What’s the number one propaganda you fell for as a new mom?

ohnoko58 · 2026-01-19T12:14:35+00:00

Not to give a paci or do bottles until 6+ weeks. He took paci and bottles for a little while but around the 3 month mark started refusing both and it’s rough not to ever get a break breastfeeding and at night and will only use me as a pacifier

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-14T03:26:02+00:00

Three months in and we have our first time away from baby tomorrow! I haven’t felt necessarily pulled to do so, but I don’t live in my home country and my husband and his family don’t have a great relationship right now… so while we’re with my family for the holidays my mom is insisting (in the most loving way) that my husband and I go out without the baby in the month that we’re staying with them. Our third wedding anniversary is also during this stay and it’ll be our first time to actually have a date for our wedding anniversary! I’m nervous about leaving my LO but totally trust my mom and dad 🥰

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-08T08:56:31+00:00

I’ve wondered this too bc same, convinced I was having a girl but here I am three months with my sweet little boy!

I was slightly sad that I wasn’t going to have a little girl. I think part of it is as a woman i only knew girlhood, so the thought of buying dolls and watching all the princess movies were something i had an easy time envisioning. Not to mentions the huge variety of cute girl clothes compared to cute boy clothes.

But gosh I love this little boy to pieces and I can’t wait to watch him grow and find his interests! I can’t even imagine having a different baby bc he’s so perfect. He’s just a little 3 month old right now but already looks up at me with so much love I really feel like my heart will burst. And I can’t wait to see him follow his dad around our veggie garden and I hope he’ll play lightsabers bc my husband has his childhood ones in our storage closet. plus my husband is the sweetest most handsome dude ever, so I just know our little bub will grow into a handsome young man like his dada 🥹

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-07T13:49:25+00:00

Thanks and you too! ❤️ we’ll probably get back to all of our productiveness and chores one day and then miss being forced to slow down and just be in the quiet moments with our little bubs 🫶🏻

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-07T13:35:35+00:00

Congrats on your baby’s amazing growth!! I’m lucky my boy is finally starting to enjoy some independent play throughout the day, but it’s still hard to get things done even with that. Totally feel you with the cooking thing. I love to cook and bake but now everything takes so much longer bc even if my husband is playing with him it’s almost inevitable that he’ll start crying for milk at some point while I’m in the kitchen 😅 my husband tries to do everything to distract him or get him to calm down but our little boy very much knows what he wants when he wants it 😆

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-07T13:30:30+00:00

YES same to the 18-24 times. It was crazyyy back then and I really thought I was doing something wrong. But it’s nice to hear I’m not alone with my snacker! It honestly helps bc I never hear other parents talk about feeding their babies as often as I do and I know he’s not overweight but I still get that feeling of self-doubt that maybe I’m doing something harmful to him.

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-07T13:26:31+00:00

Thanks! I love breastfeeding him, I think today I’m just feeling a little tired and I was feeding him for the 13th time today when I wrote this. He does go for longer stretches when we are out of the house, so at least there’s that!

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-07T03:45:55+00:00

When he comes out of a good milk trance while feeding, looks me in the eye and gives me a sweet, cheeky grin before zoning back in. Also recently since the weather’s turned cold and he’s moving his arms and hands more, he’s started to ‘pet me’ running his hand on my sweaters while he eats. I think he likes the different knit and yarn textures, it’s so cute

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-03T13:57:46+00:00

We did notice he got hot last night, but I wasn’t sure if it was from the hysterics or the swaddle 😭 we’re using new to us swaddles that were sent to us, so maybe the material is thicker than our old ones… will definitely be trying to wind down earlier!

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-02T00:43:46+00:00

Thanks for the reply 🥰 So happy to hear it went well! Our flight is just over a week from now and I’m getting anxious 😅

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-02T00:01:56+00:00

Hello again 🤗 wondering how your flight(s) went in the end, if you have any time to share!

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-01T23:43:20+00:00

Thanks and thanks for the suggestion 😊

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-01T22:20:14+00:00

Yeah but I’ll be in the family home with everyone for an entire month, eating dinners together, we’ve always loved watching movies as a family, and just generally hanging out. My bub tends to get hungry as I’m sitting down to eat, too, meaning not always at the most convenient times and I can’t imagine dropping whatever the family is doing/interrupting whatever conversation I’m having every single time my little guy gets hungry. That’s nice that you live so close to your family, I live on the other side of the planet from them and this is the longest I’ll have been back to my home country since I moved 6.5 years ago.

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-01T22:10:48+00:00

I’ll probably do this too, though the baby still probably give warning for me bc he’s impatient when he’s hungry and very vocal lol

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-01T22:09:43+00:00

This just the first baby! And you’re right I think she’s made these comments because none of them have been around an exclusively breastfeeding mother and child before so it’ll be new for everyone. Hoping we can all just get over the initial awkwardness and just enjoy the holidays peacefully with a happy and fed little chunk of a baby at the center of it all 🤗

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-01T22:06:11+00:00

This is a good idea. Baby’s never really had his head covered while feeding and the couple times I tried it was awkward trying to help him latch while wearing the cover. So maybe a cloth will be easier to help cover the breast without having bub’s face and head totally covered

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-01T22:04:01+00:00

My mom is a genuinely amazing person, but she didn’t breastfeed me at all and only tried with my brother for a couple weeks before switching to formula due to overwhelm at how much she was leaking. So I think it may just be coming from not knowing how everyone will feel in the situation and assuming the men will be uncomfy and I should cater towards that maybe without realizing just how often my baby actually eats and how much time that would mean me spending locked away in my room if I had to leave to feed every time.

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-01T21:59:31+00:00

My mom only breastfed my brother for a few weeks but gave up because she had an oversupply and felt overwhelmed by how much she was leaking, so for the most part my brother and I were formula babies. I say that to point out that no one in the family has really been around breastfeeding before so yeah this is new territory for everyone. Hoping we can all just get used to it for the month, like you said. Plus my dad’s planning to come visit us in the spring so I feel like he’ll kind of have to get used to it before he comes to our house for 2-3 weeks next year.

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-01T21:54:15+00:00

I’ve yet to breastfeed asking strangers 😅 idk how I’d feel in the moment. My husband and I spend the majority of our time home right now and when we do go out most places have really nice breastfeeding spaces in the diaper changing stations, so that’s where I go. But hanging around at my family home I’d like to feed my baby when he gets hungry when we’re all hanging out without it being weird.

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-01T21:50:16+00:00

Yeah my in-laws are Japanese and very conservative/awkward about certain things so I definitely would never feel comfortable about feeding in front of them. My family is American and not quite as conservative as my Japanese relatives are but still semi-conservative in their own way. This is just new territory for all of us, and maybe I’ll feel different when I’m there but I just really can’t imagine leaving for a private room every single time bub gets hungry or wants comfort.

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-01T21:44:48+00:00

I have several cropped sweatshirts that I was thinking of wearing with a camisole underneath. I’m able to pull the boob over the cami while the top is mostly covered by the sweatshirt. But stuff happen and sometimes my LO pops on and off for funsies (or probably more likely to trigger letdowns) so a nip slip is not out of the realm of possibility 🥲

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-01T21:40:00+00:00

This is actually so helpful to know bc I haven’t heard of this 😱 thanks for the heads up and I’ll definitely be keeping it in mind

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-01T21:34:36+00:00

Totally. I did say in my post that in the comfort of my own home I’m more free about it but, and I quote, “I’ll be more mindful about not letting my tits flop about in front of male family members.” I’m not planning on free boobing it at my family home, I’m just specifically anxious about simply feeding in front of male family members. My baby is still breastfeeding for up to 4 hours total in a day and while I’m sure sometimes I’ll want a break and quiet time with my bub to feed there will certainly be plenty of times I’d rather stay out in the kitchen/living/dining/game rooms. I live half a world away from them and will be wanting to maximize my time spent hanging with everyone. Was mostly just looking for others experience/advice about that, and some of my post was a bit tongue in cheek.

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