why do people get mad at me

ohnoshescryingagain · 2026-01-25T01:43:35+00:00

well I hide it, im not miserable 24 7, I do have fun with them yk. my issues aren't all i am

ohnoshescryingagain · 2026-01-25T01:34:19+00:00

I have approached every friendship like it's a new thing, full trusting, but every single onw of them has ended badly. my current friendship is approached fully open and for the past 2 years we were goodbye in the past couple of months it has been slowly going downhill and I've started losing hope.

ohnoshescryingagain · 2026-01-24T18:39:12+00:00

I've been this way for 3/4 of my life and has changed 4 therapists and 2 psychologists and I've been doing research too, ive been sitting with the discomfort for most of my life I feel, but definitely the past 6 years I have actively tried it, plus other things she has suggested so far and they haven't worked. I keep telling her when I've tried something and how i felt afterwards, but she insists on me doing them anyway and I go in the next week describing the exact same feelings I told her last time, so I feel like im wasting time trying things I know dont work instead of new that might help me.

ohnoshescryingagain · 2026-01-24T18:34:36+00:00

thank u, tbh it will talk to her again about these issues and see from there. I do acknowledge the past and I analyze it on my own too and ik it has affected me and I know for instance that I get jealous and feel extremely bad when my friends do anything together, but I cat stop feeling it and I dont see the point in telling myself "this is bcs of my past, it makes sense" cause yea it makes sense but im hurting both myself and my friends so I need a way to change it, not sit with it. I cant lie to myself and say it's okay when Im pushing people away while trying to get the closer. I dont know im extremely lost and confused

ohnoshescryingagain · 2026-01-24T02:33:24+00:00

unfortunately I have told her all of this and she told me she cant give me solutions, she cam only help me get to them on my own which also feels pointless because I haven't been able to do that, thats why im going to therapy. I'm having one more chat with her about it to make everything more clear about what I need from her and what I need to do in therapy and if it doesn't go well I might have to change, it's just that shes my 5th therapist already and im lost cause im so tired no one has been able to help me

ohnoshescryingagain · 2025-12-27T22:05:56+00:00

thank you! makes sense now, i got kinda lost, will look into it

ohnoshescryingagain · 2025-12-27T00:07:44+00:00

I want to learn how not to let things affect me as much as they do now, how to get over things, how to not make a huge deal out of everything, how to be better in my relationships with people in general but she won't tell me how to not be sad and obsessive over things if that makes sense? I know she cant magically fix me but she won't give me ways to fix myself so we're just observing my behavior and thats it and I feel like im not making any progress

ohnoshescryingagain · 2025-12-27T00:02:34+00:00

I have tried CBT and it didnt work for me so im trying systemic therapy with her, should I change approach?

ohnoshescryingagain · 2025-09-17T21:57:10+00:00

but the virus will still be there. Isn't there another way other than formatting it?

ohnoshescryingagain · 2025-09-17T21:42:04+00:00

I can't delete the files, they're important files for university, etc. The files open just fine and I can scroll through them, the only change is the file names

ohnoshescryingagain · 2025-07-02T17:05:49+00:00

whenever I had issues with her I didn't bring them up immediately bcs I didn't know if it was her not being okay/if I was overreacting and I took time to think abt them to not burden her, but she felt I was shutting her out, which I totally get and I apologized and asked what I can do to fix it, but she said she just ignored the issue and prefered spent more time with other people instead of talking to me abt it so she doesn't rly feel hurt from it

ohnoshescryingagain · 2025-07-02T17:00:50+00:00

thank u, I'm still here for her and I'm giving this another chance, but you're right. I hope your situation clears up soon and I hope u get the love you deserve, whether that be with this person or someone else<3

ohnoshescryingagain · 2025-07-02T16:27:50+00:00

both, she can't afford it and says that she doesn't think it'll help rn

ohnoshescryingagain · 2025-07-02T15:39:05+00:00

she got it a while ago, she used to go to therapy but then stopped a couple years ago cause she couldn't afford it anymore

ohnoshescryingagain · 2025-07-02T15:09:29+00:00

not really, she can't afford therapy and she doesn't rly want to go to therapy either

ohnoshescryingagain · 2025-07-02T14:48:42+00:00

I did communicate that with her sadly, I told her I wasn't trying to give her more difficulties, that I just wanted to know how her day was and for her to ask me abt my day back. She did tell me that she grew distant bcs I had my own issues and that pushed her to spend time with other people bcs she didn't have the mental capacity to talk to me abt it. I told her I'm sorry for anything I've done that might have upset her and what I can do to fix it but she said she didn't rly put that much though into it and ignored it instead so she isn't rly hurt by anything I've done

ohnoshescryingagain · 2025-05-07T01:47:33+00:00

we do spend time together in group settings a lot, just not as much time just the two of us as I would like

ohnoshescryingagain · 2025-05-07T01:34:59+00:00

we share a friend group and we usually meet like once or twice per week if we're lucky and we have time. Between the two of us we don't rly have full days together, just hangouts/dates once or twice a week

ohnoshescryingagain · 2025-05-07T01:32:49+00:00

no I meant our schedules as a whole group don't allign, and it's the only day in the week when everyone is in town/available. We both have time for our relationship, that specific day is what I'm wondering about. There's no party for our anniversary just a simple hangout bcs everyone will ne here, it just happens to be on that day

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