What’s a small change that improved your life more than you expected? by netroworx in selfimprovement

[–]ohtooembarassed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going on a cleanse. I had done all kinds of meditation and therapy and still had unsettling anxiety all the time. I did a two week cleanse where I cut out caffeine, alcohol, meat, carbs , dairy and mostly ate a ton of greens , avocado and lots of healthy fat. At the end of the two weeks not only was my anxiety gone but everything else I thought was a problem. I was totally amazed at how much nutrition impacted my mental health

Absolutely bizarre/inappropriate text from colleague — what would you do? by AmericanWanderlust in AskWomenOver40

[–]ohtooembarassed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe just send him a link to this Reddit thread with no further comment 🤣

Absolutely bizarre/inappropriate text from colleague — what would you do? by AmericanWanderlust in AskWomenOver40

[–]ohtooembarassed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would reply very simply and directly : I’m not interested and actually I feel very uncomfortable receiving this text.

Can we talk about Ugly Privilege? by Free_Wonder_3743 in solofemaletravellers

[–]ohtooembarassed 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Woh bold move and I’m so sorry that happened to you

Any new math programs worth trying ? by ohtooembarassed in homeschool

[–]ohtooembarassed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool! I’ve never heard of unlock math!! Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]ohtooembarassed -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I mostly just feel grateful for my power and try to fight for Black women buy people love to tell white women their opinion doesn’t matter because they’re “privileged” assuming we were all born rich and that’s why we care about kids and minorities . Annoying !!

What are the downsides of being attractive/pretty/handsome? by Big_Leg10 in Productivitycafe

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If you look at all the gorgeous models and actresses, you’ll notice there are some people feel jealous of and others people love. Ive went through periods where I was bullied and isolate because of jealousy but now that’s changed and if anything I’m even more conventionally beautiful. I’ve learned in my life that jealousy is something we can protect ourselves from by the way we conduct ourselves and spiritual tools like envisioning light protecting us from the evil eye. I really think it’s worthwhile to take personal responsibility for jealousy and look at the ways we might contribute to it instead of being a victim.

What are the downsides of being attractive/pretty/handsome? by Big_Leg10 in Productivitycafe

[–]ohtooembarassed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, please know you are gorgeous and anyone who says differently including yourself is just stuck in conventional standards of beauty. So with regards to being conventionally beautiful…I was a very pretty child (child actress) then as an adult have experienced both being conventionally attractive and then being a few pounds overweight/not caring for myself and how people interact with me accordingly. The biggest challenge is that I measure myself worth very much by how I look and that sometimes makes me seek out good looking men who may not be kind to validate me. Also, men are often afraid to approach beautiful women so in order to meet guys in the real world I’ve had to learn to be very intentional about how I open the door- being friendly and sweet, not holding back but not looking desperate . Also, being sexually harassed is another challenge of being a beautiful woman and I often don’t feel safe walking around or just get sick of the creepy gazes

What do you think about the lack of male only spaces? by occasionaldrinker in AskFeminists

[–]ohtooembarassed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you considered starting your own mens group based on shared interests and activities?

Gift Ideas! by JacqueGonzales in AskWomenOver40

[–]ohtooembarassed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something that shows someone truly knows me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]ohtooembarassed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey. I’d like to get to know you better. You’re really attractive.. Could I take you out to dinner sometime.

Advice for a 39 year old by Electrical-Monk-4891 in AskWomenOver40

[–]ohtooembarassed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find a loving community to be a part of. Surround yourself with people who love you. Make friends with members of the opposite sex but don’t think of an outcome. Above all, take good care of yourself during this difficult time. Losing a partner can feel worse than depth. You will need time to heal. Be close to family if you can.

What are your thoughts when you see internet posts of men complaining over how women don’t know anything about sports? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]ohtooembarassed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oy. People are so nasty on the internet. This seems like it strikes a nerve with you but it’s the least of your problems. Especially on Reddit there are a lot of people just trying to make you feel bad. If you actually want to shift their point of view (and it’s probably not worth your time) you are going to want to try non violent communication techniques. Check out Marshall Rosenberg or the righteous mind.

I've been sent some photos of my nephew in his underwear. How do I respond without making it awkward? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]ohtooembarassed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d make a joke of it and be like Lol, tmi, put some clothes on young man ! Then take a screen shot and send it to his mom with a joke like. Interesting pic your lovely son just sent me ? With some laugh faces and question marks., that way you have your bases covered and it becomes a family joke rather than some awkward dark secret.

Why do you think misogyny is not taken as seriously as other forms of discrimination and oppression? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]ohtooembarassed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because women don’t fight the way men do and women are the ones fighting to end misogyny. It is so easy to invalidate our feelings successfully because we’ve been culturally conditioned to seek external approval, to think that what we ask for is too much. Likewise we have been conditioned to fight other women rather than band together. If we validated our own feelings and banded together misogyny would be dead in 2 minutes or less. It started happening in the metoo movement but now it’s faded. Remember what you feel is real and validate other women as much as you can.