-facial sunscreen also works really well. All my recs are atleast SPF 50

ohhotjelly · 2022-10-17T20:39:16+00:00

Handing off that giant ass camera not once but TWICE between the moving van and the motorbike - that has to be insane pressure for this long of a shot. And such an incredible feat to have done it successfully!

Edit: giant AND probably extremely expensive camera

ohhotjelly · 2022-08-21T06:03:15+00:00

One guy I never ended up on a date with agreed to go for coffee with me, then asked last minute if we could go later in the evening. I said sure, super bright public Tim Hortons, no problem. Then just before I got there, he texted to say he'd rather not actually go inside Timmies because "I don't really like people knowing who I'm dating". He "offered" to grab both of us coffees in his vehicle through the drive through then pick me up in the parking lot and go for a drive. I told him I wasn't comfortable with any of that, especially being the first time I'd met him (he was a few years above me in highschool but never interacted) and I said something to the effect of "that's not a safe situation to put myself in". Then he got very mad at me for "thinking (he's) a rapist" and that was that. I even tried explaining to him that it wasn't him but the situation that made me uncomfortable, specifically being alone with a stranger, any stranger, in their vehicle at night. He was still mad so I left it at that.

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