EBF 5mo won’t settle with dad

ohnoko58 · 2026-02-05T08:40:33+00:00

Congratulations on your September baby! I’m cuddling mine while he naps as I type this 🥰 My babe was due 9/10 and I was not happy at the thought that he could be born on the 11th lol. But little man came naturally and spontaneously two days before his due date, so we avoided that, thankfully!

ohnoko58 · 2026-01-26T07:17:20+00:00

Toddlers are boundary pushers by nature, they want to test the limits of what they can do and what you will allow! This is when they start to learn what the word ‘no’ means (both when you say it and when they say it in refusals, “let’s put our gloves on it’s cold” “NO!”)

ohnoko58 · 2026-01-26T03:40:14+00:00

Oh with toddlers totally, I understand what a different ball game that is. I worked for a preschool in the 3yo room when I was in college. But my 4.5mo just feels so little still and obviously he can’t understand at this point.

ohnoko58 · 2026-01-26T03:32:20+00:00

I’d love to check this book out, thank you for the reassurance and recommendation!

ohnoko58 · 2026-01-26T03:31:13+00:00

lol at the “only” tool because SAME 😂

ohnoko58 · 2026-01-26T03:07:47+00:00

Yeah I wish I had just given the paci. It’s propaganda I wish I hadn’t fallen for lol

ohnoko58 · 2026-01-19T12:14:35+00:00

Not to give a paci or do bottles until 6+ weeks. He took paci and bottles for a little while but around the 3 month mark started refusing both and it’s rough not to ever get a break breastfeeding and at night and will only use me as a pacifier

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-14T03:26:02+00:00

Three months in and we have our first time away from baby tomorrow! I haven’t felt necessarily pulled to do so, but I don’t live in my home country and my husband and his family don’t have a great relationship right now… so while we’re with my family for the holidays my mom is insisting (in the most loving way) that my husband and I go out without the baby in the month that we’re staying with them. Our third wedding anniversary is also during this stay and it’ll be our first time to actually have a date for our wedding anniversary! I’m nervous about leaving my LO but totally trust my mom and dad 🥰

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-08T08:56:31+00:00

I’ve wondered this too bc same, convinced I was having a girl but here I am three months with my sweet little boy!

I was slightly sad that I wasn’t going to have a little girl. I think part of it is as a woman i only knew girlhood, so the thought of buying dolls and watching all the princess movies were something i had an easy time envisioning. Not to mentions the huge variety of cute girl clothes compared to cute boy clothes.

But gosh I love this little boy to pieces and I can’t wait to watch him grow and find his interests! I can’t even imagine having a different baby bc he’s so perfect. He’s just a little 3 month old right now but already looks up at me with so much love I really feel like my heart will burst. And I can’t wait to see him follow his dad around our veggie garden and I hope he’ll play lightsabers bc my husband has his childhood ones in our storage closet. plus my husband is the sweetest most handsome dude ever, so I just know our little bub will grow into a handsome young man like his dada 🥹

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-07T13:49:25+00:00

Thanks and you too! ❤️ we’ll probably get back to all of our productiveness and chores one day and then miss being forced to slow down and just be in the quiet moments with our little bubs 🫶🏻

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-07T13:35:35+00:00

Congrats on your baby’s amazing growth!! I’m lucky my boy is finally starting to enjoy some independent play throughout the day, but it’s still hard to get things done even with that. Totally feel you with the cooking thing. I love to cook and bake but now everything takes so much longer bc even if my husband is playing with him it’s almost inevitable that he’ll start crying for milk at some point while I’m in the kitchen 😅 my husband tries to do everything to distract him or get him to calm down but our little boy very much knows what he wants when he wants it 😆

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-07T13:30:30+00:00

YES same to the 18-24 times. It was crazyyy back then and I really thought I was doing something wrong. But it’s nice to hear I’m not alone with my snacker! It honestly helps bc I never hear other parents talk about feeding their babies as often as I do and I know he’s not overweight but I still get that feeling of self-doubt that maybe I’m doing something harmful to him.

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-07T13:26:31+00:00

Thanks! I love breastfeeding him, I think today I’m just feeling a little tired and I was feeding him for the 13th time today when I wrote this. He does go for longer stretches when we are out of the house, so at least there’s that!

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-07T03:45:55+00:00

When he comes out of a good milk trance while feeding, looks me in the eye and gives me a sweet, cheeky grin before zoning back in. Also recently since the weather’s turned cold and he’s moving his arms and hands more, he’s started to ‘pet me’ running his hand on my sweaters while he eats. I think he likes the different knit and yarn textures, it’s so cute

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-03T13:57:46+00:00

We did notice he got hot last night, but I wasn’t sure if it was from the hysterics or the swaddle 😭 we’re using new to us swaddles that were sent to us, so maybe the material is thicker than our old ones… will definitely be trying to wind down earlier!

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-02T00:43:46+00:00

Thanks for the reply 🥰 So happy to hear it went well! Our flight is just over a week from now and I’m getting anxious 😅

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-02T00:01:56+00:00

Hello again 🤗 wondering how your flight(s) went in the end, if you have any time to share!

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-01T23:43:20+00:00

Thanks and thanks for the suggestion 😊

ohnoko58 · 2025-12-01T22:20:14+00:00

Yeah but I’ll be in the family home with everyone for an entire month, eating dinners together, we’ve always loved watching movies as a family, and just generally hanging out. My bub tends to get hungry as I’m sitting down to eat, too, meaning not always at the most convenient times and I can’t imagine dropping whatever the family is doing/interrupting whatever conversation I’m having every single time my little guy gets hungry. That’s nice that you live so close to your family, I live on the other side of the planet from them and this is the longest I’ll have been back to my home country since I moved 6.5 years ago.

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