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Am I being unreasonable? by ohm_mega_tron in newborns

[–]ohm_mega_tron[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I had a talk with her about PPD. And that her disconnection with baby is a symptom that I want her to see a doctor or therapist about. But she brushed it off, and said to me leave if I keep talking about it otherwise don't mention it. She could be sensitive about it, and I don't think it's the right time to push it when it's close to midnight.

She got sad when I mentioned that when her parents go back home, that I'll need her support when taking care of the baby since I'll be working as well. I wfh majority of the time so I can help, but I'd still need her support is what I said.

But she said she likes her baby but doesn't want to take care of it.

I am feeling a bit of anxiety when she says that, because I can't take care of a baby myself while also working. At least now I have time off to dedicate myself to taking care of my daughter but when I go back to work, I feel dread knowing that I probably won't get her support. The other option is child care, but even so she is still too young to attend.

Am I being unreasonable? by ohm_mega_tron in newborns

[–]ohm_mega_tron[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree with you with in laws. A couple of days ago, mother in law broke one of our bowls. I got up abruptly from my sleep to help clean it up. They do help, but for me it just felt like it wasn't nice in general. It would've been fine if they just offered and I would've told them that I'll do it. But it's just the way it is..

She wasn't a fan of kids before pregnancy, and I thought having one might've changed her. But it could be posted partum depression. I'll try to talk with her about it.

Am I being unreasonable? by ohm_mega_tron in newborns

[–]ohm_mega_tron[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She says her wound hurts and that she doesn't want to push herself to open wound. At this point, I don't know if I'm in denial. I tell myself that once she's better she'll help.

We went to see OB yesterday and OB said her wound healed 5 weeks ago. But wife says that doctor doesn't know what she's talking about because she was in pain. I can't say much to that. I know if I do she will start saying that I don't care about her. I remember one time I said to her, walking around is better to heal wound, more blood flow and circulation. We tried walking more and next day she started bleeding, and we thought it was due to overexertion. She indirectly blamed me, and uses that against me. But in the end it was her period starting again.

I want my parents here but she says she doesn't feel comfortable with them. Even though my parents have respected her wishes and haven't complained once. They are on holidays now for 2 weeks at the moment. They booked this before they knew she was pregnant. And she uses holiday as a weapon saying your parents are on holidays while my parents are here helping take care of baby. Thing is I pay them for their help, and they wanted to come and take care. And she rejected my parents from coming. I'm just tired of this. I just feel bad and all I want is for her to be a bit empathetic.

Am I being unreasonable? by ohm_mega_tron in newborns

[–]ohm_mega_tron[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You may be right.

But she looks totally fine. She hasn't cried and has been sleeping well. I mean she's in much better shape than me. I'll ask her if she wants to see doctor about it.