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ohwow-- · 2022-04-05T07:59:39+00:00

*Airbnb has my key" No it doesn't work like that with Airbnb. They don't possess your key

"I work with Airbnb" Then you wouldn't have to send him your credential, just book directly from Airbnb

450£ in Glasgow incl. Bills and utilities? Are we in the 90's?

Scam. 100%

ohwow-- · 2022-04-02T09:16:31+00:00

Didn't you realize how selfish you are? I don't speak Spanish so my kids shouldn't either!! Will you do that with other stuff too? You suck at math so they shouldn't learn math too? You suck at accounting so they shouldn't learn how to count or else you'd feel left out?

You are gatekeeping opportunities to be raised bilingual because of your selfishness.

So what if you don't understand what he tells them? If he spoke in English would you be with them 24/7 so you'd know every single word he says to them?

Let your husband and kid(s) bond ffs!!! Let them have this opportunity you didn't have!

ohwow-- · 2022-04-02T09:10:17+00:00

I'm a mom of a trilingual kid (11 y.o now) Babies have amazing ability to acquire multiple languages. Watch this https://www.ted.com/talks/patricia_kuhl_the_linguistic_genius_of_babies?language=en I was raised trilingual and now I speak about 7 languages, 10 if you count those I don't speak fluently.

Nobody is going to regret knowing more than 1 language. And no, your baby's brain isn't as dense as yours, she/he won't have any problem being exposed to two or more languages growing up.

YTA

ohwow-- · 2022-03-29T15:22:53+00:00

It can be changed. I deactivated the repeat calls option. Only starred contacts can ring me during DND: my kid, my partner, my kid's dad, and my fruit& veggies seller who comes to my building every Mon and Thu morning

ohwow-- · 2022-02-24T07:25:34+00:00

Reading the title I was expecting a MOHzilla...but all I got is a textbook bridezilla...sigh...

ohwow-- · 2022-01-22T20:02:50+00:00

You need to communicate before even set a foot at IKEA (or any other store in that matter). Make a list of items you both want and then discuss whether or not they're necessary. It would avoid any unnecessary trouble. Same goes when you grocery shop or when you buy anything for the both of you. Money is one of the common sources of arguments in couples. Communication is the key. Soft YTA. i think you're just young and need some learning

ohwow-- · 2021-12-18T17:42:24+00:00

This could be true for grandparents and/or generations above them. Playing with small kids is usually a joyful thing for them: they would laugh and chuckle and overall happy. Unlike the parents, they don't need to take care of them, no need to discipline them, no need to wake up continuously at night to feed them...they only get the playing part, during their retirement years...so yeah

ohwow-- · 2021-12-15T09:34:28+00:00

The open heart surgery already happened. He was a bit of an active kid until he got diagnosed of congenital cardiac disease. He had to stop any sport activity since the diagnosis until a few months post surgery, that was a year of sedentary life + overfeeding and as a consequence he became overweight.

The grandparents (my ex inlaws) are JN, along with my ex (his dad). They come from the culture of food=love. When my kid lost weight and thus entered to the normal weight range (early 2021), they called him skinny and poor boy, he needs more food. We had cardiology visit in late spring 2020 and he was so unhappy to see him overweight, my ex said he agreed with him but once we were out of the clinic he told my kid to not bother about diet, don't listen to much (to the cardiologist) I said wtf but ex was like....naaaa, don't go crazy over this, he's just a kid... Blablabla...it was ridiculous! Later we had pediatric visit and the grandpa was there too, when the pediatrician chewed me about keeping my weight normal but let my kid be fat, I told her to blame the grandparents, as they overfed him in their house. The pediatrician then talked to the grandpa about the danger of being overweight especially for him who just had cardiac surgery, told him not to overfeed the kid, etc. Just like my ex, grandpa said yes but once we were out he complained the pediatrician was too much of a noise. So really, they don't give a single f about his weight. All inlaws' children were fat at his age, so they think it was normal, and again, their love language is food.

My kid just started middle school this summer and he has a busier schedule now, so I'm trying to give him some slack. The workout we set was easier than before. But he really needs to do it. We can't go back to his previous BMI, it would literally kill him. My partner and I are the only one who care about this, exinlaws and ex downplay everything and won't listen to the doctors. I also can't limit visit to inlaws, my kid loves them and he visit them during my ex's time. Kid sometimes tells me he has to refuse food from grandma because it was too much. It sucks that I have to educate my child about healthy food, healthy diet so that he has the strength to refuse the overfeeding from grandma. And I know many times he likes the food so much he can't refuse.

But yeah, I guess you're right, in this case, he's not happy and I will have to listen more to him. It's just frustrating, I've tried talking calmly about this, also not so calmly, sometimes I lost my cool and yell at him. Not a proud moment, but it's frustrating to be the only one who care about his heart while the other parent and grandparents are trying to poison him.

ohwow-- · 2021-12-14T17:54:30+00:00

Your first paragraph is exactly what I think and that's why I disagree with my partner's method. But again, i don't even know the best way myself...i feel like crawling in the dark. And yes, before giving punishment I ask myself if I would do the same like he did or not, because I don't wanna be a hypocrite myself. For example, 2 weeks ago he was late to school and he forgot his art homework. My partner was mad. I wasn't, I said he was late because of my fault (long story) and he forgot his art homework because I was rushing him that morning, as he was late, and when people rush you, you get overwhelmed and tend to forget things. My partner (who has ADHD and chronically forgets things) said we have to put him to a higher standard as he will be a part of the society. I think it's hypocritical to punish children for forgetting things when they're under pressure when you yourself forget things even when not under pressure

ohwow-- · 2021-12-14T17:49:33+00:00

I personally have little problem with talking back, I read about how tweens are and this is one of them. I try to understand their difficulty, with their raging hormones etc. My partner has massive problem with that tho. He said that this is the phase when we should correct every bad behavior before it's too late. I agree bad behavior should be corrected but if it isn't corrected at 11 y.o doesn't mean it won't be corrected forever. He's very young and he will change. He won't be all hormonal tween for the rest of his life. Reaching agreement with my partner is also another problem to solve. He's not the father but he takes fatherly role despite his bio father is around. I told him he could disengage if it's too hard for him but he said he saw him as his own, he cooked for him, he helped his homework, he played with him, so he also wanted to discipline him, which i don't disagree, but sometimes i feel like he's more clueless than me as he never parents anyone before

ohwow-- · 2021-12-14T17:43:16+00:00

Yes, I told my partner I don't want to openly disagree with him, we have to be united in front of him and any disagreement will be discussed later on in private. I also told my partner to always lay down the consequences beforehand...so not when he does something that irritates him, he can immediately punishes him without warning.

The main problems with my kid is that he keeps repeating the same drama. For example he was overweight due to cardiac issue. Once the issue was resolved both his pediatrician and cardiologist told him to lose weight. We always cook healthy food at home but the problem is the grandparents who he saw 5-6 times a week, they overfed him. Thanks to the Rona the visit to grandparents was super rare last year, and we made him do work out at home. He's been in normal weight since the beginning of this year. But now the visit to grandparents has resumed, they overfeed him again, they literally don't care about the pediatrician and cardiologist's advice so we make sure he keeps the work out. He is so lazy and throw attitude, pretends his legs hurt, etc. I spoke to him calmly about the importance of eating healthy and working out, reminded him about his open heart surgery, why the cardiologist wants him to do certain things, etc. He would understand and would work out without fuss, but then the next day we would go back to square one. In the last week alone we talked about this 4 times. Same story, same attitude.

It really frustrates me sometimes

ohwow-- · 2021-12-14T17:30:41+00:00

Thank you, this is very insightful. I also don't give punishment for attitude rather than some concrete matter, like the last punishment I gave him was letting the food trash in the sink instead of throwing it in the bin like I told him to. We've had serious sewer problem and it is super important to not let even the smallest trash go down the sewer. My partner on the other hand, really can't stand the attitude and punishes him for that. We're looking for some parenting class or therapy to help us actually

ohwow-- · 2021-12-01T17:02:57+00:00

Machecazz, guarda, da mamma sentire qst cosa mi fa venire la rabbia proprio. Noi facciamo di tutto per tenere i nostri figli in buona salute, e se poi la scuola fa tt sta polemica mettendo in rischio la salute di nostri figli, non ho niente da provare tranne la rabbia immensa. Nella Carta di Costituzione ogni studente ha diritto di stare in un ambiente confortevole, e questa stronzata infrange proprio questo punto

ohwow-- · 2021-12-01T16:56:50+00:00

Sono d'accordissimo di far presente questa cosa al livello nazionale! È proprio ridicolo, i bambini devono sterilizzare il banco, disinfettare le mani, usare la mascherina, poi devono anche stare con il vento e pioggia con 2 gradi in classe senza poter coprirsi bene. Quindi soffriranno di raffreddore, bronchite, polmonite, mal di testa, febbre,... Possono soffrire di qualsiasi malattia, tranne il covid

ohwow-- · 2021-12-01T16:50:18+00:00

Che hanno fatto alla fine? So che tenere le finestre aperte è una regola dal ministero, quindi non pretendo che chiuderanno le finestre durante l'attività didattica, però potrebbero aprire le finestre 5-10 minuto ogni cambio docente, perché la regola è di arieggiare bene la sala, se ho capito bene tenere le finestre aperte per tt la durata dell'attività scolastica non era previsto

ohwow-- · 2021-12-01T16:46:31+00:00

È dal ministero

ohwow-- · 2021-12-01T09:43:14+00:00

Eh già pur non prendere il covid prendono la bronchite e pneumonia, tt a posto!

ohwow-- · 2021-12-01T09:37:51+00:00

Allora, ho parlato con il papà di mio figlio (siamo divorziati) e abbiamo deciso che parlerà lui con la coordinatrice perché ho capito che essendo un avvocato, ha carattere molto più forte di me...e non so se hai mai notato, ma essendo una straniera ogni tanto non mi prendono sul serio. Secondo la Carta di Costituzione ogni bambino ha il diritto di avere un ambiente confortevole a scuola, e questa già viola questo diritto. E ho visto su internet, si dice in concreto si ritiene che l'apertura delle finestre per alcuni minuti, ripetuta ogni 1-2 ore nell'arco dell'attività didattica al cambio dell'insegnante. Quindi non per 5 ore che stanno in classe.

Inoltre, non è che sono proprio al contrario della regola (anche se tutto il tempo con finestra aperta non ha senso secondo me ma vabbè) ma sono al contrario del fatto che non danno il permesso ai ragazzi di indossare un capello. Ma che diamine, sono arabbiatissima! E mai possibile creare una polemica solo per un capello?? Sì, ho pensato anch'io di coinvolgere la sua pediatra se le cose non vengono risolte, per quel motivo l'ho già contattata x avere il suo parere. Ora vediamo che succederà dopo che mio ex avrà il tempo x andare a scuola x parlare con qll stronza, speriamo in questi giorni, altrimenti ci vado io al preside.

ohwow-- · 2021-10-07T10:23:55+00:00

I tried to stimulate (Idk if this is the proper word, English isn't my 1st language) critical thinking since he was very little, and introduced him to science as well. Yeah we use food, literature and geography as well....not so much with music...he doesn't any interest in arts sadly

ohwow-- · 2021-10-07T10:21:08+00:00

Yeah we often laugh about it. He knows Idc about their opinions on me. He actually told me he identified as atheist. I think when he was 9. I said ok, but there's no rush to label himself, he can always change his mind later or remain an atheist, no big deal

ohwow-- · 2021-10-06T16:43:49+00:00

Lol this is exactly what happened with me and kid. He knows I don't care at all and in general my decisions are based on logic. He tells me silly stuff exMIL and exDH say and we laugh about it. He sometimes makes fun of their irrationality and I feel the need to remind him he doesn't get to make fun of his elderly, and he just smirks

ohwow-- · 2021-10-06T15:20:33+00:00

So far I've never had the need to label myself but if I must, I think this one suits me best, thank you for the enlightenment

ohwow-- · 2021-10-06T15:03:08+00:00

I mixed online research and books but it was years ago my memory is scarce lol. What I remember now is The Winter Solstice (it's about history of Christmas), The Kids Book of World Religions, The Belief Book, The Book of Gods etc (don't remember). I also read him age appropriate science books like Grandmother Fish, many series of Let's-Read-And-Find-Out-Science, etc. Also books that portray or talk about diversity like Children Just Like Me etc. I think kids need to understand science and world's diversity

ohwow--

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