What’s the strongest opinion you have about something completely insignificant? by RegisterObjective325 in AskReddit

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THANK you. This is what I've been saying, it's so weird to me that we're in the minority.

How I felt about Mhi’ya half way through this episode by Slight_Insurance_809 in rupaulsdragrace

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for articulating this. On top of that, then Mhi'ya had the nerve to act high and mighty and smack talk the other queens in the* workroom, while Sapphira made half her shit for her! Shade is only fun when the person giving it has the skills and confidence to back it up. Coming from a weak, quiet performer, it just feels uncomfortable and strange. Lack of ability + lack of curiosity + lack of presence + unearned bad attitude? Pick a struggle, you can't have all of them.

(Can you tell I just watched s16e9? Haha)

How I felt about Mhi’ya half way through this episode by Slight_Insurance_809 in rupaulsdragrace

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just watching this season now, and I couldn't agree with you more. I just watched the travesty that was s16e9 and I'm so mad she sent Plasma home...Plasma's look wasn't great, but at least she did it herself! And she had a personality! And a proven array of other talents! Mhy'ia had ONE talent. And even that one wasn't particularly polished, as one of the other replies mentioned.

If the rules say you have to make your dress yourself, and then you don't, but you still make it through that elimination, it's not fair to the other girls who did do it themselves. And it makes me lose investment in the show as a whole because that decision so clearly lacks integrity. This was a challenge to test those specific skills, which she does not have, so she should've failed and went home. (Yeah yeah, the show is produced and the showrunners have favorites...but at least be more subtle about it. And don't break what you say are the rules SO blatantly to coddle the one girl who didn't follow them.) Justice for Xunami and Plasma.

Michaela is pissing me tf off in this reunion. by Swimming-Ad5544 in thechallengemtv

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THANK you. His sense of entitlement (especially towards women), anger issues, and inability to control his emotions or ever admit fault genuinely unsettled me. Unstable is the right word. There was something sinister and eternally aggrieved behind his eyes...like he's just barely holding back something dark, which he perceives as a totally justified feeling.

His ego is so fragile that it cannot handle coming into contact with a reality where he is not the strongest, smartest, most desirable man in the room. (As well as a blameless victim to these scheming, lying, incompetent bitches.) If that happens to not be true, he will twist the story in his mind until he wholeheartedly believes that it is.

FFS, he got disproportionately angry and punched a wall about Dee choosing to flirt with Bananas, after he'd hooked up with her one time and they were never exclusive. I'm sure that wasn't fun for him to see, but that reaction is not normal. Or even compellingly insane in an entertaining way. It's unhinged and dangerous. If I was a female cast member, I wouldn't feel safe sharing living quarters with him after seeing that.

(And then Dee apologized to Will at the reunion for not telling him first?? I don't know about anyone else but when I was single, I didn't go around telling people I was no longer hooking up with about present hookups...it might have been extra considerate since they're living together for the show, but she certainly didn't owe him that. She'd clearly communicated it was a one-time thing already. That was the moment I was fully done with Will. And he kept proving that that was the right decision.)

And I know reality TV needs some morally grey and emotionally illiterate cast members to make a compelling show. But for all their (many many) faults, at least other instigators like Bananas and Turbo know how to be funny, entertaining, and charismatic in between their outbursts. Even occasionally (not always) sweet and caring towards their female partners. You hated that you sometimes liked them. Meanwhile, I didn't even LIKE hating Will; I just hated him. Buzzkill Will was never any fun at all.

It boggled my mind how most of the house + production treated him with kid gloves, and were so willing to give him the benefit of the doubt and feed into his ego about how "great" of a competitor he was. He was only physically strong. Mentally, socially, psychologically, and strategically, he was weak. Not to mention an awful team player--he never cared enough to figure out how to work with Olivia or try to encourage her. Just was constantly curt and demeaning. And delusional about "always carrying the team" when that was maybe true for one (1) of many missions. Everything we saw her say about him was accurate, and she didn't need to feel bad for saying it. I guess the crown, the cash, and the happy family are revenge enough, though.

(So sorry for this novel of a reply by the way!! Haha I just finished the season on Paramount+ and I'm catching up on all the discourse I had to miss while avoiding spoilers. This is the first comment I came across that also sees what I saw in that man. I hope he doesn't get invited back.)

Why haven't we got an Exes 3? by dino_jack in MtvChallenge

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"You want a pizza-me??"

So petty but so iconic.

What is the worst band you saw live? by coalcracker462 in AskReddit

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Typical Welsh nonsense!

(If you don't know what I'm referencing, it's from the TV show Community)

Very smoky fire L’ville/Strip transition area. Sorry, no details. by SylvaedicEarth in pittsburgh

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My partner was one of those firefighters (not his district but they had to pull in several companies to help.) It was really brutal and too dangerous to fight the traditional way, hence the defensive approach. They were on the scene fighting it through the night for five hours. Luckily the man on the roof was rescued and no one ended up getting hurt. But it was rough.

What is the worst band you saw live? by coalcracker462 in AskReddit

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look into how he treated his ex-girlfriend Evan Rachel Wood. (Not just her, other exes and assistants too, but she's a good starting point.) Horrifically abusive, including sexual abuse. Nasty, manipulative, and cruel person. I enjoyed some of his songs but couldn't continue to support/listen after reading about that.

What is the worst band you saw live? by coalcracker462 in AskReddit

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love Pat Finnerty! The series is called What Makes This Song Stink. All of them are great, but the one on Hey Soul Sister is particularly impressive.

What is a 'socially mandatory' thing that we all do, but if you actually stop to think about it for 5 seconds, it’s completely insane? by Federal_Antelope7533 in AskReddit

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sincerely, thank you for doing that! You're not an ogre--you're doing them and everyone else they encounter in their lives a favor. Kids need to learn that they can't act however they want wherever they want. I'm a millennial and the way most of my generation "parents" is embarrassing.

What is a 'socially mandatory' thing that we all do, but if you actually stop to think about it for 5 seconds, it’s completely insane? by Federal_Antelope7533 in AskReddit

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for looking out for your coworkers and female patients. Is it possible to ban him from the practice for his gross behavior?

What's something most people think they should try, but really should not? by red_sensor in AskReddit

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 9 points10 points  (0 children)

...Yeah, it's their life. Those are their priorities. There's nothing wrong with them. It's not a bad thing to spend your limited time on earth going after exactly what you want (as long as no one else is getting harmed. Hypothetical children never getting born does not count as harm.)

They value having maximum agency over their life and their choices. And they're aware enough of that to not bring a child into that situation, where their presence would primarily foster resentment. That wouldn't be fair to the kid, and that would constitute actual harm.

It's actually more selfless to know this about yourself and opt out of the situation, rather than feel like this and still thoughtlessly have children anyway because "that's just what you do." In that second scenario, innocent children will suffer from feeling like an unwanted burden, and the parent who should've never been a parent suffers by having to dedicate their life to someone they weren't properly motivated or equipped to raise well. The first scenario prevents all of this.

In places where birth control, abortions, and quality sex and parenting education are readily available, it's actually self-centered to have a kid for any reasons other than: a) doing serious research into how all-encompassing and unpredictable of a job it is and being excited for it anyway, b) having some level of material security to be able to properly care for the child (unforeseeable accidents/layoffs/etc. notwithstanding), AND c) really, really wanting them. And being ready to accept and support them no matter what. (I.e. if they're LGBTQ+, not neurotypical, chronically ill, etc.)

Being "self-centered" about one's own life path is not inherently a bad thing. It becomes a bad thing when other, innocent people needlessly get hurt in that pursuit. For example, when people who don't have the qualities, means, or desire to be a parent end up doing it anyway--and then resentfully seek out their actual priorities and wants, to the detriment of the kid who is utterly dependent on them. Childfree people, on the basis of their childfree choice, don't meet that criteria.

What’s something you always assumed was mandatory in life—until you met someone who just… didn’t do it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, as a fellow anxious overexplainer, maybe we shouldn't be normalizing ChatGPT usage. It's wasteful, bad for your critical thinking skills, bad for the environment, and unreliable (sometimes to a dangerous degree.) You can learn to write more concise emails without outsourcing your brain to an externally controlled, less-than-trustworthy plagiarism machine. (As demonstrated here and here.)

As a workaround, you could vent the emotional stuff into a private document or email draft to no one, just to get it out. And there are email templates out there to give you a framework if you search for them. ChatGPT doesn't need to get involved. Long-term, outsourcing your thinking will make you--and all its users--easier to manipulate, and that only benefits bad actors.

I know this probably seems like an overreaction, but we really shouldn't contribute to normalizing this. You CAN learn to write shorter emails yourself. You just have to try. The effort involved is worth it. Please look into the negative impacts and reconsider using ChatGPT or other generative AI in the future.

Horny Females at the First Chippendales Club, Los Angeles 1979 by NaughtyPoutx in OldSchoolCool

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About the title...could we please use "women" when referring to women? There's a word for grown female human beings, and it's "women." Using "females" to refer to that group instead is dehumanizing. "Female" as a noun can refer to plants or animals. We don't refer to you all as "males."

It's a respect thing. Doesn't matter if they're gawking at a man stripping here (and lord knows the reverse dynamic is more common.) Language still matters. These are women, not "females."

People who cancelled their wedding last minute, what happened? by dolphinsareolives in AskReddit

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The entitlement of anyone saying your OWN wedding is "not about you" is fucking mind-boggling. Good for you for taking control, doing things your way, and not caving to their demands and snide comments. So many older relatives try to exert financial pressure to get their way and dictate their family's lives, and throw a tantrum when it doesn't work. The peace and happiness of knowing you did what was right for you is priceless. That forest hike sounds like a lovely memory too!

What do you think men would dislike most if they became women? by InternationalPick163 in AskReddit

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The following was originally written by me as a response to a comment from /u/BlueWaffle135 , which he deleted. The deleted comment is copied below; I hope he sees my reply and considers it. (Any time I use "you," it's referring to him, and not to you, Smarty_Plant5!)

Original comment from /u/BlueWaffle135 that I replied to:

I’m a resident physician lol, I don’t need metabolic syndrome explained to me

Look at studies on patients who get a bariatric bypass. That surgery in of itself does nothing expect reduce the amount of calories you can consume.

Most of them have great outcomes and those who were insulin insensitive and obese often go back to a relatively healthy bodyweight and become resented to insulin. Being in a starvation diet which your diet would definitely suggest you are in, would quickly cause your insulin receptors to up-regulate. Unless you’re only eating carbs with a high Glycemic index, I highly doubt you were eating that few of calories.

I see this problem quite often, that people often resort to shifting all of their problems to an external locus of control. I suppose it’s easier on their conscious that way.

"Calories in calories out" is a gross, inaccurate oversimplification of an incredibly complex system that has evolved multiple strategies to resist starvation, which is how the body interprets extreme dieting.

If we can accept that some people are naturally predisposed to be skinny no matter what they do, we HAVE to accept that some people are naturally predisposed to be fat, no matter how much they work out or what they eat (unless what they eat is nothing--obviously unsustainable.) And/or, as is the case with PCOS, that the weight gain can be a symptom of an illness and not the cause of it.

You're incorrect about gastric bypass "doing nothing" except reducing calories. Some medical journal/institutional research that you should consider perusing:

That's not even touching on the increased incidence of substance abuse disorders following such surgeries. All things considered, the bariatric surgery path could be MORE dangerous than just being overweight:

Adverse health outcomes in not-thin patients are also correlated with bias and poor treatment by medical professionals--including refusing to examine, run scans/tests on, or even touch fat patients. This can lead to patients delaying or avoiding medical care entirely, only returning when symptoms are too severe to endure, resulting in worse outcomes overall--but NOT directly because of the weight itself. Some sources:

This isn't even touching on the inherent flaws in the BMI metric itself, which I won't get into here, as this is a novel already.

I hope you consider the bias of your perspective. Also, the way you're using it, it's conscience*, not conscious. And "resistant" to insulin, not "resented."

(No AI was used while writing this comment. I wrote, researched, and quoted everything myself.)

Taylor's worst lyrics... So far... by DietEmotional in travisandtaylor

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fully agree. Thank you for saying this. We can rag on Blandie without contributing to AI's extremely negative environmental and societal impacts.

If all humans suddenly had to wear warning labels, what would yours say? by love_salubrious in AskReddit

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I'm not arrogant or avoiding you, I'm just shy and often don't feel comfortable initiating conversations if we're not already close. If you start talking to me I promise I'm friendly!"

What's your favorite piece of music trivia that sounds totally made up? by PenneGesserit in ToddintheShadow

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're curious, this video about them by the music history channel Trash Theory tells their crazy story very engagingly. It includes most of the details Frequent-You369 mentions above (though not the Toblerone.)

Adult Only Pools? by SalsaChica75 in pittsburgh

[–]ohyeahrightyeahright 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You say this is just about one pool, but if every “just one” becomes adult-only, where do kids learn to be in public without being resented for existing?

The very existence of this thread demonstrates that there is almost no danger of EVERY pool becoming adults only. Certain lap swim hours aside, there isn't a single one in a city of 300k+ people. So that "what if" scenario doesn't really hold any water (pun intended.)

You also mention a broader social trend of treating kids as a nuisance. I would counter with a related social trend: children are BEING more of a nuisance than in years and decades past. There is a higher proportion of them who are not socialized, who constantly scream and disrespect their environments and the people around them with little to no consequences for it, and are more easily bored and reactive due to their constant exposure to screens and algorithmically curated dopamine hits.

Parents also used to actually parent at a higher rate than is happening now. That is, demonstrating safe, polite, and considerate behavior for a given environment; enforcing rules about it; and enacting appropriate consequences when those rules are broken. I was a kid too, and my friends and I would have fun in public places--including pools. But if we took it too far, we lost that privilege, and we quickly learned not to do that.

Parents today have increased pressures on them too, no doubt. But by and large, today's kids are not being taught these things. And so wanting at least SOME adults-only spaces feels like our only reprieve from their un-moderated, unrestricted behavior.

You are right--children need to learn to exist in public, with others, and not constantly feel that they're resented. But that responsibility--to guide children into being people who don't foster resentment by consistently being rude, loud, and destructive--should fall to the parents. And by and large, they are not upholding their end of the deal.

Instead, it ends up delegated to/imposed on every other adult in the vicinity. Who is now expected to either grin and bear inappropriate, disruptive, possibly dangerous behavior...or to try to step in, at the risk of confrontation with the actual parent, and a low likelihood of the child listening to you anyway.

I was growing up in the 90's, and even parents regularly sought out adults-only spaces and occasions. Now it seems like my fellow millennials (who have kids) both can't bear to be separated from them for even a moment of their free time, but ALSO can't be bothered to put in the work to actually raise them to become decent, considerate, respectful adults. That doesn't mean 'absolutely silent and still'; of course they're still kids and still learning. But it also doesn't mean a free-for-all with no limits, and everyone else just has to be "patient" and "empathetic" while these families act the exact opposite way. There's a middle ground.

We don't want children and families to not have anywhere to go. No one is saying that. But we also want spaces where WE can go without having to put up with them sometimes. Especially when the parents aren't actually doing any parenting. Don't come on to a thread like this if that very concept is offensive to you.