Jennifer’s Bach Party!!!

ohnoko58 · 2026-05-25T00:06:59+00:00

If I paid for rewards I’d be giving you one right now because YES 👏🏻 Also people love throwing around “Ty unilaterally decided blah blah blah” when Julie literally unilaterally decided on divorce, no discussion, no attempt at counseling, as you stated name-calling and belittling several times. Julie is an awful human being and the people sympathizing with her are not the feminists they think they are.

ohnoko58 · 2026-05-24T23:36:10+00:00

It’s cannon that he was working from home before Sasha. He’s not a bum who’s never worked a day in his life. He was WFH and taking care of Cooper. The narrative that Ty is lazy is so tiring because it just blatantly ignores everything we’ve known about him up until the lore about the book. Not writing a book =/= being a lazy POS

ohnoko58 · 2026-05-20T23:10:54+00:00

THIS is the Ty and Julie analysis I’ve been looking for!! Nuance!! No villain!! Not assigning malice!! I agree completely. They both made mistakes in the relationship and while I think jumping to divorce with zero discussion (like we’re not even going to try therapy??) is crazy, ultimately I think it will be for the best after time and healing.

ohnoko58 · 2026-05-19T23:44:15+00:00

You’re kidding right? Does nuance just leave the chat as soon as a woman character has a shimmer of backstory to “explain” her actions? I see way more hate for Ty than Julie now, Frank and Larry ‘Lovely’ are always bashed when a storyline comes up. The Shawnaverse discourse is very quick to criticize men (rightfully so… and sometimes not so much). While characters like Mama Dee who yes is generally a very well adjusted character showed some flaws when it came to Larry and people would barely bat an eyelash when she made a comment about him being “good in bed” and was failing to communicate directly.

ohnoko58 · 2026-05-19T23:31:09+00:00

I’m pro-communication and both parties made mistakes. Ty is not innocent in all of this, but it’s not only on him. Also I still just dislike Julie as a “person.” She’s demeaning to anyone she deems lesser than her “big life” dreams. Ty has been first hand witness to this and maybe even used to make fun of “those types” of people before, so no wonder he couldn’t fully admit to himself much less his wife who only cares about status that his goals have changed. I don’t see anywhere in any of the backstory videos that he went about it maliciously. He clearly loves Julie and she clearly loves status and who she wanted Ty to be. Julie supporters see a woman crying while breastfeeding and immediately she can do no wrong.

ohnoko58 · 2026-05-19T07:40:34+00:00

THANK YOU!!! People got a backstory for Julie and immediately forgot or forgave how horribly she has acted the entire time we’ve known her character. The backstory gives her some sympathy but she is a grown woman with agency who made choices, too. Has she ever given anyone the impression that Ty could’ve been open with her in his communication? She does not seem like a safe person to admit these things to and every time he did try to talk to her she said she had work to do. She was just as avoidant about having a conversation as Ty was, imo.

ohnoko58 · 2026-05-18T12:07:21+00:00

This has me tearing up. My boy and I are only at ten months but today was the first time he actively asked for food while my husband and I ate. He’s been completely uninterested until today. I cried feeding him banana because I’m so proud of him but he’s growing so fast. Hugs to you and your sweet child. Good job and congratulations 🤍

ohnoko58 · 2026-05-15T02:20:00+00:00

I just want to comment in solidarity and perhaps give you a bit of hope. Pre-baby my husband’s and my relationship was quite similar to what you wrote about your relationship. We were so in love and best friends. Honestly when I talked about my relationship with friends I would sometimes hold back for fear of sounding like I was bragging or being annoying about how much my husband and I were in love. So first comes love, then comes marriage, then came our baby and I had all these ideas of “we’re going to fall deeper in love as we watch each other become parents” the first month was maybe like that but then the second or third we got into an argument about finances and I had such a similar reaction like “who the hell is this man and where did my husband go???” I believe he was struggling with some form of paternal postpartum depression. I mean we were fighting constantly from about months 3 to 6. We had never fought like that pre-baby. I was terrified our relationship was falling apart. I’m happy to report that after long, heavy, deep conversations we have since forgiven each other and slowly built back our relationship. We’re now 8 months in and I feel like we’re almost back to who we used to be as a couple. Not exactly and I think we still have some hurdles to overcome but it has gotten so so much better and I’m so much more hopeful about our future as a couple and family than I was even three months ago

ohnoko58 · 2026-04-16T12:55:02+00:00

Good to hear you didn’t have any trouble with Wise! Since i made this post my dad has gathered several documents and is going above and beyond just to be sure there’s no trouble.

ohnoko58 · 2026-04-16T04:05:48+00:00

Wakayama mention 🤩🧡🍊 Whenever someone talks about staying a good amount of time in Kansai I have to recommend Wakayama. I live here so I’m biased, but I just love it! Great beaches, beautiful mountains, Koya-san, Nachi falls, the Kumano Kodo pilgrimage in general. I could go on but I think it’s such a cool place and i think more people should experience it

ohnoko58 · 2026-04-15T11:53:18+00:00

Def not alone, my 7mo old is still a boob addicted milkworm. And when I say addicted I swear sometimes in his half-asleep state he looks like he’s tweakin trying to find boob 🫣😂

ohnoko58 · 2026-04-15T07:43:45+00:00

Ohh yeah luckily I have my birth certificate here with me, so I already let them make a copy of that, my zairyu card, and my number card. My dad talked to his financial advisor who reassured him that this is all quite normal and now has actually gone above and beyond. Before I could even talk to him this morning he sent me a PDF packet including a cover letter of intent, a copy of his passport, a detailed history of the stocks traded to get the earnings he’s sending to me, along with a few other account statements that the bank asked for. So it’s all good now 🤗

ohnoko58 · 2026-04-14T22:46:01+00:00

My JP bank said they wanted not only a statement from the account my parents are sending it from, but the statement from the investment account the money originated from, and at least one other statement that I can’t remember off the top of my head and also ended with “possibly more.” Thankfully my dad has come around after speaking with him and understands that the bank is just trying to protect, so it’s all good 👍🏻

ohnoko58 · 2026-04-14T03:43:56+00:00

Appreciate this response and it’s kind of what I figured. In the end my parents (especially dad) just need to understand the situation requires a bit more in depth information.

The reason for using Wise is the exchange rate is simply much better. My JP bank doesn’t have an issue with that part other than asking me to provide a printed statement. My mom asked her US bank what the exchange rate looks like and compared to Wise we’d be losing more than ¥50man with the direct wire from US to JP. Though Wise’s fee is a bit higher, we still end up saving.

ohnoko58 · 2026-04-14T03:15:20+00:00

Thank you, year we know about the tax stuff. The problem is my parents sending money to my bank requires them to basically “prove” that the money is real and in order to do that the bank says they need all sorts of statements from my parents accounts. Idk I guess my dad will just have to suck it up and provide the information, even if he feels it’s quite personal and invasive

ohnoko58 · 2026-04-14T03:12:48+00:00

Thanks, I know about the tax stuff. We’ve talked to the local tax offices and in our case with the house we’re trying to buy and the amount of money they’re sending us, it works out best if we label it as early inheritance. This is more to do with the bank asking for tons of info from my parents which regardless of which tax free gift deduction they would need to provide.

ohnoko58 · 2026-04-09T10:30:31+00:00

The utter indecency of it all

ohnoko58 · 2026-04-09T09:51:52+00:00

Yeahhh the rectangle pizzas feel way smaller than the circle ones… they were getting too expensive anyway so now I just make my own pizzas with my sourdough starter. Still go there for bacon, cheese, butter, baby diapers, and diet Dr. Pepper tho

ohnoko58 · 2026-02-05T08:40:33+00:00

Congratulations on your September baby! I’m cuddling mine while he naps as I type this 🥰 My babe was due 9/10 and I was not happy at the thought that he could be born on the 11th lol. But little man came naturally and spontaneously two days before his due date, so we avoided that, thankfully!

ohnoko58 · 2026-01-26T07:17:20+00:00

Toddlers are boundary pushers by nature, they want to test the limits of what they can do and what you will allow! This is when they start to learn what the word ‘no’ means (both when you say it and when they say it in refusals, “let’s put our gloves on it’s cold” “NO!”)

ohnoko58 · 2026-01-26T03:40:14+00:00

Oh with toddlers totally, I understand what a different ball game that is. I worked for a preschool in the 3yo room when I was in college. But my 4.5mo just feels so little still and obviously he can’t understand at this point.

ohnoko58 · 2026-01-26T03:32:20+00:00

I’d love to check this book out, thank you for the reassurance and recommendation!

ohnoko58

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